03/08/2023
Making Restitution – Apologizing is Powerful
Apologizing is powerful and restorative. Authors Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas, “When Sorry Isn’t Enough” share five ways for people to apologize effectively. Does your apology communicate restitution? Restitution means redeeming something lost or stolen to the proper owner, compensating the injury or loss with a financial payment or restoring to its original shape. A broken heart may need restitution to fix the relationship. The authors share these statements from those with broken hearts:
• “I expect him to try to repair what has gone wrong.”
• “I expect her to be truly sorry from the heart and be willing to make things right.”
But, how might you ask., “It seems impossible, because he doesn’t listen.”, or “She avoids the issue.” Chapman and Thomas apply emotional love languages to the process of restoring a relationship. It’s not about meeting your need but recognizing your spouse’s language for love.
• Words of Affirmation
• Acts of Service
• Receiving Gifts
• Quality Time
• Physical Touch
There’s an art to maintaining a healthy and loving relationship. I encourage you to read a book together, attend a relationship conference, or seek out couple’s counseling. Men if you’re not convinced, think about it as car maintenance. What happens if you don’t keep the right amount of oil in an engine? It degrades the life of the engine. What happens if there is no oil? It locks up the engine, leaving internal damage and possibly thousands of dollars in repairs. Service your relationship, before the internal damage leads to a break-up of the family.
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