12/24/2019
Some believe that modern youth is very difficult to educate and, perhaps, they should not be engaged in education at all. And yet we perfectly understand that it is impossible to be able to do what we did not learn. You can’t start playing the guitar without first practicing. If you have not learned to ride a bicycle, then it is unlikely that you will be able to sit on it and immediately go. They study professions for several years in educational institutions. Foreign languages ​​have been studied for years. The issue of upbringing has the same system - it is impossible to socialize in a society without understanding the concept of its construction and not possessing even the most basic knowledge about the norms of behavior in it.
Authoritarian parenting style✊. One of the most common parental errors is balancing on the border between "can" and "not." The word "can not" haunts a child from the very diaper and the idea of ​​the possibilities in the world for this person will be extremely limited. On the other hand, permissiveness. We often meet in public places young mothers with their little children, whose behavior causes a slight shock. Screams, non-stop running, replaced by children's “I want” / “I don't want”, will make you think about methods of educating even the most conservative person. What solution do you ask? Try to switch the child’s attention to something else, with a gradual explanation of the desired behavior in a given situation. Do not prohibit everything, as well as go "on the occasion" of your little child - child manipulation has tremendous power, and the consequences of such education can be irreversible.
Habit is second nature. From childhood, try to instill in your child a desire to wake up at the same time. Do light exercise. Follow the rules of the morning toilet and, of course, do not forget to talk about the need to make a bed. Yes - yes - yes, I know, you yourself can sin by the last item on our list. But I think, for the sake of your child, you will succeed in overpowering your own laziness and become an example for a child.
A good relative is a bad relative🤞. This problem of education is found in 80% of families and resembles the plots of American films, in which there are always a good and bad cop. The rule is simple, but very important: all relatives - grandparents, aunts, uncles must adhere to the same line of education. If parents say that it is necessary to go to bed at 9 p.m. in order to be full of strength in the morning and ready for new victories at school, then the grandmother, who gladly received her long-awaited grandchildren, should adhere to the same rules of the game. Otherwise, the child will not be able to form an opinion about what is possible and what cannot be, and he will adapt to the situation by listening to the parent whose point of view will seem most convenient to him.
Do as I sayđź‘…. I am sure that each of us experienced a similar method of education on our own skin. Extremely painful and controversial, but at the same time, it is we who continue to raise our children in the same manner. Of course, it is assumed that the educator (that is, we) has a broader and deeper understanding of the issue. It should be so. But the children of the 21st century, in any case, understand differently, which does not mean wrong at all. They can tell how they understand. And you need to ask them about it. Before you learn, and even worse, go into a dispute, ask the child what he already knows about this issue. Will he be able to apply his knowledge, to direct it, so to speak, in the right direction. Ask to tell him about it, listen and try to understand. Show your concern and interest, not just the desire to dominate the situation. After that, you can tell him more, then it will be information expanding his understanding, and not forcing someone else's point of view.
Feeling of love❤️. It is feeling, not duty. Love is not money allocated on the iPhone or any other things related to material wealth. Love is not indulging his desires. Love is attention, care, education. Love should educate and help a growing person, but not the other way around. How to love a child? So as not to harm him. In addition to basic needs, a child has needs of a higher level - the need for respect, love and a sense of security.
