Perfect Love Doula Services

02/13/2026

How beautiful it was to watch this first time mom do so much work then continue to surrender even when very little went according to her plan. Every birth is sacred, even when it looks different than we hoped for.

★★★★★

02/03/2026

It hurts my heart to hear a woman explain her birth story and exclaim, "... And the cord was wrapped around his/her neck!!" All with fear in her voice, as though something dangerous had happened. It's usually in the context of the OB somehow saved the baby's life. It makes me sad for her and makes me angry at the OB. Nuchal cords are not explained in full context. Honestly I think some providers like it (consciously or subconsciously) because the idea is part of a savior complex - this OB had some kind of superpowers and saved the baby from a very common normal event in the eyes of the mother.

This is why women have to be fully informed. That informed consent rarely comes from the provider and must be sought out independently.

A nuchal cord occurs when the umbilical cord wraps around a fetus's neck during pregnancy or labor, a common, usually harmless, and non-preventable occurrence in about 1-in-3 .....33% of deliveries. The cord is protected with is what is called whartons jelly and can withstand much manipulation during pregnancy and birth.

01/16/2026

Last night, just after midnight, mama welcomed her sweet baby girl, born right into Daddy's waiting hands. Very little from her birth plan played out exactly as expected but she handed it all with grace.

Congratulations to two lovely new parents, and happy birthday Miss L!

This birth was my last January birth out of 3, all due the 2nd/3rd. One born at 38 weeks, another at 40 and this one a few minutes into 42 weeks. All normal, all healthy, all exactly "on time." Mamas, toss your "due date" aside and focus on your due window of 38-42 weeks. Have all of your preparations completed by 36 weeks. If family/friends won't leave you alone about an exact date, give them 44 weeks as your due date so they leave you alone during your window 😉

01/04/2026

01/02/2026

My job is to hold the mothers, so it was an extra special treat to hold this sweet girl! Miss J's mom deeply wanted a VBAC. I encouraged her to have a supportive VBAC friendly physician and she was so happy she switched to Dr. Jennifer McDonald. Everything was great until a number of complications added up and made a successful VBAC unlikely. Dr. McDonald encouraged her to schedule a cesarian and after she, her husband and I talked and prayed, she agreed.

Her birth was BEAUTIFUL and EMPOWERING. What matters is not how a baby arrives (home birth or cesarian or anything in between). It's how we RESPECT a woman during labor and help her advocate for herself, empower her with knowledge not bias, and enable her to make her own informed decisions without pressure or coercion. Birth is so much more than a healthy baby. It's sacred. It's beautiful.

Thank you, mama, for allowing me to journey with you. You're a strong and beautiful mama, and big Miss J is so blessed to have you for her mama.

P.S. she is the biggest baby I've seen yet, a whopping 10lbs 4oz!!

*Story and picture shared with permission*

01/01/2026

Good bye, 2025! I was blessed to attend 17 births this year!
💙 10 boys
🩷 7 girls
🏠 5 home births
🏥 11 hospital births, 1 birth center
💚 2 VBACs
🍼 8 first time parents
🙏🏻 17 beautiful moments of grace and joy

I'm so deeply grateful for all my 2025 clients, and the two more right around the corner in '26. Happy new year!!

12/25/2025

Merry Christmas! 🎄

My family and I went to Christmas Eve Mass. My daughter quickly got in the first pew right in front of the nativity. While looking at the statue of the infant Jesus, it occurred to me how incredibly humble our Lord is to come as a baby. He could have come in glory, on a pillar of fire, with a grand entrance. But He chose to come as a baby, with a Mother who had to carry him for 9 months, give birth, then care for him as any other baby.

His choice to come through the pregnancy and birth of Blessed Mary, to come as a small helpless baby, reminds me of how blessed and privileged I am to be a small part of every client's birth story. His birth sanctified every birth.

May this Christmas bring you and your families peace and grace.

