08/14/2024
How much of your life is truly comfortable?
I can only speak for my life and with veracity I can attest that much of what I do on a daily basis is uncomfortable, sometimes potently so. This discomfort isn't an enemy, it's a gift. When we notice discomfort in our life, it's an invitation to inquire about why.
Sometimes discomfort is physical, sometimes it's emotional and sometimes it is BOTH. I'm in the process of healing from a serious shoulder injury. While learning to ski in late 2020, I took 3 hard falls in a row. Initially I thought my injuries were broken ribs, bruised and collapsed lungs and a bunch of gnarly bruises. It was so hard to deal with this injury in the wake of the death of my dear love Jake. I had learned to ski for him, as he wished for me to do. Now I was alone, in a spartan apartment with only a bed and a folding chair. My physical pain and emotional pain were one in many ways during these weeks. As my chest healed, I started to notice that my right arm and shoulder weren't right. I started to lose strength, mobility and function in my right arm. I was frequently awake at night in pain, unable to find a comfortable position to sleep in. Sometimes nerve pain would zing down my arm into my fingers, making it difficult to sew, cook or type. I grieved having an arm that worked well.
Even as a doc, I jumped through the same hoops as others with chronic pain. A year of physical therapy, which did help. My PT was a climbing specialist who informed that I *should* be feeling a lot better than I was, gently pressing me to move on. I got an MRI that taught me a lot. The shoulder is a complex structure, and I had at least something wrong with every structure of interest other than a lack of arthritis in my glenohumoral (shoulder) joint. The worst of it was a full thickness tear of my supraspinatus muscle, however, all my rotator cuff muscles were torn, my bicep tendon was injured and there was arthritis sprinkled about like a sparkly topping to my injury layer cake.
It was a gift to finally have the answer to WHY. My lesson here: always inquire when discomfort and pain show up for you. The answer might be challenging but you need to know.