Lakewood Family Therapy

07/30/2025

07/27/2025

07/26/2025

You can feel grief, sadness, or nostalgia, and still know you made the right call ❤️

Save this post for the next time you need to hear it when emotions hit after making a decision.

07/20/2025

Many of us deeply one love, and have been taught I fear it. This is an attachment style where we can go hot or cold. We can come on strong and seek security— they feel a strong desire to self isolate.

Attachment is wired into our biology, but it’s also fluid. Through healthy communication, awareness, and a partner who is willing to do the work we can all be more secure.

Do you notice this in yourself?

07/08/2025

07/04/2025

Think kinder, look for anchors, stop switching, and more.

07/03/2025

{People-pleasing is not kindness.}

Living to make others happy often leaves you unhappy. People-pleasing is rooted in not feeling worthy of love, fearing rejection, or unhealthy self-esteem.

You can be in a healthy relationship with others AND take care of yourself.
Healthy people want you to be able to be happy and healthy.

You are not kind to yourself when you neglect your needs for the needs of others.

06/30/2025

06/29/2025

A reminder that your nervous system *can’t* regulate in toxic relationships, work environments, or under chronic stress. Our body is designed to be on guard when we’re not safe. Designed to protect us from threats. If you’re stuck in fight or flight, look at your closest relationships. Your body speaks truths, and tries to get your attention so you’ll listen

06/21/2025

06/19/2025

Clarity saves relationships.

06/14/2025

Walking helps us process emotions. Our eyes move naturally in bilateral motions as we walk— going from right to left. This turns on the logical and emotional parts of our brain and helps us make sense of what we feel.

So many people say “feel your feelings.” And it’s true we do need to feel them. But think a better way to say this is: “walk your feelings.” When we’re sitting still, parts of our brains are inactive. Our amygdala (threat center) can go haywire. Walking turns down the amygdala’s volume.

If you’re having a difficult conversation, walk with that person as you talk. This is especially important for people with complex trauma. You’ll both be more regulated and logical. You’ll have more access to the natural compassion that always lives within you.

Walk and then notice how much calmer and at peace you feel. Your body knows what to do. If you can, listen to the birds or the wind in the trees. For thousands of years these sounds grounded your ancestors— they’ll ground you too