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Embodied Acceptance

I help women recover from body shame and increase their well-being through mindful movement & body aw Compassionate Movement For Body Love. But we need help.

I help women access their physical, spiritual, and emotional well-being through mindful movement and body-awareness. I work as a guide and collaborator to release stuck patterns and feelings, recover from body shame, and develop a more loving relationship with ourselves. You’ve come to the right place if:
*You love moving but don’t particularly enjoy regimented exercise
*You want a HAES®-aligned

movement experience where you feel truly accepted and comfortable
*You would like to reconnect to joy, freedom, playfulness and pleasure inherent in movement
*You want to move your body but worry you’re out of shape, don’t have the “right” body, are too old, or feel too uncoordinated
*You’re tired of struggling with shame and are looking to accept your body
*You want to explore your emotions with intuition, flow, and curiosity, rather than through analysis and logic

What I believe in
I believe in the body as our greatest teacher. I believe the body has information that our mind has walled off, that all of our life experiences accumulate to create our physical and emotional ecosystem, and we must address them all if we want to transform the system. We are built to survive, and I celebrate that. But often, what we need to survive does not serve us to thrive. We need our body to tell us what it feels, desires, and wants to release. The mind cannot do this work because it doesn’t hold that material. The body holds our past, and it is up to the body to release and transform it. When a person is met with radical acceptance through a compassionate, open, non-judgmental presence, they feel safe enough to become vulnerable and meet their authentic self. This is where the healing process can begin. I believe we can heal in an infinite number of ways: through sensual movement, playful invention, and communal connection. I believe in release, compassion, acceptance, honesty, and the body as the brain. I believe in listening, in being at the service of healing others, in the power of community. How I do this
As a therapist and healer my job is not to analyze, give advice or direct the client, but rather to make space for them to connect with the story their own body has to tell. I know that my clients are the best experts on their life. We use the body, and movement, as the map to the treasure chest of our feelings, needs, and memories. Joyful movement allows for freedom from shame, develops feelings of respect for our bodies, and generates momentum towards a deeper happiness and sense of peace. I provide an inclusive space for people to move without worrying about their shape, size, fitness level or experience. I create a love and acceptance-filled environment where respect, compassion, generosity, and delight are central to everything we do. About Odelia
Odelia has trained across multiple Somatics platforms including Bartenieff Fundamentals, Laban Movement Analysis, Body-Mind Centering™ (BMC), Yoga, and more. She has a BA in Psychology from The Open University, and was certified as a Doula by DONA (Doulas of North America) in 2003. She subsequently was certified as a Structural Yoga instructor through the Stone Center in 2004. In 2005, She graduated from the Leven Institute with dual certifications in Shake Your Soul™ and SomaSoul™and was certified as a Somatic Movement Therapist through ISMETA. She later became a teacher in Re-evaluation Counseling (RC), and has been counseling and teaching co-counseling privately and in groups since then. She started her Somatic and Movement Education Company, Movement Bliss, in 2013, offering classes and workshops, both live and virtual to hundreds of women. Recently, Odelia embarked on training in Intuitive Eating, and will soon be an IE practitioner. Her work focuses on self-acceptance, inclusion, compassion, and joy, and is HAES™-aligned.

04/29/2026

A lot of men think of romance as something “extra,” something women want, but something that doesn’t come naturally to them.

And honestly, I get it.
If you’re doing something that feels forced or scripted, it’s going to feel awkward.

But here’s the thing: for many women, romance isn’t just fluff.
It’s meaningful because it touches something deeper.

In Somatica, we talk about Core Desires - the emotional experiences people want to feel in intimacy.

For many women, those include things like:
✨ Feeling chosen - “You could have anyone, but you want me.”
✨ Feeling adored - “You see my beauty and you love it.”
✨ Feeling special - “You thought about me, specifically.”
✨ Feeling safe and connected - “You see me and you’re here with me.”

That’s what romance really is.
It’s not about the flowers or the fancy dinners - it’s about helping her feel these things.

And if classic romantic gestures don’t feel natural to you, that’s totally okay.

You can find your own way to create those feelings.

It might be a text that says, “I can’t wait to see you.”
Or taking something off her plate when she’s stressed.
Or just looking at her in that way that says, you’re mine.

At the same time, there’s nothing wrong with gestures like flowers or notes - especially when they come from a genuine place, when you’ve thought about her.

The magic isn’t in the gesture itself, but in the message underneath:

“I see you. I choose you. I want you.”

That’s what romance is really about.
Not performance - presence.
Not the gesture - the feeling it creates.

