ConnectEd Pairs

05/08/2026

When someone dies suddenly how may times do you hear their loved ones say they said and did all they wanted with the deceased? You most likely hear the opposite, that they wish they had said this or done that. It is so important to say the things you want to now, and not wait until later. There may not be a later and then there’s regret that you didn’t when the person was still here. Say the “I love you” you wanted to. Take that trip, and take the time to visit. Discuss those hard to talk about topics. Once that person is gone, it’s easier to grieve in a healthy manner if there isn’t a lot of unfinished business.

05/08/2026

“Devote yourself to your partner’s sense of safety and security and not simply to your idea of what that should be. What makes you feel safe and secure may not be what your partner requires from you”
Stan Tatken

05/06/2026

“Happily ever after simply means that both partners are known, accepted for who they are and who they are becoming. The goal is to be able to love your partner each and every year you are together.
John Gottman

05/05/2026

Do you consider yourself to be resilient?

What resilience does well, and where it does not apply: a careful, research-backed look at the role of resilience in long-term relationships.

05/04/2026

What do you do when you are annoyed with your spouse?

Typically, the marital annoyance is minor, but occasionally, it strikes a bit deeper or lasts a bit longer. What do you do?

05/01/2026

“True love isn’t about being inseparable; it’s about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.”

Unknown

04/30/2026

We hear about boundaries a lot; it seems to be a catch phrase lately. However, they really are important in any relationship. The “Karen” phase shows how people can be without boundaries. Sometimes it’s a bit extreme but there are those who did not grow up with boundaries and carry this into adulthood. Boundaries start with young children. Learning to knock before entering a sibling’s room. Being taught what is not ok to say and how to treat people appropriately. Another example of boundary setting is learning to say no if you don’t want to do something. No explanation needed, just no. Doing something when you don’t really want to can grow into resentment. Resentment causes problems in relationships. Practice saying no to yourself in the mirror!

04/29/2026

“A healthy relationship is a feast of affection/giving for both people; not one receiving crumbs and trying to convince themselves that it’s ok. “
Shannon Thomas

04/28/2026

Do you slow down to see what life is trying to show you?

A single parent, Don had recently moved to a small town in the middle of nowhere after finishing raising his daughter and finding himself in an empty nest. He had met some new people there. Things evolved. He was a contractor. One of the people he met was remodeling a house; he end

04/27/2026

What would you add to this list?

04/24/2026

Here is a link to a playlist on Spotify for National Infertility Awareness Week. Thank you for helping spread awareness this past week.

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/52ueWdsVImhop08UrFNuf8