02/20/2026
(14/14) “I think trying to care for people starts at home. My pops is 87, so he has some health challenges, and my sister and I try to support him the best we can. The kids come with me to have breakfast with him on Sundays. Because I want them to see what that love looks like when I help him have a bite, get him his pills. They’ll ask, ‘Why we gotta help with all these things?’ So I tell them, ‘Grandpa had a stroke. He don’t move around like he used to. He needs more help.’ So I try to make my girls come with me. Because one day I’ll probably be the one who needs some help. And at least they’ll know, ‘I saw my dad take care of Grandpa. This is where Pops is at now, so we gotta give him some help.’ And it’ll come full circle.
Back to the greatest love of all, my mom. You asked earlier about the hardest thing when she was getting older, and I said it was realizing my mom didn’t know me. But it was also when it came time to put her in a place for people with dementia and Alzheimer’s. That was hard. Because you tell yourself, ‘I’m not putting my mom in a home or in a place like that ever.’ But I also had to realize that, ‘I love you so much that I can’t provide the love and care you need 24-7. So I’m gonna take you someplace where they can.’ I remember the first picture they took of her and sent us when she was there. It’s on my phone. She was playing Bingo with her little hat on, and she looked okay. And I was in tears knowing that she was okay and that we were doing the right thing. Just another step in the journey.”
Marlon Butler, Workers Comp Case Manager for Employee Health, RN, BSN, Saint Luke's Hospital of Kansas City