12/23/2025

Christmas came a couple days early for this family!! I'm SO SO PROUD of this mama who worked so hard for her VBA2C! Chiropractic care, Miles Circuits, Spinning Babies, prayer, labor positioning all combined to help her have a powerful, grace-filled labor.

Happy birthday, and Merry Christmas, baby J!! 🎄

12/20/2025

A very happy birthday to sweet little baby J! What an honor to witness how peacefully and faithfully this mama worked.

12/18/2025

Here are some examples of what doulas CANNOT do:

➡️ Replace the emotional support of a spouse. While a major role of a doula is to provide emotional support, that cannot replace the intimate connection of a loving, attentive spouse. 👩‍❤️‍👨🥰👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨

➡️ Make medical decisions on behalf of the client. I can help provide resources, information, brainstorm questions for medical staff. Ultimately, every decision should be made by the client in freedom with full consent. ⚕️🩺

➡️ Replace your mental determination for a natural birth (if desired). When a woman plans an unmedicated birth, it requires a great deal of MENTAL FORTITUDE. I will encourage, cheer her on, and be her biggest cheerleader, but every woman reaches a point where labor seems overwhelming and if she intends to "try to go natural" she usually gets the epidural. 🧠 💪🏻

➡️ Do all the preparations for a client. I help clients think through a plan for preparations for labor and postpartum. I follow up and offer help when needed. But I can't do it for her. 📝📋📖

➡️ Provide medical care, such as blood pressure checks, glucose checks, cervical exams, catch your baby, etc. I'll leave those to your OB or midwife! 👩🏻‍⚕️👨🏾‍⚕️

If you're curious about how I can help you achieve your dream birth, send me a message! 📞📱

12/05/2025

A first for me: baby boy came on his due date!! Mama did amazing and I'm so proud of this amazing couple. Congratulations and happy birthday, baby boy L!!

11/19/2025

So many of my clients have a deep dread of C-section, even if there is nothing in their history or current pregnancy to suggest C-section might be necessary, and rightfully so. C-section rates in the US are at an all-time high, with many studies revealing that neonatal and maternal outcomes are decreasing in this country despite (because of?) all the available modern medicine and procedures.

What is often left out in the labor and delivery room discussions are the many potential complications of C-section. Besides the obvious risks, such as infection, there are some less obvious, such as those listed in the article here.

Women who have C-section (whether they were emergency or scheduled, planned or unplanned) often face significant challenges in health, fertility and future pregnancies. While there are times when C-section are truly life saving, each medical decision, including the decision to cut, should be made with full informed consent. That's why I encourage my clients to take an in depth birth education course, familiarize themselves with common interventions, arrive as far into the labor process as possible, and have a well thought out birth plan.

The standard method for closing the uterus after cesarean delivery, used for over 50 years, may be causing a host of long-term health issues for millions of women.

According to Dr. Emmanuel Bujold and Dr. Roberto Romero, leaders in obstetrics and gynecology, current closure practices—where sutures join the uterine lining with surrounding muscle—fail to restore the uterus’s natural structure, leading to serious complications.

Their exhaustive review reveals the risks: abnormal placenta attachment affects up to 6% of women, uterine rupture up to 3%, and premature births up to 28%. Many suffer pelvic pain (up to 35%), excessive bleeding (up to 33%), and endometriosis or adenomyosis (up to 43%). Such complications are linked directly to the scarring produced by the conventional closure method.

Bujold and Romero propose a nuanced technique: suturing tissues only of the same type, carefully reconstructing the muscle layer while leaving the uterine lining untouched for natural regeneration. Although this new method takes 5–8 minutes—twice as long as the traditional approach—the additional blood loss is minimal and outweighed by better outcomes for future reproductive health.

With cesarean rates rising globally, especially in countries like Canada where 27% of births are by C-section, prioritizing meticulous uterine repair is a critical public health concern. This shift in surgical thinking may help millions experience safer subsequent pregnancies and better long-term well-being.

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📄 RESEARCH PAPER

📌 Emmanuel Bujold et al, "Uterine closure after cesarean delivery: surgical principles, biological rationale, and clinical implications", American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology (2025)