KHAOS, Inc

09/19/2025

Patterns don’t lie, people do…even when we lie to ourselves.

07/01/2025

Sometimes we get so stuck in our pain that we don’t leave room to understand the pain of others and that keeps us disconnected.

Here’s how to shift that:

🔸 Pause before reacting – Ask yourself, “What might they be feeling too?”
🔸 Use “I” and “we” statements – It’s not just about what happened to you, but what’s happening between you.
🔸 Get curious, not defensive – Ask questions instead of shutting down.
🔸 Acknowledge each other’s truths – Two things can be true at once.
🔸 Create space to listen – Sometimes the most healing thing you can do is listen without fixing.

Healing isn’t one-sided. Be open to hear AND be heard, heal AND be healed.
Both. Not or.
That’s the 🖤

06/28/2025

More pics from today’s “Safe Space Give Back” Shout out to the KHAOS Klinicians and Koaches for showing up and out today! We were able to get parents and kids signed up with appointments to start their therapeutic journeys on the spot today! We are better together!

06/28/2025

4 women led organizations (KHAOS, Inc, Cary On The Ball Inc. , H.U.G.S., and Breaking Generational Poverty Foundation) 22 families, 100 kids, and a host of volunteers and vendors! The “Safe Space Giveback” was a success! Today was EVERYTHING!!!! Thank you to everyone who donated, volunteered, spread the word, etc. You are appreciated! These families were fed, we fellowshiped, they got much needed supplies, many signed up for needed services with various community organizations, we had entertainment, we danced, and more. Today was a dope day and I look forward to continuing the healing and growing process with all who were involved! Special shoutout to Sunshine Echols for coming through and allowing us to have thia event in your space! We love you to life!

06/28/2025

06/26/2025

Grief isn’t just about death. We grieve the loss of people who are still walking this earth and that is hard to do! The love, the memories, the version of you that showed up with and for them is gone and it hurts. It’s ok to allow yourself to feel your way through it.

Be angry, cry, breathe, unfollow and stop contact if you need to. You’re not weak for letting go. If the relationship no longer allowed space for you to be the best version of you it’s ok to create space to heal and move forward. It wasn’t all good or all bad, yall gave and got what yall were supposed to get and give and now it’s time to grow in different directions. Everybody doesn’t get to grow with you.

Give yourself space and grace to grieve, grow, and create a new normal.

06/25/2025

Just because you made it through it don’t mean you’re done with it. Healing is more than surviving, it’s about learning how to respond differently when life hits those same triggers. You can’t build healthy relationships on unhealed reactions. That’s why therapy is important because you learn how to respond vs react. Let’s heal so we stop the past from writing our stories.

06/24/2025

Some folks will hurt you, then get mad when you set boundaries to protect yourself. That’s not love. It’s manipulative and also gaslighting. It’s a pattern. And patterns don’t lie, people do. Protect your peace and move accordingly.

06/19/2025

If every relationship leaves you feeling the same, it’s time to ask: what am I carrying into these spaces? Sometimes we think we’re protecting ourselves, but we’re actually repeating patterns created to survive. If you want things to be different going forward you have to be real with yourself. What are you doing and/or allowing to constantly get the same results? Understand, healthy love can’t grow where accountability doesn’t live.

06/18/2025

At some point, you gotta stop using “that’s just how I am” as a pass and start asking yourself why you move the way you do. That behavior came from somewhere. Trauma may have taught it, but you can unlearn trauma responses and learn new ways of doing things when you heal. You are not stuck, you’re conditioned to survive. And anything learned can be unlearned. Give yourself the space to heal and create a new normal. You deserve it.