Chris Wilkins Therapy and Consulting

07/22/2025

So often healing isn’t found in breakthroughs or big moments, but in the simple ones.

Walking barefoot in the grass.
The smell of sunscreen and fresh air.
A popsicle on the porch.
Lying in the sun, eyes closed, nowhere to be.
Just listening to the trees, the birds, the earth.

These are the moments that reset our nervous systems and whisper safety to our inner child.
You don’t have to earn peace. You just have to notice it. Please: notice it.

Let the simple things be enough today.

07/20/2025

07/17/2025

Loving others... deeply, fiercely, without condition... doesn’t mean allowing yourself to be mistreated, disrespected, or emotionally depleted. Boundaries are not walls, they are doors that say “I love you and I love me too.”

You can hold compassion in one hand and self-respect in the other.
You can forgive someone and still choose distance. (Think: forgive don't forget, maybe)
You can be kind and loving and considerate and still say no.

This is not selfish. This is self-honoring.
And this is your permission to advocate for your peace, your needs, and your worth, boldly and without apology.

You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to choose you.
That is love, too.

So love, unconditionally.

07/09/2025

Sometimes we don’t need advice.
We don’t need a solution.
We don’t need to debate or be told we’re wrong.

We just need to be understood.

To have someone look at us, not through us.
To hear us, not correct us.
To feel what we’re feeling, not fix it.

So much of our pain deepens when our emotions are dismissed, minimized, or met with defensiveness.
We’re not always looking for agreement.
We’re looking for validation.
For someone to say, “I get why you feel that way.”
Even if they wouldn’t feel the same.
Read that one again. We can validate and understand without agreeing!

To be seen is healing.
To be heard is safety.
To be understood is connection.

And sometimes, that connection is all we’re really asking for.

06/29/2025

Um, we do need attention. There are different kinds of and sources of attention, however.

We all want to feel seen, safe, and loved. Especially when we’re young — attention isn’t vanity, it’s survival. It’s how we learn we matter.

But here's the deeper truth:
If we don’t receive healthy attention, we’ll seek any attention. And that’s where things can go sideways.

We act out.
We post for validation.
We overachieve, overfunction, or overexpose ourselves.
We even shrink and people-please just to avoid rejection.

The problem isn’t that we need attention — the problem is where we go looking for it when we don’t feel worthy on our own.

So here’s your reminder:
You are allowed to need connection.
You are allowed to need love.
You are allowed to want to be noticed.

Just be mindful of the places you go to feel it.

Real love doesn’t require performance.
True validation doesn’t leave you emptier.
Healing attention doesn’t come with strings.

Let’s raise kids — and grow into adults — who can say “I need love” without shame.
Let’s listen better. Let’s see each other more clearly.
Let’s stop shaming the cry for attention and start answering it with presence.