Kathy Pauley, LMFT

09/20/2025

Teach them while they are still young👧🏻

09/17/2025

09/10/2025

How to parent correctly 👇🏾

08/12/2025

08/08/2025

"A narcissist wants the authority of a king while having the accountability of a toddler."
They want to be obeyed, praised, and prioritized without question, as if their mere presence entitles them to unwavering devotion. They crave admiration, control, and the spotlight — but when it comes time to take ownership for their behavior, they shrink into childish defensiveness. Confront them with the consequences of their actions, and suddenly you’re “attacking” them, being “too sensitive,” or “overreacting.” The same person who demands total control will act clueless when asked to acknowledge the pain they've caused.

They weaponize charm and charisma to win people over, then use manipulation and blame to avoid accountability. Their double standards are exhausting — they expect loyalty from you while they betray your trust, demand understanding while they invalidate your feelings, and require your emotional labor while offering none in return. They play victim when they’re actually the one causing harm, flipping the script so you end up apologizing for reacting to the very wounds they inflicted.

They want the throne but not the burden of leadership. They want obedience without integrity, love without effort, and forgiveness without apology. They set rules they themselves never follow, punish you for calling out hypocrisy, and spin stories so they can stay the hero while you're painted as the villain.

At their core, they aren’t looking for a partner — they’re looking for a servant, someone to carry the weight of their ego without ever asking them to lift a finger in return. And when they realize you’ve stopped worshiping them, when you finally demand truth, effort, or mutual respect — that's when their true colors explode. Not because you’ve done anything wrong, but because you dared to disturb their illusion of power without responsibility.

12/08/2024

Thinking of, praying for, and wishing you a relaxing, restful, restorative, and most of all, blessed weekend. ❤ -L

"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." Ephesians 4:32 ESV

11/17/2024

Always be yourself,