EleMental Healing & Coaching

09/02/2025

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08/28/2025

4th year running as Tempe's Top Three Best Business.

This is thanks predominantly to my amazing clients!!

So honored and grateful to be where I am personally and professionally!

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08/25/2025

August Updates & Happenings:

New Availability, New Team Member & Changes for Longstanding Clients

Hello EleMental Healing & Coaching Family We hope this newsletter finds you enjoying the summer sunshine and feeling your very best. We have some brief but important updates to share with you this season - including a new team member, limited availability, and some changes for our longstanding clien...

08/18/2025

Jillian currently has a new client slot available! Excited to announce that if you've been waiting there's finally an opportunity!

08/18/2025

What if we looked at our activations as HEALING responses rather than TRAUMA responses?

After all, when we understand how to metabolize the activation, THAT is literally what creates healing and expands capacity in our nervous system.

This is essentially the foundation of somatic trauma healing; to re-experiene the activation in effectively tolerable and titrated doses so that it finally has the opportunity to metabolize, rather than constantly loop in the nervous system & subconscious processes of the body and mind.

THE BODY WANTS TO HEAL.

THE BODY & MIND KNOW HOW TO HEAL.

They just have to be allowed to work together. They have to experience (or re-experience) that being possible.

So much of our human experience with society and/or culture in the US these days competes with this, once natural process.

When our brain and body begin to work together, they learn, and they grow.

Neural circuitry is built along the way, similarly to a muscle being exercised.

Over time, this process becomes more implicit and begins to happen more instinctively.

After all these years working in trauma healing, I am convinced these "stress/trauma responses" are simply a clue to us that our systems want to restore the health that is our birthright.

Hence, the invitation to call them healing responses.

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07/20/2025

I recently found out I was named "Top 3 Best" in Tempe for the 5th year in a row.

These awards are always affirming that the years of hard work and dedication to my clients' wellbeing really means something.

I feel grateful and humbled to be in such an incredibly blessed place in this life. And so much gratitude to the amazing clients and families that I get to work with day in and out.

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06/03/2025

EVERY. CHILD. STRUGGLES.

My children struggle. In fact, my youngest had a meltdown just this morning.

Every child I've ever talked to or worked with struggles.

Every parenting, trauma, and/or attachment expert expert I've ever talked to has children who struggle.

I've worked with various children of other parenting, attachment, and/or trauma experts, and THEIR children struggle.

THE BEST PARENTS HAVE CHILDREN WHO STRUGGLE.

Struggles are part of the human experience.

PARENTING WELL DOES NOT MEAN OUR CHILDREN WON'T STRUGGLE. It doesn't even always necessarily mean that they will struggle less, for that matter.

What it often DOES mean is they don't have to feel so ISOLATED in their struggle. It means they have someone to weather those stormy seas ALONGSIDE them.

It means their struggle will be temporary and that the lessons and emotions will be integrated so they don't have to carry the burdens of unmet needs that occurred during that struggle.

SAFE AND SECURE RELATIONSHIPS ARE AN ANTIDOTE TO UNMET NEEDS.

They build resiliency, capacity, and a sense of competence for the next time a similar experience arises.

And when it feels as though YOU, as the parent are alone, I hope that YOU have (or find) someone to navigate those seas alongside you as well.

WE HEAL AND OVERCOME HARD THINGS IN FAR DEEPER WAYS IN SAFE/SECURE RELATIONSHIP.

It isn't about preventing struggle so much as it is fostering a sense of competence, confidence, and connection as those struggles and come and go.

These are the qualities that allow us to metabolize the struggles as they occur. When this happens, they no longer have to live in our nervous systems long after they are technically done and over with.

When this happens, we get to experience living more in the present moment and being more fully present and embodied for the moments - and seasons - where there IS joy, safety, connection, and peace.

We get to experience a sense of safety and security as more of a resting place.

My wish for all parents is that we can stop making parenting about perfection and prevention and have more access to focus on compassion and connection - for ourselves and for our children.

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04/23/2025

"Discipline is required to help someone solve a problem.

Punishment is making one suffer from having a problem.

To problem solve, we must focus on solutions, not retribution."

-adapted from L.R. Knost

03/29/2025

HIRING!
For a part-time (in-person) administrative/personal assistant position and looking to do so soon.

