02/04/2026
CHOOSING TO DIE
A DAUGHTER’S STORY OF SUPPORTING HER MOTHER’S END OF LIFE THROUGH ASSISTED DEATH
by Theresa E. Evans ‧ RELEASE DATE: March 3, 2026
A heartfelt chronicle of a family’s reckoning with a complicated matriarch.
In this memoir, three daughters say goodbye to their mother at the end of her life.
Evans’ mother, approaching 80 years old and ravaged by chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, chose November 15th, 2020 (her 80th birthday), to undergo physician-assisted death. Such procedures are legal in 13 U.S. states and in Canada, where Evans was raised and her mother and siblings still live. With three months left until November 15th, Evans moved into her mother’s home to assist her—Evans was an ICU nurse—and cherish some last moments with her in this final phase of her life. Along with her sisters—who live locally to her mother—Evans ran through a gauntlet of taxing emotions. Although she is a grown woman and her mother was nearing her end, Evans often felt little had changed since childhood: “She really triggered all of my hardness toward her,” Evans texted her sisters. “I was fourteen years old again in that room with Mom telling me to shape up or get out…Feels familiar.” As her mother deteriorated, Evans found comfort in caring for her mother’s garden, a space in which the natural, expected cycles of life and death brought her some peace. As summer turned to fall and her mother’s procedure drew near, Evans and her sisters had to reconcile how to lovingly make their peace with a loved one who was also the source of longstanding hurt. Evans’ work is about the oldest subjects in existence—life, death, love, and family—and she ably navigates these turbulent waters, both as a writer and a daughter. She maintains a simple, clean prose style, even through the complicated decisions she had to make: “I feel nervous about making these decisions for Mom. Once again, my thoughts go to all the caregivers who are in the same spot as I am right now and have no medical background to support their decisions.” Her straightforward style allows readers an unfiltered peek at intimate, trying moments.
A heartfelt chronicle of a family’s reckoning with a complicated matriarch.
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Pub Date: March 3, 2026
ISBN: 9798993266336
Page Count: 290
Publisher: Stone Path Press
Review Posted Online: Jan. 15, 2026
Kirkus Reviews Issue: March 1, 2026
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
Categories:
BIOGRAPHY & MEMOIR | FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS | GENERAL BIOGRAPHY & MEMOIR