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02/01/2026

GREAT info on co-parenting with a person with bipolar disorder!

⚖️🧠 The Intersection of Psychology and Family Law — Part 6

Bi-Polar Disorder and Co-Parenting: What the Court Actually Cares About

Bi-polar disorder is one of the more challenging mental health conditions that appears in family law cases — particularly in divorce and custody matters.

Bi-polar disorder affects approximately 2–3% of adults in the United States. It is a clinically recognized mood disorder characterized by significant swings between two extremes: mania and depression. The condition has both biological and hereditary components and is driven largely by internal brain chemistry, not willpower.

Being married to — or co-parenting with — a bi-polar individual can be extremely difficult.

During manic phases, individuals may exhibit:
• Impulsive or reckless decision-making
• Periods of over-spending
• Frequent job changes
• Sudden changes to housing or lifestyle
• Increased energy, grandiosity, or irritability

During depressive phases, individuals may exhibit:
• Sleeping for extended periods
• Withdrawal from parenting responsibilities
• Low energy and motivation
• Difficulty maintaining routines or structure

These shifts often result in environmental instability, which is what courts ultimately focus on — not the diagnosis itself.

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Co-Parenting With a Bi-Polar Parent

Co-parenting challenges often depend on which phase the bi-polar parent is experiencing at a given time. Many individuals with bi-polar disorder can experience periods of stability, but it is common for symptoms to re-emerge — either due to triggering events or internal emotional perception.

Key strategies include:

1️⃣ Document everything.
Use a calendar or journal to track parenting time, behavior changes, missed obligations, spending issues, or disruptions to routine. Patterns matter far more than isolated incidents. Specifically, as we mentioned at the beginning of this series, document the impact on the children. Things you observed, things that were said, reasons why this diagnosis impacts and affects your children is key. This may also make you a better parent when you start watching for these things you may notice additional things.

2️⃣ Do not engage in arguments or emotional debates.
Escalation does not improve outcomes and often shifts focus away from the bi-polar parent’s instability and onto the other parent’s reaction. Being the stable parent is key.

3️⃣ Watch for signs of mania or depression — and compensate accordingly.
When the other parent is unstable, the non-bi-polar parent often becomes the stabilizing force. Consistency in schedules, school, meals, and sleep is critical for children. You will need to be the consistent one since your co-parent truly cant.

4️⃣ Be the stable parent.
Children need predictability. When one household fluctuates, the other must remain steady.

5️⃣ Expect cycles — not permanent change.
Bi-polar disorder is cyclical. Periods of improvement do not mean the condition has resolved.

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Treatment and Legal Reality

One of the most common challenges in bi-polar cases is treatment inconsistency. Many individuals stop medication or therapy once symptoms improve, believing they no longer need management. Unfortunately, this often leads to relapse.

From both a psychological and legal perspective:
Consistent medication and ongoing therapy — often cognitive behavioral therapy — are essential, even when the individual feels “better.”

Courts are not focused on labels. They focus on functioning, consistency, and impact on children.

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Legal Strategy in Bi-Polar Custody Cases

When bi-polar disorder affects co-parenting, the most effective legal strategy is pattern-based documentation.

Calendars, journals, school records, employment instability, and repeated disruptions create a narrative courts can evaluate objectively.

Family court does not require perfection.
It requires stability.

And in these cases, the parent who provides it often carries the most credibility.

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02/01/2026

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01/31/2026

GREAT info on co-parenting with someone living with anxiety and depression!

⚖️🧠 The Intersection of Psychology and Family Law — Part 7

Anxiety and Depression in Co-Parenting: What Is Common, Manageable, and Legally Relevant

Anxiety and depression are among the most common mental health conditions in society, and they are frequently discussed together because they often co-occur.

In the United States:
• Anxiety disorders affect approximately 18–20% of adults
• Major depressive disorder affects approximately 8–9% of adults

These conditions are widespread, treatable, and manageable — and, standing alone, they rarely interfere with a parent’s ability to safely and effectively parent.

From a family-law perspective, the focus is not on whether a parent has anxiety or depression.
The focus is on management, stability, and impact on the child.

