01/10/2019
Boundaries have been a strong topic of mine this last month and I noticed it’s something we talk about but rarely apply — especially something “minuscule” like food, sleep, phone time, etc. We try to apply these boundaries to relationships and our well being without actually applying them to simple things and creating habits early on.
For example, in 2018, I found myself losing my sense of boundaries and letting people in that didn’t genuinely care for my growth which then caused me to step away from what I need. I wasn’t asking myself questions as to what I needed anymore — I was settling. And then it stemmed into losing boundaries with the street dogs here, the delicious Indian food, phone time, and more. I was stretching myself so far because I lost my sense of boundaries.
But now...now I’m able to detach from the cute street dogs, I have my phone off from 20:00 until the next morning, after my morning rituals and after I start my day without any distractions. I’m also able to put up boundaries with people I once loved so deeply but actually don’t genuinely have space for where I’m at in their lives and that’s fine!! I still love them so much but not at the expense of what I need to become a better person.
It’s ok to distance yourself from people, places, and things that aren’t serving you — that almost bring in more grief. Grief that needs to be dealt with, but without the company of certain things around you. So I just want to challenge you to maybe evaluate what’s around you and is supporting your breath because if not, it’s ok to put up healthy boundaries in order to face what’s moving through you. It’s ok to do it alone and it’s ok to be isolated. Don’t carry the weight of others and hold space for too many if it’s stretching your energy too far. Take a step back and just breathe. 📸: