Oak Mountain Mental Health

11/28/2025

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11/26/2025

Our Fierce G,

You faced something most people never will — open-heart surgery on bypass — and you met it with a strength that still takes our breath away. You are so small, and already a warrior.

Through the fear, the pain, and the unknowns, you trusted. You healed in your own time, in your own way. And we watched your spark return, brighter every day.

We’re grateful for something else, too:
This experience didn’t become a trauma that stayed trapped in your body. Not because it wasn’t scary — it was — but because we talked through every step. We named the fear. We made space for every feeling. We played doctor with your stuffies so you could make sense of what happened. You had choices. You had connection. You were never alone. You had tremendous providers.

That’s what rewrote the story.

And now, when you proudly touch your warrior scar, you remind us what resilience really looks like.

You survived.
You healed.
You are here.
And we are so damn proud of you.

Love,
Mom & Dad aka poopy pants

11/22/2025

When the imprinted narratives project onto holiday gathering social situations, people, places, & events… it gets really confusing. Clouds our perspective and reality.

Our brain wants to try to predict so we have a plan. When a narrative has been imprinted, the brain is going to perceive that danger will happen again and tries to protect us.

When we are stuck in rumination, we are not present. We are hijacked by the past and fear.

Ohhh the holidays can make@the brain even cloudier and more confusing! The hats why we have 2 holiday support items to navigate this holiday season.

1. A Free Holiday self-care menu
2. 30 Day Workshop

Both offering support so we don’t end up in an emotionally paralyzed state due to social & triggered overwhelm for the next two months.

DM “holiday support” to receive your free “self-care menu” and information about our 30 day Holiday workshop.

11/21/2025

11/21/2025

For many trauma survivors, “family time” isn’t warm and fuzzy — it’s activating.

It’s emotional labor.
It’s a reminder of versions of you that weren’t protected, seen, or supported.

So if you’re heading into holiday season feeling tense, conflicted, or exhausted before it even starts, DM me “holiday help” for a free self-care guide.

11/20/2025

If you grew up with an abusive mom, you probably fear becoming her every time you’re overwhelmed, overstimulated, or at your limit.

Because you remember what it felt like to live in a home where anger meant danger…
where frustration meant punishment…
where your mom’s feelings swallowed the whole house.

So now, when you raise your voice, snap, or shut down?

Your brain whispers:
“This is it. I’m her. I’m the problem. I’m hurting my child.”

But here’s the truth you were never taught:

Exhaustion is not abuse.
Burnout is not abuse.
Being human is not abuse.

Abusive moms protect their power.
Healthy-but-struggling moms protect the relationship.

You’re not repeating the cycle — you’re feeling the weight of it and trying to do differently.

The fact that you worry, reflect, apologize, regulate, repair, or even question your impact?

That’s the proof.
Not the problem.

Your child is growing up with a mom who cares enough to check herself, learn, and show up — not a mom who uses fear to stay in control.

You’re allowed to be tired.
You’re allowed to be overwhelmed.
You’re allowed to be a human raising humans.

And you’re still breaking the cycle every single day.

DM “stress” if you get lost in the fear of “I’m my mom” when you’re in the throw of mom exhaustion. Let’s chat.

11/20/2025

I got this, I don’t need anyone, touch makes me uncomfortable, look at me being all strong and independent.

Yep, that was me ten years ago. I prided myself on being a workaholic who didn’t “need” connection. Really that was a trauma response I learned to survive my childhood.

When my husband (then boyfriend) and I had our first date…. He asked for a hug at the end and I stood there hands firmly by my side and said, “ok (with a disgusted look). He also tried to hold my hand and I batted that s**t away…. Safe to say, “the strong independent female” was also terrified of emotional and physical connection.

Now, I crave hugs & connection. I’ve learned I can safely lean on my husband for support and it be safe. He won’t throw it in my face or use it against me.
I can be independent AND dependent. I can be strong by showing all parts of myself.

I do sometimes still give awkward hugs when I’m stressed or triggered AND that’s ok!

11/20/2025

You learned to keep it light so things didn’t get heavy.
You learned to be funny so you didn’t have to be felt.
You learned to read the room before you ever learned to read your own body.

If you’re ready to explore what it’s like to actually feel safe in your body, your relationships, and your own damn life…
I’m here. DM “stress”

11/19/2025

DM “stress” to book a chit chat about what you’re needing and if coaching is a good fit. ❤️