➡️JOB RESPONSIBILITIES are pretty minimal and mostly include the following:
✅️Opening/Closing office
✅️Running personal/administrative errands
✅️Cleaning the play therapy room between PT sessions

➡️HOURS:
✅️Roughly 10-15(ish) hours per week
Strictly Wednesdays & Fridays
✅️No earlier than 9:15am and no later than 6:45pm
✅️Possibly somewhat flexible for right candidate
✅️Major & school holidays/breaks off (w/ exception of summer)

➡️QUALIFICATIONS:
✅️Attention to detail & organizational awareness
✅️Warm/inviting/professional demeanor
✅️Dependable/timely with agreed upon hours (this is important)
✅️Solution focused mindset
✅️Able to pass background check

This would be a great job for a college student, somewhat stay at home mom, or anyone looking for a little extra income but who still wants to have off most school holidays/breaks (minus summer). There is a fair amount of intermittent freetime to do homework or other personal tasks. Office is located in Tempe.

➡️Please reach out here or email with any questions!
📧Jillian@elementalhealingcoaching.com

03/29/2025

We're HIRING!
For a part-time (in-person) administrative/personal assistant position and looking to do so soon.

➡️JOB RESPONSIBILITIES are pretty minimal and mostly include the following:
✅️Opening/Closing office
✅️Running personal/administrative errands
✅️Cleaning the play therapy room between PT sessions

➡️HOURS:
✅️Roughly 10-15(ish) hours per week
Strictly Wednesdays & Fridays
✅️No earlier than 9:15am and no later than 6:45pm
✅️Possibly somewhat flexible for right candidate
✅️Major & school holidays/breaks off (w/ exception of summer)

➡️QUALIFICATIONS:
✅️Attention to detail & organizational awareness
✅️Warm/inviting/professional demeanor
✅️Dependable/timely with agreed upon hours (this is important)
✅️Solution focused mindset
✅️Able to pass background check

This would be a great job for a college student, somewhat stay at home mom, or anyone looking for a little extra income but who still wants to have off most school holidays/breaks (minus summer). There is a fair amount of intermittent freetime to do homework or other personal tasks. Office is located in Tempe.

➡️Please reach out here or email with any questions!
📧Jillian@elementalhealingcoaching.com

03/24/2025

Feelings are meant to be felt not fixed. The way OUT of an emotional activation is moving THROUGH it.

Our physiology needs to be able to metabolize the activation, and we need to feel the cycle has been completed (both brain & body) in order for the experience to not be processed as a perceived unmet need (this is predominantly unconscious).

Once we process and metabolize the activation, it gets categorized in a way that creates more capacity, regulation, and resiliency around future activations that are similar.

If we don't, it gets stored as such in our brain and physiology. The next time we experience a similar activation, it will not only have more of an impact, but we will respond from a place of heightened fight/flight/freeze - where cognition is less available.

This understanding can help us to relate to ourselves and others in more supportive ways. The ability to honor and move through the activation is the basis of co-regulation. Co-regulation encourages and fosters self-regulation. It is absolutely a necessary building block for self-regulation.

The vast majority of the time, we are capable of experiencing very hard things so long as we have a safe other alongside us as we traverse the discomfort of the activation/emotion.

Not having a safe other is oftentimes what creates the trauma response more so than the rest of the circumstances that are related to our brain & body's perceived unmet emotional needs and activations.

Relating to ourselves with authenticity and compassion is a cornerstone that fosters the ability to hold compassion for others.

And, of course, compassion and authenticity beget compassion and authenticity. Therefore, if we want a child to learn to regulate their emotions is it 100% necessary they are allowed to experience them in a way where they know they don't have to be alone with them. The same goes for our inner child parts that may show up when we are in challenging social dynamics.

Technically, a primary emotion only has a life cycle of 90 seconds. The rest tends to be extended by avoidance/ruminating.

Again, I offer this...the way OUT is THROUGH dear ones. And it doesn't have to be alone.



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03/04/2025

"It is your divine right and your spiritual duty to protect your energy field from unwanted influences. In the wise words of Mahatma, do not allow anyone to walk through your mind with her dirty feet."

-Anthon St. Maarten

Also, it is ok if you don't yet know how to make this happen. These things are journeys meant for lots of sacred understanding and safe support that we don't have to traverse alone.

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