04/04/2025
One of my heroes, Dr. Ralph Feigin, would've been 87 today. And every year on this day, I am flooded with all the memories I have with him, all the stories passed down, the legacy of this man, this myth, this legend, the Godfather of Pediatrics, who touched countless lives around the world. In his last graduation speech before he passed, he said: "The child is someone with a heart and soul. Compassion and concern may seem outmoded in this age of modern medicine, but I can tell you from my own experience, in my own disease, that it has done nothing more than confirm to me the power of the human touch and proven that you must be more about caring than about curing. You cannot care for the patient well if you don't truly care FOR the patient." I can't believe how incredibly prescient his words were for the challenges medicine is facing now in these AI and technology-driven times we now find ourselves in and how easy it is to fall into the abyss of disconnection. Doctor's Day was a few days ago and it comes at a time when our profession sometimes feels like it's at its lowest -- burnout is through the roof, our autonomy, creativity, innovation, advancement, and growth often feels like it is being suppressed. In short, we feel undervalued and unappreciated in our crumbling and broken healthcare system. In times like these, I still, to this day, often say to myself "WWFD" -- What Would (Dr.) Feigin Do? And just like that, his heart, his wisdom, his light shows me the way.
I left the system to create the environment that would honor the sacred relationship of trust that is at the heart of the doctor-patient relationship. It restored my faith in how I live, love, and serve in the world, and I no longer need validation from anyone else because I value and appreciate who I am and have become as a physician. But the fact of the matter is, I had to focus on my own healing before I could present the best version of myself to my patients.
Dr. Feigin used to say, "If you tell me something is impossible, you can be sure I'm going to do it. That's how I've lived my life."... and now I live by those words, too.
Dr. Feigin, your faith and belief in me and what I could accomplish was astounding and even overwhelming at times, but it pushed me to always strive to work harder, do better, love deeply, live compassionately and humbly, give generously, and climb mountains I didn’t think I could…even to this day. I lived for those moments that you, with your all-knowing wink, toothy grin, and hearty laugh, would look at me with such pride in your twinkling eyes as you gave me the warmest “you did good, kid” kind of hugs…and I am grateful that you generously gave me so many of those memories to cherish. I do my best everyday to continue to live up to all that you wished and dreamed for me, and I often imagine (and hope) that you are looking down upon me and are still proud of the kind of physician (and person) I have become. Happy 87th birthday to a most beloved hero, mentor, and dear friend. I love you and miss you, today and everyday.