I help couples and families to remember their special path towards peace, and joy by showing them how to craft a love of their own.
It’s never too late to start.
npr.org If the mere thought of going to therapy seems overwhelming, you're not alone. Plenty of people put off seeking therapy because of the stigma, cost and inconvenience. We've got four tips to help you make your first appointment.
This past year, I noticed certain themes present themselves over the course of a day’s work. I figure if it’s showing up in my world, it may be showing up in your world too. I hope this message is as helpful to you as it is to me.
Funny story-> The first time I recorded this, my 🌞 was chuckling at the fact that I did it all WITHOUT taking a breathe. LOL. You know, I had to get some act right , BREATHE🌬, and do it again. Don’t worry, we ALL gon’ be alright.
Blessings Royalty! This afternoon I listened to a delicious podcast that inspired me to name some of the negative scripts I’ve allowed to float around my head uninterrupted. One of my favorite counters from today’s work is “I am so happy and grateful now that I experience large and small successes abundantly.” It’s empowering to challenge those pesky lies. How do you break through limiting thoughts?
xonecole.com If you're sick, the next most logical thing to do is see a doctor. But when we're faced with a malady of the mind, we're told to put on our big girl panties and get over it. How, Sway?
Consent. Not just important but NECESSARY.
madamenoire.com By Jamie Harrison If you have so much as dipped your toe into today’s dating waters, you know that noncommittal relationships are an absolute thing. From booty calls and friends-with-benefits to no…
Mental Illness Awareness
chicagotribune.com People need to pay attention to their emotional well-being, which is just as important as their physical well-being.
“Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.
It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.
It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.
A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.
True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.
And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.
It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.
It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.
If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.
It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.
It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.
It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”
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and he said: you pretty full of yourself ain’t chu⠀
so she replied: show me someone not full of herself ⠀
and i’ll show you a hungry person⠀
good morning blessed royalty. here's to you and all of your badassness. be so full of yourself that you can feed the masses. i hope your cup runnuth over. take care 🧡⠀
Tag a few friends who are full of themselves. 😉⠀
#melaninpoppin #melanin #blackwoman #blackpower #blackmen #blacklivesmatter #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #blackexcellence #blacklove #blackgirlmagic #blackqueen #blackisbeautiful #blackpride #blackgirlmagic #blackqueen #blackisbeautiful #blackgirlsrock #careforjustus
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echotraining.org We have put together a infographic based on relationship lessons learned by trauma survivors and those who love them.
In a nutshell...
Oh look it’s me:
“Depression: nothing is happening and nothing matters
Anxiety: everything is happening right now rightnowrightnow And everything matters holy sh*tholyf**kdeath
Dissociation: ...that sure is happening. Sure is. How about that. That is some fine sh*t happening. Down there on earth.”
These are just 12 suggestions, and activism truly comes in many different forms. The goal: Find what works for you—and, most importantly, take action.
blackgirlinom.com While I believe wholeheartedly in protests, acts of resistance, and raising your voice, I have never felt comfortable at physical demonstrations. I often feel guilty about this—especially, when facing the question that’s all over Twitter right now: What would I have done during the Civil Right
Be aware as you traverse through your weekend. If you start to notice loss in the ways mentioned, reach out. Do not allow someone else's narrative write away your right to a full life. Your family needs you whole.
echoparenting.org We have talked a lot about how childhood trauma impacts emotional regulation and can leave us oscillating between anger and numbness (hyper- and hypo-arousal).
Should you find your concerned about protecting your child's innocence supersede the necessity to enlighten them about the world they are currently contributing to and one day will be leaders in. Start small. Pick up a book and read.
medium.com A Children’s Reading List for Anti-Racist Activism
The struggle is real. Constantly having to counter stereotypes around mental illness can compound an already energy consuming plan towards healing. I see you. I support you.
