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I am coining a new term. Instead of love languages, let’s talk about your RECOGNITION LANGUAGE. I wanna break this down with an example. ⁣ ⁣

Person A raises a concern with Person B and asks Person B to make a change that Person A thinks will improve the relationship. ⁣ ⁣

(If Person B isn’t interested in making a change… I joined and on the We Can Do Hard Things podcast this week to talk more about effort mismatch. Tune in there!!)

If Person B makes that change cuz they are a brave badass who wants to serve the relational space, I want Person A to acknowledge the eff out of them because:⁣
* Making a change can feel hard/vulnerable/scary.⁣
* Leaning into what someone else wants/needs is so loving and wonderful.⁣
* Validation/praise/recognition will increase the likelihood that Person B will keep up this change.

Research shows that Person A’s acknowledgement is reinforcing.⁣ In my experience, the acknowledgment piece can be easier said than done.⁣ ⁣

But let’s say that Person A is steady and ready to shine on Person B. Person B may be finicky about how they like their recognition to be offered. I am submitting to you that we have RECOGNITION LANGUAGES— preferences or idiosyncrasies in how we like to be praised. I’ve met many a person (sometimes often a *male* person 😉) who falsely equates praise with patronization... which puts their parter in quite a pickle!⁣ ⁣

Therefore, I want Person A to ask: My darling, I see you making this change that I requested. I want to shine on you. But I want to offer my validation in a way that feels good to you. Do you like...⁣
* Jazz hands?⁣
* Text?⁣
* Flowery language?⁣
* Hug?⁣
* High five?⁣
* Wink?⁣

I want A to cheer in a way that B likes to hear.⁣ ⁣

Alternatively, Person B could get ahead of the issue by saying, “I love you and I’m going to make this change. But when I do, I might feel a bit squidgy about how you compliment me. A simple wink and a nod will be plenty!”⁣ ⁣

We are all quirky people in relationship with other quirky people. How lovely it is to learn the landscape of each other’s quirks.⁣