Trauma Healing with Sharon Ann, Tampa, FL (2025)

09/13/2025

“Are You Pondering What I’m Pondering?” — How Brainspotting Helps Women Heal from Trauma and Dissociation

If you know Pinky and the Brain, a 90s cartoon on Cartoon Network, you know that sometimes the tiniest change in focus can lead to the biggest breakthroughs.

That’s exactly how Brainspotting works.

It helps you locate a specific spot in your visual field—your brainspot—where trauma (whether it’s big “T” trauma, little “t” trauma, distress, or overwhelming emotions) is stored in your nervous system.

I’m Sharon Ann Hee, a trauma coach for women navigating anxiety, depression, PTSD, and dissociation.

As someone who has lived through childhood trauma and dissociation, I can tell you firsthand how powerful it is to finally have a tool that helps your brain process what your mind has been holding for years.

Brainspotting isn’t just about eye positions—looking left, right, up at the ceiling, or down at the ground. It’s about reconnecting with your body and emotions in a safe, supported space.

For me, dissociation was a daily reality. I could be driving down I-4, not knowing where I was headed—or walking through Universal Studios CityWalk, unsure how I got there or how long I had been in the area. Parts of me felt invisible, even to myself.

I’ve seen how focusing on a brainspot can gently ground you in your body, bring buried memories to the surface, and release emotional weight you didn’t even know you were carrying.

When combined with mindfulness, such as prayer, yoga, meditation, and a resource spot (a visual anchor for safety), Brainspotting can restore a deep sense of control and stability—something that feels nearly impossible when trauma has taken over your life.

The science is just as compelling as the results.
Brainspotting targets specific neural pathways where trauma is stored—activating those networks so the brain can finally process and integrate what’s been stuck for years. It’s like flipping the script on your life story.

Through dual attunement—where the therapist mirrors your body cues—and optional bilateral sound, your brain’s natural healing capacity is amplified.

Unlike EMDR, which uses general eye movements, Brainspotting goes to the exact place trauma lives, making it an ideal choice for people who dissociate or have parts of themselves struggling to be heard.

If you’re a woman navigating PTSD, childhood trauma, or dissociation, I want you to know: there is hope. And healing doesn’t have to be harsh—it can be gentle, empowering, and deeply restorative.

Thank you for listening.

09/11/2025

Have you ever been the family scapegoat, blamed for things you never did and carrying shame that was never yours? Do you feel unseen while absorbing everyone else’s dysfunction, left questioning your worth? Have you longed to break free from the lies that keep you small and step into your true identity? “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed” (John 8:36)—your story is not blame, but freedom in Christ.

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09/11/2025

Ever felt like you're only seen when someone needs something from you? This poem unpacks the painful reality of being the family scapegoat—where your worth feels transactional and your voice is often silenced. In families marked by dysfunction, the scapegoat becomes both the emotional dumping ground and the go-to fixer, rarely receiving the same care in return. It's a raw reflection on what it means to be visible only in moments of convenience, yet invisible in times of need. Through honest language and deep emotional truth, this piece gives voice to the unspoken roles we carry and the healing that begins when we finally speak up. If you've ever felt unseen, unheard, or used—this is for you.

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09/11/2025

From Family Scapegoat to Freedom

Have you ever noticed how life seems smooth when you “play the part”—but the moment you step out of that role, everything shifts?

In the movie Monkey Trouble, the monkey was adored as long as he pleased his master—stealing watches to earn money for food, swiping a woman’s wedding ring to afford a night in a fancy hotel, taking a jacket from a park bench so his master wouldn’t be cold, or grabbing a hat from a table to block the sun during a beach walk. He did what was expected: woke up on cue, performed magic tricks, and took photos with tourists.

But the moment he chose honesty over deception and said, “I’ve had enough of the emotional abuse and being used for others’ personal gain. I’m choosing to walk in love, to be kind, and to build a better life than the one handed to me,” he was suddenly labeled defiant, ungrateful, and disobedient.

You're praised when you follow the script. But the moment you live in truth, you become the problem.

I know, because I was the family scapegoat.

My family had their justifications. My mom would say, “That’s just the way Sharon is,” as if my character explained away every conflict or moment of pain. My dad would dismiss any accountability by saying, “Everything stresses me out—now I need to eat.”

No one wanted to pause long enough to look in the mirror—to truly see how their own choices and behaviors affected others.

Like the monkey in Monkey Trouble, when I stopped “stealing” peace by enabling dysfunction and started living authentically, I became the villain in the story.

Psychology tells us that scapegoating is a classic tactic in dysfunctional systems—a way for families to protect their image by projecting blame onto one person. It’s easier to exile the scapegoat than to confront uncomfortable truths.