Looking for the perfect fit? Choosing a therapist can be daunting. But know there is a slipper to fit every foot! Don't believe me... Give me a call and I'll do my best to see that your therapeutic needs are met.
nytimes.com A swirl of modern tastes, consumer expectations and the Internet is producing an ever-increasing number of “boutique therapies.”
www.theroot.com African-American women are 7.5 years biologically “older” than white women because of extreme stress, health experts say.
blog.en.idealist.org When she was an organizer in the 1990s, Claudia Horwitz began to notice that many of the people she worked with were overworked, exhausted, and stressed out. Responding to the urgent need she saw i...
forharriet.com ...because self-care and wellness are important.
After an emotionally taxing day of training, a small group of us shared in some resilience building through dance. Here's a song to help you get along in your day. I hope you dance...
Inspiration song, powerful lyrics. If this song has inspired you, feel free to let it inspire others you may know. Inside of you resides the strength, courag...
Who knows what this is?! Believe it or not, I ate it. And Yes, I wear snoopy pajamas.
"Diverse books inspire us to be authors of our own stories."
When we talk about reading diversely, the conversation often focuses on representation and social justice: making sure that our books don’t reinforce inequality by stereotyping, marginalizing, or erasing groups of people. This is urgently important.
But what often gets left out of the conversation is how reading diversely can be a matter of pure enjoyment. For those of us who love books because they help us see the world through someone else’s eyes, reading diversely can be the icing on the cake of a spectacular reading experience.
Here are our 10 favorite reasons to read diversely. What are yours?
So grateful for my somatics P.I.C. Michelle. She was kind enough to offer me solidarity housing. She has a beautiful space that is intentionally designed to serve ecology and justice. Here's a few shots of her backyard garden. Sorry if I didn't capture to majesty and awe of the space. My photography skills are remedial.
Good lunch. Great convo. Amazing to see more Mike Brown posters up in San Francisco than in the Lou. The local restaurants out here make their support clear! #solidarity
Do you know the difference between your yes, no, and maybe? I've already learned that my maybe is a no until I get to know you better. Basically, our relationship isn't strong enough for me to give you a solid yes or no. What do you really mean when you say maybe?
"This factsheet discusses the nature of trauma, especially abuse or neglect, the effects of trauma on children and youth, and ways to help a child who has experienced trauma."
childwelfare.gov This factsheet discusses the nature of trauma, especially abuse or neglect, the effects of trauma on children and youth, and ways to help a child who has experienced trauma. Parents or foster parents who do not understand the effects of trauma may misinterpret their child’s behavior, and attempts to…
Look up! Look around! Be careful not to miss the beauty of the world around you. This pretty pic was taken inside the airport!
[08/19/15] As soon as I got off the plane, I looked around the airport and had a refreshing thought. My God, we live in such great diversity and abundance! Taking in the different faces, shapes, languages, laughter is such a gift.
[08/19/15] Generative Somatics Trauma and Healing... Here I come! Looking forward to learning and growing as much as I can.
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Care for Justus
Warm, compassionate and insightful therapist for individuals, adolescents and families. 15+ years experience.
KUTO envisions a community free of adolescent suicide, where teens lead emotionally healthy lives. KUTO prepares teens with the skills, confidence and courage to help their peers and themselves cope before, during and after crisis.
Places for People is a non-profit healthcare organization, serving people with severe mental illness and substance use disorders in St. Louis, MO, USA.
Our Little Haven an organization in St. Louis, MO providing care for children and families impacted by abuse, neglect, mental and behavioral health needs.
Discreet. Compassionate. Faith Affirming.
Visit us at www.avenuescounselingcenter.org to learn more about our services.
Call or come in to start low cost, short-term, individual therapy. If you're in crisis call us or text 741741. We can't offer services via social media.
Venture Wellness provides outpatient mental health therapy services to individuals, couples, and families in the St Louis City area.
Inspire Professional Counseling Services, LLC
An intensive outpatient program designed for when regular psychiatrist or therapist visits aren't enough for mental health improvement.