11/18/2025
Some nights, sleep feels far off. The lights are low, the room is quiet, but my thoughts are still pacing. It’s not always worry. Sometimes it’s leftover momentum, like an email I didn’t answer, a headline I wish I hadn’t read, or a plan I keep adjusting in my head.
Over time, I’ve learned that what helps isn’t forcing myself to unwind, but meeting my body where it is and gently shifting the pace.
Here’s what that looks like for me:
1. A few slow breaths before anything else
Before I try to reason with my thoughts, I start with breath. A long, slow inhale through my nose, then a longer exhale through my mouth. I’ll do that a few times without trying to “fix” anything. It softens the edge I didn’t realize I was carrying.
2. A light source of warmth
If the room feels cold or I’m restless under the covers, I’ll step into a warm shower. The weight of water, the shift in temperature, the quiet break from screens -- these elements create just enough contrast to mark the transition toward rest.
3. A familiar tea I associate with night
Something herbal, sometimes chamomile. Not because of its properties alone, but because I’ve had it enough times to associate the taste and scent with slowing down. I’ll hold the mug for a while before I even drink it. The warmth helps more than I expect.
4. A return to the body, gently
Instead of wrestling with thoughts, I move my focus to my body. Noticing how the mattress supports my weight, how my jaw feels, whether my shoulders are still bracing. That kind of attention doesn’t eliminate the thoughts, but it changes my relationship to them. They feel less urgent when my body starts to feel safe again.
I don’t always fall asleep quickly. But these rituals shift the tone of the night. They remind my system that it’s okay to slow down, even if my mind hasn’t caught up yet.