12/03/2025
Gifted. This season is full of it: performances, sacred services, gift exchanges, food giveaways, card sharing, and donations. Each of these involve the act of giving and receiving. These are acts of catch and release,infused with the warmth of unconditional regard.
Giving and receiving can feel like complicated exchanges. It can feel perfunctory, obligatory or rote. It can feel like there are expectations packed inside the response anticipated from us. Sometimes we rally to show up for the moment, engage with the activity to meet the social demands of the encounter, while a large part of ourselves feels empty or despondent inside.
“Christmastime is here. Happiness and cheer. O that we could always have such spirit through the year.” Famous lines from the Charlie Brown soundtrack. But it highlights something very important. It isn’t always happiness and cheer that we are feeling. There is contrast. There is heartache. These are very real for many even in spite of an amplitude of “Holly and Jolly.”
Go bravely into the season with a sensitivity to your own feelings and an allowance for that to waiver and fluctuate and temper those expectations arriving this time of year with permission to feel-