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Co-Parenting With an Anxious Parent

Anxiety often presents as excessive worry, heightened stress responses, or sensitivity to perceived threats. Many parents with anxiety function extremely well — particularly when they are appropriately treated.

Key considerations:
• Medication is often helpful and commonly prescribed
• There are no standard anxiety medications that prevent someone from parenting
• Some medications can be temporarily sedating, especially during dosage changes
• Triggers may require short recovery periods

Effective co-parenting often involves flexibility during high-stress periods — such as temporarily assisting with child duties — while maintaining overall consistency and structure for the children.

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Co-Parenting With a Depressive Parent

Depression can present as low energy, withdrawal, difficulty with motivation, or emotional flatness. Episodes may be triggered by external events or arise internally due to biological wiring.

Important points:
• Depression has biological and hereditary components
• Medication — particularly SSRIs — is often crucial
• Long-term Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is strongly recommended
• Some individuals benefit significantly from ketamine-assisted therapy, particularly when trauma is involved
• EMDR can be especially helpful when depression and anxiety are trauma-based

Parents with depression may experience ups and downs — and that fluctuation alone does not make someone an unfit parent.

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What Courts Actually Care About

Family courts understand that anxiety and depression are common. What matters is whether the parent is:
• Engaged in treatment
• Taking prescribed medication consistently
• Using appropriate therapeutic support
• Able to meet the child’s daily needs

Well-managed anxiety and depression are not legal liabilities in custody cases. These are not people who are likely to lose custody in a family law case - nor should they, so long as their situation is not severely impacting the child.

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The Practical Reality of Co-Parenting

Co-parenting with an anxious or depressive parent often requires:
• Patience during difficult periods
• Clear communication
• Consistent routines for children
• A shared focus on stability

These conditions are not character flaws. They are medical conditions — and when treated, they are highly compatible with healthy parenting.

Family court does not expect perfection.
It expects responsible management and child-focused behavior.

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01/31/2026

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01/30/2026

GREAT info on co-parenting with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).

⚖️🧠 The Intersection of Psychology and Family Law — Part 5

Co-Parenting With a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Parent

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) presents some of the most challenging dynamics in family law — particularly in custody and co-parenting cases. Understanding what BPD is (and how courts view it) is essential to protecting children and maintaining stability.

Key clinical features of BPD often include:
• High emotional reactivity
• Intense fear of abandonment
• “Splitting” (rapidly shifting between idealizing and devaluing others)
• Unstable interpersonal relationships
• Difficulty regulating emotions
• Projection and externalizing blame

BPD has both environmental and hereditary components, and while estimates vary, it is generally understood to affect approximately 1–2% of the adult population, with some studies suggesting rates as high as 5–6% in clinical settings.

What is increasing is not necessarily BPD itself, but diagnosis, visibility, and symptom amplification, likely influenced by environmental stressors and social-media dynamics. That distinction matters — especially in court.

How BPD Impacts Parenting and Co-Parenting

People with BPD often struggle to maintain long-term relationships. Their internal emotional world is unstable, and that instability eventually affects every close relationship — marriages, friendships, and co-parenting arrangements included.

A hallmark feature of BPD is splitting:
One moment, you are the “good” parent.
The next, you are the enemy — seemingly without warning.

No amount of explanation, reassurance, or reasoning fixes this dynamic, because the problem is not the relationship — it is emotional dysregulation within the individual. Unfortunately, individuals with BPD often project that dysregulation outward, blaming others for their internal distress.

Many individuals with BPD do not acknowledge the diagnosis. As a result, treatment compliance is low, and meaningful change is uncommon when accountability is absent.

The Reality of Co-Parenting With a BPD Parent

Co-parenting with a BPD parent requires rigid structure, extreme consistency, and emotional restraint.

The guiding principles are:

1️⃣ Boundaries and consistency are non-negotiable.
Structure creates safety — for children and for the non-BPD parent.

2️⃣ Do not react emotionally.
Emotional engagement escalates instability and shifts focus to your reaction rather than their behavior.

3️⃣ Communicate clearly, briefly, and in writing.
Text or email (or a parenting app) is essential. Documentation matters. Do not let them drag you in to their turmoil. They will try.

