Dr. Nari Jeter, Marriage and Family Therapist

10/11/2025

💔25 year old me: If he loved me, he wouldn’t hurt my feelings.

After 20 years of marriage, personal growth, and walking alongside countless couples in their marriages…

❤️‍🩹45 year old me: He will hurt me. I will hurt him. Because we love each other, we will repair.

Hurting your partner isn’t always intentional. It’s an inevitable part of relationships. But repair…that is a choice, and a certainty in safe, healthy relationships.

10/09/2025

There are exceptions to the rules, but here are trends I’m seeing in my practice with couples! #

10/02/2025

True confession: One of the guilty pleasures I have as a couples therapist is…

Watching couples who had an emotionally challenging session hug it out in the parking lot. 🤗

It makes me so proud to see repairing and comforting! Am I a creeper?! 👀 🙈

10/02/2025

09/15/2025

I’ve never liked the phrase “forgive and forget.” Maybe it’s because the forgetting part has always felt impossible for me. And if I can’t forget, does that mean I’ve failed at forgiveness altogether?

Over time, I’ve learned that forgiveness is only one piece of the healing journey. I can’t control what my mind holds onto, but I can choose how I meet those memories—with compassion for myself and others.

So the next time you find yourself wrestling with pain, hurt, or offense, remember this:

Forgiveness isn’t a one-time event. You may need to revisit the wound more than once, and that doesn’t make you weak, overly sensitive, or incapable of forgiving. Healing can take many forms—and forgetting isn’t the only measure of it.

09/15/2025

🌱 Letting go of approval has been my greatest act of self-care.

In the last year, I've worked diligently at confronting my need to please, be liked, and accepted. My biggest wake up call was that I was seeing how this continuous striving was keep me stressed and physically ill. Essentially, I was trading the approval of others for the rejection of myself.

It's been hard, but I've slowly been letting go of that belief. I am finding peace and safety in a life where my worth (and health) is not decided by how I perceive others feel about me.

If you struggle with this or have felt this same way, would you be willing to share something you've learned along the way in the comments below? 🥰

09/03/2025

Taylor Swift & Travis Kelce— will you make my Wildest Dreams come true and let me do your premarital counseling? 💕 I’ve got a Blank Space in my schedule…I’ll write your names. 😉

Okay, just shooting my shot 😅 After being featured in and commenting on the Love Story of the century, how could I not?!

But in all seriousness, premarital and couples counseling isn’t just for celebrities — it’s for anyone who wants to prepare for forever. 💍✨ Couples who invest in it build stronger communication, deeper trust, and shared dreams for the future.

So while my poster is fun, my message is serious: great loves — whether they start with a shiny ring or a Paper Ring — thrive when they’re nurtured intentionally. Taylor & Travis deserve this great love…and so do you.

Whether you’ve been engaged for a Fortnight or married 22 years, choose to grow together. If you want to preserve your Love Story, baby, just say yes…to premarital counseling and couples therapy. ✨

08/20/2025

Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce, Esther Perel, and…ME?!!
So excited to weigh in on compersion in Travis and Taylor’s relationship!

The couple is engaging in an important connective act, according to acclaimed psychotherapist Esther Perel, who specializes in human relationships.

08/15/2025

Excited to shared I had an interview feature for an article in SELF about commitment issues!

Because settling down with one person doesn’t have to feel like a trap.

07/28/2025

People pleasers often believe that love must be earned—through giving, sacrificing, and always anticipating others’ needs. It feels noble, even selfless. But living this way is exhausting.

Eventually, something shifts.
The pleaser realizes: this isn’t sustainable.
Their heart opens. The old pattern of earning approval no longer works.
What surfaces? Years of resentment. Unmet needs. Loneliness. Feeling unseen.

They begin a radical transformation—setting boundaries, prioritizing themselves. And in marriage, this shift can feel seismic. Partners may feel blindsided—confused by the distance, the anger, the change. The relationship begins to wobble.

But here’s the truth:
Marriages can survive this kind of growth.

It takes curiosity.
It requires honest communication.
It calls for new boundaries and radical acceptance.

Change doesn’t mean it’s broken.
It means it’s evolving.
Lay down the blame—and do the work to rebuild something stronger.

✨ Ready for this kind of shift in your relationship? Start with my Staying Coupled course or tune into the latest episode of The Coupled Podcast. 💬💍

Link in bio will take you there!

07/27/2025

It’s hard to ask for what you need.
It’s also hard to admit when you can’t meet someone else’s need.

I used to think saying no made me selfish or cold.
Now I know it just makes me honest.

Sometimes love sounds like:
“I care about you… but I can’t be or do what you’re asking for.”
And that’s a truth worth honoring—on both sides.

Wouldn’t you rather have the truth than wait in impatience or anxiety for something that’s not going to come?