Desired Lives Wellness

Desired Lives Wellness I help women impacted by a loved one’s addiction shift from survival mode to personal growth.

Coaching, community & real conversations for women ready to choose themselves.

Sunday Scroll. Which one did you need?
07/27/2025

Sunday Scroll. Which one did you need?

Stand tall with your head held high. This world needs women who shine their light bright so others who are trying to fin...
07/11/2025

Stand tall with your head held high. This world needs women who shine their light bright so others who are trying to find their way can see the trail.

Story time…When I first heard my counselor say these words, I was pi**ed:“It’s not about you.”I genuinely felt like my (...
07/08/2025

Story time…

When I first heard my counselor say these words, I was pi**ed:

“It’s not about you.”

I genuinely felt like my (ex) spouse had done so many things that any normal person would agree were about me.

But I trusted my counselor, and I was desperate to feel better. So I did something radical…

I called my mom and asked her to call me every day for two weeks and say those words when I answered:
“It’s not about you.”

And she did.
And I started to believe it.
And it made space for new ideas.

I reflect on that moment often.

I could’ve ignored those words and stayed stuck.
I could’ve clung to my victimhood and spiraled in stress and fear.

But I didn’t.
Because something inside me was ready.

➡Personal freedom starts the moment we stop taking things so personally. Most people are just trying to survive their own stuff. They’re not thinking about you. And when addiction is in the mix? You are not the priority—the drug is.

So stop trying to matter to the disease.

You matter to YOU.
You can choose peace.
You can create a new story.
You can get free.

Healing like this isn’t easy, but I’m living proof it’s worth it.

Our next local meet up is TONIGHT, July 3rd at 6pm PST at The. Supper club off Northwest Blvd., Spokane,WA. This member...
07/03/2025

Our next local meet up is TONIGHT, July 3rd at 6pm PST at The. Supper club off Northwest Blvd., Spokane,WA.

This membership-based mastermind/coaching support group is a game changer for women seeking a non-traditional space for recovery from the codependent patterns that emerge when you love (or loved) someone with addiction struggles.

We meet locally once a month and have a 24/7 online support group with weekly coaching, workshop opportunities, and dedicated support.

First meet-up is always free. ♥

Perfectionism isn’t the root. It’s the armor. It showed up to protect that little girl in you who thought:• “If I just ...
07/03/2025

Perfectionism isn’t the root.
It’s the armor.

It showed up to protect that little girl in you who thought:

• “If I just explain it better, they’ll see me.”
• “If I just do it right, they’ll stay.”
• “If I show up perfectly, I won’t be left again.”

But here’s what your wiser self knows:

You don’t need to explain yourself to be valid.
You don’t need to perfect the message to be worthy.
You don’t need to carry another’s choices as a reflection of your value.

You’re not being misunderstood now.
You’re speaking from clarity.

And if someone doesn’t get it now? That’s not rejection. That’s just resonance sorting itself out.

I used to let my emotions run the show.I’d spin in my mind, trying to control everything—while totally disconnected from...
06/30/2025

I used to let my emotions run the show.

I’d spin in my mind, trying to control everything—while totally disconnected from my body, from the earth, from my self.

When I stopped obsessing over how others would react to decisions I was making about my life, something shifted.

It didn’t happen overnight.
At first, it was just an intention:
- To stop overthinking.
- To ground.
- To believe I was allowed to rest.

Now? It’s who I am.

•I’m someone who believes I can come back to myself when I feel overwhelmed.
•I believe I’m worthy of rest and play.
• I believe I can choose the thoughts that help me grow—not the ones that hold me back.

These beliefs didn’t just appear.
They took time.
They took effort.
But aren’t we worth that same time and effort we so freely give to others?

I say yes.

👉 If you’re with me, drop a “YES” in the comments.

Our next Healing & Growth Circle gathering is this Thursday, July 3.

If you’re ready to ground, grow, and reconnect with your own truth, DM me “CIRCLE” and I’ll send you the details.
You don’t have to figure it all out alone.

I tried telling family members—but they shut me down.Looking back, I can see their discomfort and lack of understanding ...
06/24/2025

I tried telling family members—but they shut me down.

Looking back, I can see their discomfort and lack of understanding about addiction made them unsafe people to share my truth with.

What most women want in these situations is simple:

✨ To be heard.
✨ To feel validated.
✨ To know they’re not crazy.

But the hard truth? Family is often the least likely to offer that kind of support.

That’s exactly why I created The Healing & Growth Circle—a coaching-based support group that blends community, personal development, and deep emotional clarity.

It’s part support group, part mastermind.

A place to be honest about what you’re facing.

And a place to grow beyond it.

If you’re living with or loving someone battling addiction, this space is for you.

Because the people closest to you might not be able to help…
But we will.

Ready to let go of the stress and finally focus on yourself?

Drop a “Circle” in the comments and I’ll reach out 💛










I got the best compliment yesterday:Someone told me I have a great spirit. 🥹✨It made me pause… because I believe I’ve al...
06/23/2025

I got the best compliment yesterday:
Someone told me I have a great spirit. 🥹✨

It made me pause… because I believe I’ve always had a great spirit.

We all do. But I also believe mine was stifled for a long time.

That decade I lost myself to my (ex) husband’s addiction…

I was living at my lowest energy levels—hopeless, stuck in victimhood, depressed, just trying to survive.

I wasn’t radiating anything light. I didn’t even believe that was possible.

But one small thing changed everything:
I started to believe it could be possible.

That belief sparked enough curiosity to begin my journey back to me.

To be seen today as someone who radiates warmth and light—who makes others feel good just by being present?

😭😭😭 What an incredible full-circle moment.

If you’re in that place I was of wondering if you’ll ever feel light again—just know: possibility is a powerful beginning.

That’s what we explore inside the Healing & Growth Circle. Link in bio.

Headed into the weekend with peace, purpose, and momentum.This is your reminder: You don’t have to have it all figured o...
06/20/2025

Headed into the weekend with peace, purpose, and momentum.

This is your reminder: You don’t have to have it all figured out to begin.

Action precedes clarity.

Healing & Growth Circle is open—link in bio or DM me ‘CIRCLE’ to learn more.”

Today is Juneteenth — Freedom Day.A day to honor the strength and resilience of the Black community.A day to reflect on ...
06/19/2025

Today is Juneteenth — Freedom Day.

A day to honor the strength and resilience of the Black community.

A day to reflect on how far we've come and how far we still have to go.

I’m committed to listening, learning, and doing better. Always. 🖤

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