4️⃣ Parent your child — not the disorder.
You continue showing up with stability regardless of the other parent’s behavior.

Example:
Your child has a gymnastics meet.
You notify the other parent by text or email.
You attend. You support your child. You enjoy the moment.

The BPD parent may:
• Become upset
• Disagree
• Create conflict
• Attend — or not attend

That choice is theirs, not yours, and not the child’s.

You do not chase emotional validation.
You do not negotiate feelings.
You keep life predictable and calm for your child.

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The Hard Truth

Co-parenting with a BPD parent often feels like parenting alone — with occasional periods of meaningful contribution. It is a rocky road, and success depends on the non-BPD parent remaining grounded, stable, and consistent in the face of emotional volatility.

Family court does not require perfection.
It rewards predictability, structure, and emotional regulation.

Understanding this reality — and adjusting expectations accordingly — is critical to protecting children and navigating custody litigation successfully.

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01/30/2026

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01/29/2026

Great info if you are co-parenting with a narcissist!

⚖️🧠 The Intersection of Psychology and Family Law — Part 3

Narcissists as Parents: A Common Myth in Custody Cases

One of the most common beliefs I hear in custody cases is this:
“If my ex is a narcissist, they shouldn’t be allowed to be a parent.”

That is simply not how family court works.

In my career, I have never seen a case where a parent was denied a relationship with their child solely because they were labeled a narcissist. Courts do not remove parental rights based on personality traits. They decide cases based on evidence of harm — not diagnoses or character descriptions.

It is also important to understand that Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is rare. Only an estimated 1–6% of adults meet diagnostic criteria.

What is far more common is that people exhibit narcissistic traits, especially during divorce and custody litigation, when conflict, fear, and ego are heightened. That does not make someone legally unfit to parent. But it does make them very difficult to deal with.

This is a hard truth for many parents to accept — but it is a necessary one.

The single most important strategy when co-parenting with a narcissistic individual is this:

Boundaries — not confrontation.

Do not attack the disorder head-on.
Do not label them.
Do not try to expose them.
Do not try to make them change.
No amount of family court litigation will change someone with NPD.

They will not change.

Narcissistic personalities do not respond to insight the way emotionally healthy people do. Direct confrontation almost always escalates conflict — and in custody litigation, escalation often damages the other parent’s case more than it helps.

The winning strategy is behavioral discipline, not psychological warfare.

That means:

• Do not engage emotionally - “Grey Rock Method” is key.
• Keep communication minimal and structured. Do not argue. You wont win
• Maintain firm, consistent boundaries
• Co-parent according to the rules — regardless of what they say or do
• Let your conduct remain steady, calm, and child-focused

This is where many cases are lost.

In court, we are often litigating the reaction to the narcissist’s behavior — not the narcissist’s behavior itself.

That is classic NPD territory. The narcissistic parent provokes chaos, then points to the emotional fallout. Judges frequently see the reaction more clearly than the provocation that caused it. Sad, but true.

Understanding this dynamic is critical.

Family court is not a forum for diagnosing personality disorders.
It is a forum for evaluating parenting behavior and child impact.

And disciplined boundaries — not emotional confrontation — are what protect both your child and your case.

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01/29/2026

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01/28/2026

A phenomenal series on how mental health and diagnoses can affect divorce cases, custody, and other family law matters.

⚖️🧠 The Intersection of Psychology and Family Law — Part 2

Personality Disorders in Custody Cases: What Courts and Clients Often Misunderstand

Mental health diagnoses are frequently weaponized in divorce and custody litigation — especially labels like narcissistic personality disorder, bipolar disorder, or borderline traits.

But courts do not decide cases based on labels. They decide cases based on impact.

Just as with anxiety, PTSD, and depression, a diagnosis alone does not make a parent unfit.
What matters is whether the condition is managed — and whether it is actually affecting the child or the family system.

For example, even if a parent has narcissistic traits, the court cannot rely on that label alone. There must be evidence showing how the behavior directly harms the child or impairs parenting — such as:

• Persistent refusal to co-parent
• Undermining the child’s relationship with the other parent
• Inability to communicate about the child’s needs
• Creating chronic conflict that places the child in the middle

Without this kind of proof, the diagnosis itself carries little legal weight.

