01/26/2026
Cancer Center Chaplain's Corner: Sometimes the hardest words to say are the smallest, the simplest, the most direct: yes, no, help. Why is that?
Take help, for example. Why is it so hard to ask for what we need? Maybe it’s not as difficult for you as it is for me, but I’ll twist myself into knots to avoid asking for help. I know I need help. I know you do, too.
Why is it so hard? Are we afraid of looking foolish? Of being needy? Of admitting we can’t manage this complicated hand of cards we’ve been dealt on our own?
What if we can’t manage it on our own?
Practice saying it with me. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help.
That great modern-day saint, Mr. Rogers, told children who were afraid to look for “the helpers.” They’re out there. Chances are, you’ve been one of them. I know I have. We most likely know from firsthand experience that the helpers are good, kind people.
But, still, if the moment comes when we recognize that we can’t keep all the plates spinning on our own, that we’re struggling, it can take every ounce of courage inside us to say the one small word: help.
If you’d like someone to practice saying “help,” Chaplain Tom and I are here. We offer spiritual companionship, supportive listening, and even some role-playing, if that would be helpful—no pun intended! We’d welcome the opportunity to speak with you. If you’d like, you can call us at 315-464-4687.