Oak Mountain Mental Health

03/19/2026

Ohhh Tomtom, how thankful I am for you. It was a bit rocky there for a while, AND I still have so many beautiful childhood memories because of you (Ogunquit, Swimming, Baseball, Running at summer evenings, etc.)

You never gave up on me. You supported me in more ways than I can count, and honestly, I don’t know how you did it all.

You sat in the parents’ section at football games while everyone talked about their players — and when someone asked whose kid was yours, you proudly said, “My daughter is the cheerleading captain.”

You took me prom dress shopping and quietly asked the saleswoman behind the scenes, “Can you help? Does this look alright?” while I was trying on my blue sparkly dress.

You literally fought for what was best for me in Family Court... telling the court the true narrative about me as a child and human.

You were there when school was hard, when my mental health struggled, when I decided to travel everywhere with no real plan, and even when I locked myself out of my car in the middle of nowhere at night.

And you’re still here. Showing up. Teaching me what it means to be a parent, an entrepreneur, a human… and an O’Leary.

I am so grateful my girls get to have you in their lives — that they get to be greeted every Thursday by their silly Papa at daycare. 🤍

Thank you for being the Dad, Papa, and Human you are. Not by pretending to be perfect, but by modeling repair, growth, change, and understanding.

We love you more than words can hold.

03/17/2026

What did you notice engaging in this breathing exercise?

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03/17/2026

03/17/2026

When a client sends this text.❤️

We are kind of unique at Oak Mountain.
Real Humans, a lil dark humor, knowledgeable about theory and integrate without it feeling like class, reducing shame!

03/15/2026

It’s gonna happen. Flooding happens.

Most of us think “we need to work on our communication” when it comes to our relationships…. Yet in actuality… we need yo understand flooding first!!

Flooding is what keeps the fights going.

Flooding is what breaks down understanding.

Flooding is what makes us get defensive and lose sight of the big picture.

Flooding with no awareness or soothing is what breaks relationships.

Are you and your partner getting stuck in flooding over and over again? DM “flooding”

03/14/2026

I have partners wear a small device that tracks their heart rate in sessions. ❤️

Why?

Because when our heart rate goes over 100 beats per minute, our body goes into stress mode.

When that happens:
Our brain can’t listen well.
We can’t think clearly.
And talking kindly gets really hard.

This is called emotional flooding.

When flooding happens in relationships, couples often:
• yell
• shut down
• say things they don’t mean
• stop hearing each other

It’s not because we don’t care.
It’s because our mind and body are overwhelmed.

The heart rate monitor helps us notice when your body is getting too stressed.

Then couples learn to:
pause,
soothe,
and come back to the conversation when their brain can listen again.

Because healthy communication isn’t about never getting upset.

It’s about knowing when your body needs a break so connection can come back. 💛

✨ Follow for more tools on healthy communication, nervous system regulation, and couples healing.

And if you want help learning these skills together, DM “couples” to learn more about couples coaching.