08/29/2025
Authentic alignment always begins with truth.
If you’re feeling confused, resentful, or drained, that’s often a sign you’re clinging to what you wish were true—while avoiding what actually is.
Sometimes, the most self-loving thing we can do is face the truth we’ve been running from.
There was one truth I resisted for a long time.
But when I finally accepted it, a huge transformation took place.
My sense of power returned. My patterns changed. And I began to heal some of the most painful dynamics I’d ever known in relationships.
Here it is:
Anyone can mistreat me once—no matter how deeply I love and respect myself.
But no one can continue to mistreat me and still have access to me… unless I don’t.
That was challenging to admit.
But the deeper truth is this:
No one can lie to me over and over and stay in my life… unless I’m willing to lie to myself.
No one can chronically neglect me and remain a priority to me… unless I’m willing to abandon my own needs.
No one can keep disrespecting me and still enjoy closeness with me… unless I’m open to disrespecting myself.
The quality of my relationship with myself sets the tone for what I allow into my life and how much of my time, energy and attention I’m willing to invest in someone or something.
This isn’t about self-blame. It’s about self-responsibility.
It’s about boundaries.
It’s about empowerment.
It’s about rooting deeply into my worth and refusing to tolerate anything less than what honors it.
Because when I truly value myself, the access I grant others will always be balanced with the level of care and responsibility they show for my wellbeing.
That’s what authentic alignment looks like:
Truth → Self-honoring → Real Love.
It’s not always easy.
But it is the way out of disempowerment.
✍️ This week’s Question for the Soul:
Where in your life are you frustrated by someone’s behavior, yet still tolerating what clearly misaligns with your standards? What would it look like to fully commit to your own standards first?
From Dara Mud coaching
