Alli Spotts-De Lazzer, MA LMFT, CEDS

Alli Spotts-De Lazzer, MA LMFT, CEDS Marriage and Family Therapist
Professional Clinical Counselor
Self-Acceptance and Eating Disorders Specialist

Alli specializes in working with males and females wanting to gain freedom from their troubled relationships with food, dieting/binging, and body image. She also helps people to work-through issues related to relationships, trauma, anxiety, depression, grief/loss, maturation troubles, and low self-esteem. If you are interested in more information, feel free to view Alli's website (www.TherapyHelps.Us) or give her a call.

12/09/2025

💛 Gentle PSA from a therapist who cares:
I heard about someone who developed eating-disorder symptoms while using a GLP-1 medication — and while that doesn’t mean the medication caused it, it does highlight something important:

We need real informed consent when it comes to any treatment that affects appetite, weight, or body cues.

Informed consent loosely means understanding both risks and benefits of a treatment. It’s a great time to ask any questions you have, and to share, explore, and ask about known concerns with your provider. It’s also a good time to be really honest with them.

Honesty isn’t about being “a difficult patient.”
It’s about protecting your wellbeing.

These medications are powerful, and so are you — which is why you deserve clear information, open conversations, and a provider who knows your full story.

If you’re considering a GLP-1, already taking one, or feeling unsure about your relationship with food or your body while on it, you are not alone.

Take care of yourself. Be cautious. You matter. 💛

12/05/2025

🎧 That question hits hard, right?
“Is there something you could do to support your mental health today… If so, how come you are not doing it?”

Here’s the thing —
sometimes the supportive option just isn’t available.
Your capacity is low.
Resources are limited.
Life is lifing.

And sometimes the only barrier is giving yourself permission to say “yes” to the thing that would help — even if it’s tiny, awkward, or imperfect.

Self-support doesn’t need to be a grand gesture.
It can be the smallest shift:
🌿 taking a breath
📱 stepping away from the scroll
🚿 showering
🕊️ sending the text
💧 drinking water
🏠 changing environments

Ask yourself gently:
“What’s one doable thing that would support me today?”
Then offer yourself the chance to follow through — with compassion, not pressure.

You deserve care that fits your actual capacity.

12/03/2025

⚡️Read this twice: You have a body and you need to eat — every single day.

That’s not a failure or a flaw. That’s being human.
And your body doesn’t need to earn care, comfort, or nourishment.

So today, instead of negotiating with hunger or critiquing the body you live in, try offering yourself a little curiosity:
“What if I’m allowed to take up space and meet my needs… exactly as I am right now?”

🍽️ Your body shows up for you daily.
💛 You’re allowed to show up for it, too. In fact, please do!

12/02/2025

🚪✨ Honest moment: Many people bend the truth in therapy… and it makes complete sense.

Shame can feel overwhelming, and worrying about letting your therapist down is a very human fear.

And, here’s the part that some people may not realize: Truth is the thing that actually opens the door to healing.

When you share what’s real, your therapist isn’t disappointed.
They’re curious.
They’re probably thinking something like:
“How is this helping you?”
“What isn’t working anymore?”
“What do you need more support with?”
Therapy isn’t about perfection or performance — it’s about collaboration.

🗝️ Bring truth into the room.
We can work with anything when it’s honest.
And you deserve support that actually fits you.

11/12/2025

“Go on a walk” can feel dismissive when you’re struggling — and sometimes, it is.

But the idea behind it has some truth: changing your environment can shift your internal state, even slightly.
So instead of treating it like advice, treat it like an experiment.

No expectations. No pressure. Just data. 🌿
You might find it helps more than you thought — or maybe not. Either way, that’s useful information.

11/11/2025

It’s here. The holiday music. In November. 🎶😬

For some, it’s festive. For others, it’s.. a cue to stress about family tension, old patterns, gifts, parties, etc.

So this is your gentle reminder:
✨ You can prepare.
✨ You can set boundaries.
✨ You can do what you need to feel grounded through the season.

11/08/2025

This season brings a lot of “I’ll start over next year” talk. And, it often comes from the belief that who we are right now isn’t good enough.

But here’s the thing — you’re not something to fix.
You don’t need to punish yourself today to “earn” something tomorrow.
You deserve care, nourishment, and kindness as you are, right now. 🌿

How can you weave more compassion into this season?💭

11/06/2025

Let’s try something together: There’s a lot of heaviness in the world right now, and it’s easy to forget how much impact a single small act can have.

Join me and do one kind thing today, without expecting anything in return: Hold the door. Send a message. Offer a smile.

Kindness doesn’t have to be grand; it just has to be genuine.
Sometimes that’s all it takes to shift the energy — for you and for them.

We can’t fix everything, but we can choose kindness — even in small ways. 💛

Let’s see how far a little compassion can ripple. 🌊

11/04/2025

🔥 Role models aren’t always the people you look up to.
Sometimes, they’re the ones who show you exactly who you don’t want to be.

Both types shape us in powerful ways. One inspires us to grow toward something — the other reminds us to turn away from what doesn’t align.

Have we been misled about self-esteem? 🤔 What if a lot of what you’ve been told about self-worth is actually holding you...
10/31/2025

Have we been misled about self-esteem? 🤔 What if a lot of what you’ve been told about self-worth is actually holding you back?

Here’s the truth:

📌 The Self-Esteem Myth
We’ve been sold the idea that self-esteem is everything. Many books, TED Talks, and posts say it’s the key to confidence and success. But self-esteem is, by definition, our opinion of ourselves — and that’s a pretty shaky foundation.

📌 Why Self-Esteem Doesn’t Work
“If it’s an opinion… why not change it?” (Spoiler: it’s not that simple.) Our self-opinion is shaped by upbringing, comparisons, and what others tell us. Even if you could change it, self-esteem is pass/fail (IMO)—you either have it or you don’t. Often, the harder you chase it, the further it drifts away. And too much can look like arrogance. There’s no winning.

📌 Self-Acceptance: The Sustainable Alternative
Self-acceptance = embracing yourself without needing constant external validation. It allows you to face difficult feelings, be curious about why you are the way you are, experiment and view your success or failure as data not judgment, and grow.

📌 Why Self-Acceptance Works
✅ Accepting flaws with with curiosity, kindness, and space to grow
✅ Supporting mental health & recovery
✅ Processing negative emotions instead of avoiding them
✅ Maintaining internal stability; your worth isn’t defined by every success or mistake

💡 Final Thoughts
If your self-esteem feels low, don’t beat yourself up. Try putting it on pause to explore self-acceptance. True confidence and resilience come from authenticity, not defending or boosting your ego.

Read the full article on Psychology Today for more insights!

10/29/2025

👻 Ghost stories aren’t just for Halloween — they happen in our relationships, too.
One day there’s connection, the next… p**f! No explanation, no closure.

Ghosting might seem like an easy exit, but it often leaves a lasting impact: confusion, self-doubt, and/or lower self-worth.
So, this spooky season, take a moment to reflect: how do we handle disconnection? And maybe it’s time to remember or remind ourselves of the golden rule:
💬 Don’t do to others what you wouldn’t want done to you.
🎃 If you don’t want to be ghosted… don’t ghost others.

Treat others with the care you’d want in return. 💭

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