But scripture reminds us in John 8:32:
“You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
The scapegoat role is not truth—it’s a survival strategy rooted in shame and projection.

Romans 12:2 calls us not to conform to the patterns of this world but to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. And in Galatians 5:1, Paul reminds us:
“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.”
Freedom begins the moment we stop agreeing to play the part that was written for us.

So let me ask you:

Are you living like the “pleasing monkey,” doing what’s expected just to be liked—or are you ready to step into the truth of who you are, even if it means being misunderstood?

I’m a trauma coach for women battling anxiety, depression, PTSD, and dissociation. I also help adult survivors of family scapegoating break free from self-blame and rebuild self-trust through 1:1 trauma-informed coaching.

I currently have space to gift 2 free sessions to women who feel called to begin this journey. After that, I offer trauma coaching at a reduced rate to fit any budget.

If you're a woman who’s serious about changing your life—let’s connect.

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09/10/2025

Ever felt like no matter what you do, you're always the one to blame?
This dramatic monologue gives voice to the family scapegoat—the one burdened with blame, shame, and silence.
It unpacks the quiet cost: low self-worth, people-pleasing masks, and the struggle to speak up for yourself.
In families where dysfunction is hidden, the scapegoat becomes the emotional outlet—often at their own expense.
This poem sheds light on that hidden role and invites space for healing, recognition, and self-advocacy.
You are not alone—and it was never your fault.

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09/09/2025

Have you ever carried silent wounds from a place meant to heal you?
This poem dives deep into the intersection of brainspotting and church hurt—uncovering how trauma can hide in plain sight and how healing is still possible.
Through vivid imagery and raw emotion, I explore the power of brainspotting to gently guide survivors toward inner restoration.
If you’ve ever been wounded by religion but still long for peace—this one’s for you.

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09/05/2025

"Is It Really Where You’re Looking… or What You’re Avoiding?"

Have you ever noticed how your eyes seem to dart all over the place when you’re trying to recall something painful—or how making eye contact can feel absolutely unbearable after trauma? That’s not just a random behavior; it’s your brain’s way of protecting you. Many trauma survivors instinctively look away, not because they’re avoiding people, but because they’re avoiding pain. Brainspotting—a powerful, neuroscience-backed therapeutic method—dives into this exact phenomenon. It’s based on the idea that “where you look affects how you feel,” and when your eyes land on a specific spot, your brain can access deep, often buried emotional material tied to trauma. By holding that gaze, people begin to release blocked thoughts and feelings. It’s like your body and brain finally sync up and say, “Hey, it’s safe now. We can process this.” Brainspotting has been a lifeline for individuals dealing with PTSD, anxiety, depression, and all kinds of stress-related challenges.

Picture this: a woman living with dissociative identities is in session. She’s triggered but unsure why. As we explore, her eyes lock onto a certain point—almost unintentionally—and suddenly a wave of memory, emotion, and clarity begins to surface. That "spot" opened the door for integration, for healing. It’s as if each part of her system was finally seen and heard. James 1:5 says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him." This verse reminds us that when we feel lost or disconnected—even from ourselves—we are not alone. There is wisdom and healing available to us, even in the most fragmented parts of our stories. So, I’ll ask you this—what might your eyes be trying to say that your voice hasn’t had the words for yet? If you’re a female trauma survivor struggling with anxiety, depression, PTSD, or dissociation, I’d love to walk alongside you as a trauma coach and future social worker. I offer two FREE sessions to start, and after that, coaching that fits every budget. Let’s uncover what your healing journey could look like—your breakthrough might just begin with a glance. Curious? Let’s chat—come see what’s waiting for you in my back office.

09/03/2025

“Why did the trauma cross the corn maze? Because it couldn’t go around it—it had to go through it.” Brainspotting often feels a lot like that fall maze full of hay bales, scarecrows, and the unknown hiding just around the corner. Unlike traditional talk therapy, which stays mostly in the prefrontal cortex and relies on narrative processing, brainspotting directly accesses the subcortical brain—the place where trauma gets stuck. It’s about following your gaze, finding that “brainspot,” and allowing the nervous system to safely process what the mind can’t easily put into words. You don’t get to bypass the fear or confusion; you walk through it, step by step, until the path opens up.

For example, someone struggling with panic attacks may be guided to hold their gaze in a specific spot while recalling the sensation of tightness in their chest. As the therapist helps them stay attuned, the amygdala (the brain’s fear center) begins to discharge that stored activation, while the hippocampus reorganizes the memory in a safer context. What once felt overwhelming starts to lose its charge. That’s the beauty of brainspotting—it bypasses the roadblocks of language and taps into the brain’s innate ability to heal. So here’s my question for you: If you found yourself in a fall maze of your own trauma, would you keep circling the same turns—or would you let your brain lead you to the exit?

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