The same is true with bipolar disorder. Many individuals with bipolar disorder parent successfully when their condition is properly treated. The legal issue is not the diagnosis — it is whether the symptoms are unmanaged and destabilizing the child’s life.

Relevant evidence might include patterns such as:

• Frequent moves or housing instability
• Repeated job changes affecting financial security
• Multiple school changes for the child
• Chaotic relationships and exposing the child to a revolving door of partners

These behaviors — not the label — are what courts and GAL’s evaluate.

In divorce cases, untreated mental health conditions can also be relevant to the breakdown of the marriage itself. Evidence may include:

• A history of marriage or pastoral counseling
• Repeated conflict at family or social events
• Manic, impulsive, or sabotaging behavior
• Refusal to acknowledge or treat the condition despite its impact on the relationship

Again, the focus is not diagnosis — it is demonstrated effect.

Family court is not a psychological forum. It is an evidence-based one.
And outcomes turn on proof of real-world consequences — not clinical terminology.

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01/28/2026

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01/26/2026

⚖️🧠 The Intersection of Psychology and Family Law — Part 8

Child Diagnoses in Custody Cases: What They Are, What They Aren’t, and What Courts Actually Do

A childhood diagnosis is not a label — it is a clinical opinion based on observed behaviors, testing, and professional judgment at a particular point in time. Diagnoses can be helpful, necessary, and life-changing for children who truly need support. They can also have limitations.

Statistically, a significant percentage of children in the United States carry some diagnosis during childhood. Estimates suggest that roughly 1 in 5 children has a diagnosable mental, emotional, or behavioral condition at some point. That alone does not mean something has gone wrong.

What matters — legally and clinically — is context, accuracy, and follow-through.

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A Pattern We See Frequently in Custody Cases

In many family law cases, especially high-conflict ones, a familiar dynamic emerges:

• One parent recognizes developmental or behavioral concerns
• That parent seeks evaluations, therapy, and treatment
• The other parent denies the diagnosis entirely
• Accusations follow: over-medicating, exaggerating, poor parenting

This dynamic is common — and understandable — but it is also legally risky.

Parents are sometimes so focused on “fixing” their child or making sense of past conflict that they unintentionally adopt a rescuer role, while the child absorbs the identity of “the problem.” This is not about blame. It is about awareness.

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The Most Common Child Diagnoses Seen in Custody Litigation

The diagnoses that most frequently appear in family law cases include:

• ADHD
• Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)
• Conduct Disorders
• Autism Spectrum Disorder / Asperger’s
• Anxiety and Depression
• Mood Disorders
• Emerging Personality Traits

Children with special needs require more parenting, more structure, and significantly more co-parenting coordination. These cases are more demanding — emotionally and logistically — for everyone involved.

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What Courts Actually Do With Child Diagnoses

If a child has been evaluated and diagnosed by a qualified professional, courts defer to professionals.

If a parent intends to challenge a diagnosis, they must do far more than disagree.

That parent must be prepared to:
• Hire qualified experts
• Review records and testing
• Conduct independent evaluations
• Present a well-supported alternative explanation

Hurling accusations without evidence does not work.
It often backfires.

One professional’s diagnosis is still just that — a professional opinion — and opinions have limits. But courts require credible counter-evidence, not speculation or lay-person opinion.

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GAL Appointments and Child Diagnoses

Whenever there are allegations of abuse or neglect involving a child, a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) is often required by statute.

Abuse can be:
• Physical
• Emotional

Neglect can be:
• Failure to provide food or clothing
• Failure to ensure school attendance
• Medical neglect, including refusal to obtain necessary treatment

A GAL is appointed upon motion of either parent.
The legal standard is not whether the allegations are proven — but whether, if taken as true, they would warrant independent investigation.

This is not a discretionary call in many cases.

As an attorney, I will not debate with a client about whether a GAL is required when statutory standards are met. Failing to request a GAL when required is not strategy — it is a serious legal error, and I have seen it cause irreparable damage to cases.