Veronica Cisneros, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist #96678

Veronica Cisneros, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist #96678 Let’s go beyond the norm—together. My personal and clinical experience has assisted me in providing help to others in times of emotional and mental distress.

Therapy designed to help you live life fully. 🌿
We’re here with real tools for real people—teens, couples, and women navigating anxiety, depression, and everyday stress. I specialize in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and have been trained in Cognitive Behavioral therapy (CBT) and Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA). In my experience these theories have provided my clients with the tools they need to manage their lives. I have experience as a therapist for dual diagnosis, addiction, mental health, self-harm and mental illness. I would be honored in assisting you with this unique life journey. I am currently providing counseling support in a private practice setting, in Temecula, Ca. I accept most insurances and have reasonable rates.

01/13/2026

Every therapist knows this pause. The one where a simple question opens about seventeen mental tabs at once.
There is the polite version. The shortened version. The version that keeps the session moving. And then there is the real one that carries years of context, patterns, and unspoken rules.
Take your time. You do not owe the full story all at once. Therapy is not about dumping everything in a single session. It is about slowly telling the truth in a way your nervous system can tolerate.
We can start wherever feels safest.

One of the most overlooked sources of burnout is the unspoken belief that falling apart is not an option. Many women I w...
01/12/2026

One of the most overlooked sources of burnout is the unspoken belief that falling apart is not an option. Many women I work with are not afraid of hard things. They are afraid of what would happen if they stopped being the strong one.
Here is the truth I wish more people heard earlier: holding it all together is not the same as being okay. Your nervous system does not care how competent you look. It responds to whether you feel supported, seen, and allowed to rest.
You are not weak for feeling this weight. You are tired because you have been carrying too much alone. Relief often starts when strength stops meaning silence.
If you want a space where you do not have to perform resilience, therapy can help.

01/09/2026

When you are two seconds from a nervous system collapse and suddenly the playlist hits your emotional support song.
Women are very good at rebounding. Smile back on. Dance it out. Override the meltdown. Get functional again in record time.
Helpful therapist note: just because you can bounce back does not mean your body has actually processed anything. Music can regulate you enough to get through the moment, but unprocessed overwhelm has a habit of showing up later as exhaustion, irritability, or tears over absolutely nothing.
Sometimes the healthiest move is not the rebound. It is the pause, the bathroom break, the fresh air, or the early exit.
Your nervous system deserves more than a temporary remix.

01/08/2026

Emotional disconnection does not just live in your thoughts. It shows up in your body.

When emotional safety erodes, your nervous system steps in to protect you. It quietly says, we are not opening up again until it feels safe. That protection can look like physical shutdown, low desire, or pulling away from intimacy.

This is not rejection. It is regulation.

Intimacy is not something you can force through effort or obligation. It grows out of safety, attunement, and emotional responsiveness. Until the emotional gap begins to close, the body often keeps saying no, even when the heart misses the closeness and wants the connection back.

If this feels familiar, it is not a sign that something is broken. It is information. And with the right support, safety can be rebuilt and connection can return.

Therapy: outsidethenormcounseling.com
Coaching: veronicacisneros.org





One of the biggest traps couples fall into is believing agreement equals connection. In reality, many strong relationshi...
01/07/2026

One of the biggest traps couples fall into is believing agreement equals connection. In reality, many strong relationships are built between two people who see the world very differently but know how to stay emotionally aligned.
As a therapist, I see couples make more progress when they stop trying to win the argument and start learning how to collaborate through difference. That shift changes everything.
I wrote more about what real teamwork actually looks like in relationships and why agreement is not the goal in the blog. Link in bio.
Read More Here: https://outsidethenormcounseling.com/when-conflict-feels-unsafe/

01/06/2026

Independent women don’t need help. We just like to offer a courtesy warning.

01/02/2026

Putting toxic people on mute rarely looks dramatic or clean. It is usually quiet, uncomfortable, and full of second-guessing. It looks like answering less, not explaining yourself, and letting some messages sit without a response while your nervous system learns that you are allowed to choose peace without a full justification. It often comes with guilt, grief, and the urge to go back to old patterns, especially if you were taught to keep the peace or manage other people’s emotions. Muting is not avoidance. It is creating enough space for your body to feel safe again.

If you want support navigating boundaries that do not blow up your life or relationships, therapy can help. Learn more at outsidethenormcounseling.com.





01/01/2026

This year, I hope you experience moments where your body exhales before your mind does. Where rest feels safe, not earned. And where you remember that needing support does not mean you are failing. It means you are human.

If you would like to work with me in a coaching capacity, send me a DM.

If you are looking to talk with a therapist, you can learn more at outsidethenormcounseling.com





12/30/2025

Trying to parent with intention while your nervous system pulls up every unhealed childhood memory like it’s auditioning for a feature film is… a lot. One part of you is calmly showing up, breaking cycles, and choosing something different. Another part is internally screaming, bracing, and wondering why this feels so intense. Both can exist at the same time. From a therapist’s perspective, that tension isn’t failure — it’s awareness colliding with old wiring in real time.

If this feels familiar and you want support untangling it, therapy can help. Learn more at outsidethenormcounseling.com.





12/16/2025

Pushing through” can look strong on the outside, but it often comes at a quiet cost.

When moms keep overriding exhaustion, stress doesn’t disappear. It settles into the body as irritability, shutdown, anxiety, resentment, or that numb feeling where even the good moments barely register. The holidays don’t cause burnout, they expose what has already been stretched too thin.

You are not weak for needing rest, support, or a pause. Ignoring your limits does not make you more devoted, it just makes recovery harder later. Care for yourself is not optional maintenance, it is what keeps everything else from falling apart.

12/13/2025

Me: “Okay, so for Christmas Eve we’re doing dinner at my mom’s, then Christmas morning here, then your family at 2pm, then cookie decorating, then the light show, then I still need to finish wrapping, and—”
My husband: buffering… 🌀😅
It’s not that he doesn’t care — it’s that holiday mental load is a whole skillset most women have been forced to master.
And carrying it alone? Exhausting.
Resentful-making.
Burnout in a Santa hat.
If the holidays already feel like a one-woman production, join us on Dec 16 for the webinar:
“Is He Emotionally Unavailable… or Are You Emotionally Burnt Out?”
Because you shouldn’t have to manage the season and the relationship by yourself. 🎄💛
https://outsidethenormcounseling.com/marriage-reset/
Speak to a therapist: outsidethenormcounseling.com or Call 951-395-3288 to book your in person or telehealth session.
⚠️ Disclaimer: This post is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health advice.

12/09/2025

Emotional burnout isn’t just being tired.
It’s being done.
It’s when your body keeps showing up, but your heart checked out three arguments ago.
As an LMFT, I see this all the time—women blaming themselves for “not trying hard enough,” when the truth is your nervous system is waving a white flag. Burnout blocks intimacy, not because you don’t care, but because you’ve had nothing left to give.
The reset starts with small steps:
✨ Name what’s happening instead of pushing through it.
✨ Shift from managing the relationship to sharing the load.
✨ Rebuild safety before you try to rebuild s*x or closeness.
If this feels painfully familiar, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to keep surviving your marriage on fumes.
We’re diving into this inside the Marriage Reset Webinar on December 16th.
Come learn how to reconnect, restart, and actually feel close again.
https://outsidethenormcounseling.com/marriage-reset/

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