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09/29/2025

09/29/2025

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09/26/2025

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09/16/2025

One of the most supportive things you can do for another human is allow a safe environment for them to feel & be where they are emotionally, without trying to ‘fix it.’
And one way you can do that is by mirroring, which sometimes looks like helping people name how they’re feeling in a validating & non-judgmental way.

This can help all of us learn to be with our feelings with less judgment, to allow ourselves to feel so that we can move through & learn from our feelings, instead of internalizing, suppressing, or projecting them.

When we’re upset, we’re often not just feeling one feeling.
Feelings can be layered & complicated, especially because many have been shamed out of certain feelings at some point in our lives, so we instead opt to express in a way that we’ve learned is more socially acceptable.

For example, I may feel deeply sad but if I’ve been shamed out of crying, I might continue to say it’s not a big deal and hold back the tears that are begging to be released in an attempt to look strong, or to downplay what’s actually coming up for me.

So when you’re holding space for another, it can be incredibly helpful to mirror back what you notice them experiencing.

“Wow, that sounds super disheartening and isolating — and after you put in all that time and effort!”

If we’re learning how to come back to ourselves it can be hard to name what exactly what we’re feeling, but when someone else can accurately name the thing that’s going on inside of us (or in the situation), it touches on something real; it validates the feeling, allows it, and makes it safer for it to exist & to be present to it.

And simply allowing ourselves to feel what we need to feel can help us calm our nervous system to help us be present with the feeling so that we can actually process it.

This also gives people the space to say, “That’s not quite it...it’s more like this,” which can be very helpful, too.

The Relationship Management Workshop begins Oct 23th, and it’s the last workshop in 2025! If you'd like to practice skills like this in small, heart-centered community, we'd love to have you join us.

https://theeqschool.co/relationship-management-workshop

09/14/2025

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06/21/2025

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06/17/2025

It’s important to acknowledge that even if we love doing something and are passionate about it, overexerting ourselves without taking appropriate breaks or seeking variety can cause exhaustion, decreased motivation, and overall dissatisfaction. We all have limits, and reaching them is inevitable.

It’s critical to prioritize self-care to prevent burnout.