The Weed (Josh Weed)

04/18/2024

Oh hey!!! Here's a stack about why kids end up hating on themselves, and why we continue to do it into adulthood (as well as what to do about it). It's something we all end up doing in our society, and there is a very good (while maladaptive) reason for it. So if you ever find yourself being REALLY cruel to yourself for even small mistakes, this post explains part of why that happens.

I must say, getting back to the once- or twice-a-month schedule on the ol' substackle feels VERY nice after the mad-dash I did in March. The mad dash was really amazing in the things it taught me (one of them being I do not like doing mad dashes and daily posts, lol) but getting back to a more standard newsletter cadence is better for me, and probably better for peoples' inboxes as well. ;-)

Oh, and I also provide a link to get my Self-compassion journal template so head on over if that sounds of interest to you.

Much love to one and all! Link in comments as always :-)

03/12/2024

Being able to recognize your "enoughness" is the pathway to a truly satisfying life.

It allows the things that happen to you to simply be "things" instead of experiencing them egoically as "proof" of your unworthiness or your worthiness. Interpreting the world in that way is exhausting. The things are just happening--they don't mean anything about you or your belonging on this planet.

Freeing yourself from the need to "prove" (or even "disprove") your worth by feeling and recognizing your perfect enoughness is a simple concept in some ways, but it's not "easy" to do.

This post is one of many things that can help you do it. (See link in comments)

(This post is one of my favorites so far. Please like and share if it ends up resonating with you! ❤)

03/05/2024

If you've ever wondered why you can't ever seem to "follow through" on certain goals that you really, really want, I am here to tell you: you are not broken and it's not your fault.

You have a brain. End of story.

Often it's hard to explain to ourselves or others WHY the positive changes we work towards--which we really truly want--don't end up sticking.

In the article below I talk about why our limbic system does what it does to stop our progress by explaining what my own limbic system is doing during my journey of trying to do something I've never done before and always wanted to do (30 posts in a month!! I'm on day five and it is SO HARD!)

I describe and the ways my own limbic system is trying actively to cut me off at the path, and what I'm doing about it. At the end I share an example of one of the main tools I'm using, The Holistic Psychologist's Future Self Journal, and I explain why that tool--while simple and pretty straightforward-- is so effective in creating change when we commit to doing it.

(Real change is hard, folks! It really is :-) But it also is very possible!)

Read on to learn more about how I am circumventing this part of my own biology to get to the results I want.

Our limbic systems get confused and stop us from making progress. This post explains the key to preventing it from hi-jacking your attempts at positive change.

03/03/2024

*I'm going to be a new person in 30 days. And you can too, if you want.*

(Note: this is about a psychological tool that works better than pretty much anything else I've ever tried. I pinky swear that it's not about an MLM or diet or exercise regimen or anything like that)

So, today's Stacky McStackerton sounds outlandish, but it's actually completely true--as true as that statement could possibly be, and probably more true than you imagine.

The long and the short is, along with posting every day this month (goals! Wheee!)I'm using a technique called the Future Self Journal this month that I learned a few years ago from The Holistic Psychologist to cement the changes I'm making into my actual identity (which is how we make as close to permanent change as possible as humanoids.)

Using this thing actually changes your brain. I have done it before and loved it. The reason I don't do it constantly is because, like anything worthy of attention, it isn't effortless. It's not HARD, per se, but it is something that requires a lot of conscious awareness over time, and I haven't been able to do as much of that this last year or so cuz of trauma stuff.

But I can now. So I am ;-)

See comments below for link. (I'll be posting a few links from my 30 days of posts this, but I'm not into being super super spammy, so I'll space them out. So follow along there if you want to see the unfoldment.)

And like/ comment /subscribe/ etc if you're into it!

Love to all!

02/29/2024

SOMEBODY just posted a big, long Substack post about Argentina and creativity because SOMEBODY has experienced an unblocking of creativity--and SOMEBODY is pretty sure that that unblockage happened because of planets being in places in the sky, and that fact makes SOMEBODY uncomfortable. (Special hint: SOMEBODY is me.)

Hope you enjoy! Please like and subscribe! You are all the beeeeeeeeeeeest!!!!! (Link in comments)