If you want to understand your partner on a deeper emotional level - to connect through presence, curiosity, and attunement - this is the work I love helping people with.

Through Somatic S*x and Relationship Coaching, I help men and couples move beyond “doing the right thing” and into truly feeling each other.

👉 If that’s something you want to experience, you can learn more and book a free consultation call by clicking the link in the bio

04/27/2026

For a long time, that felt embarrassing to admit.
Wanting attention was coded as:
needy
too much
not evolved enough
So I overrode it.
Minimized it.
Pretended I wanted something “bigger.”
But when I actually let myself feel into it, I realized,
I’m not talking about just any kind of attention.
I mean the kind that says:
I’m thinking about you.
You matter to me.
You live in my world even when you’re not here.
And when I receive that?
My nervous system settles.
My body softens.
Everything feels… okay again.

This is something I see all the time with my clients too.
The desire isn’t the problem.
The shame around the desire is.
Because when we shame it, it doesn’t go away.
It just comes out sideways:
overthinking
pulling away
needing reassurance but not asking for it
settling for crumbs

And here’s the part that changes everything:
It’s not just about learning how to ask for attention.

It’s about having the experience of someone meeting that desire with warmth…
with openness…
with actual pleasure.
Someone hearing:
“I want your attention”
and responding with:
Of course you do.
I love that you want that.
I want to give that to you.

That kind of response is deeply healing.
Because it contradicts the belief so many of us carry:
that wanting attention is a burden.
When in reality?
In the right dynamic, it’s inviting.
It’s connective.
It creates aliveness between two people.

This is the reclamation.

Not becoming someone who doesn’t need attention,
but becoming someone who can want it
without shame.

If this lands and you recognize yourself in it,
this is exactly the work I do with clients.
Learning how to:
feel your desire for attention
own it
and express it in a way that actually creates connection

👉 Link in bio to book a free consult

04/22/2026

The first quality of a great lover isn’t technique. It’s sensuality.

Sensuality isn’t about being s*xy or seductive.
It’s about how available your body is to sensation, moment by moment.

A sensual lover knows how to slow down.
How to feel more, not do more.
How to let sight, touch, smell, taste, sound, and attention lead the experience.

Sensuality is the willingness to linger.
To vary touch instead of rushing toward an outcome.
To stay with what’s happening now instead of chasing what’s supposed to happen next.

For many people, especially women, the most meaningful sexual experiences aren’t defined by or**sm.
They’re defined by moments.

Being kissed slowly.
Being touched with curiosity.
Being looked at with desire.
Being felt.

When sensuality is missing, secs often becomes rushed, goal-oriented, or performative.
Not because people don’t care, but because their nervous systems don’t know how to settle into feeling.

This is the heart of my work as a somatic s*x and relationship coach.

I help people cultivate sensuality by retraining the body to slow down without shutting down, to feel more without getting overwhelmed, and to shift from doing secs right to actually being present in it.

Sensuality is a skill.
And it’s learnable.

When the body feels met, listened to, and savored, desire doesn’t need to be forced.
It emerges.

✨ If you want support cultivating sensuality for deeper pleasure, stronger connection, or more aliveness in your secs life, I offer a free 20-minute consultation.

Book yours through the link in my bio

04/20/2026

And somehow…
that can feel even worse.
Because it doesn’t just hurt.
It destabilizes you.
The person you chose…
the one you built safety with…
is no longer the same.
And your mind goes to:
Was any of this real?
Why am I not enough anymore?
How could they do this to me?

But here’s the part no one really prepares us for:
Change is not the exception in long-term relationships.
It’s the rule.
People evolve.
Sexually.
Emotionally.
Politically.
Spiritually.
Sometimes slowly.
Sometimes in ways that feel like they came out of nowhere.
And often, one partner changes more than the other.

That’s where the rupture happens.
Not just because of the change itself,
but because of what it means.
Loss.
Rejection.
Disorientation.
And underneath all of that?
Grief.
Grief for who they were.
Grief for the relationship you thought you had.
Grief for the future you imagined.

Most people don’t know how to be with that.
So they fight it.
Or personalize it.
Or shut down.
And the relationship breaks, not because it had to…
but because there wasn’t space to process what was happening.

Because here’s the truth:
Not all change is a dealbreaker.
But unprocessed change almost always becomes one.

If there’s enough space to feel
to stay in the conversation
to get curious about each other
something new can emerge.
Not the same relationship.
But a different one.
One that reflects who you actually are now.
And yes… sometimes the most honest outcome is separation.
But many relationships end prematurely
because no one knows how to be with the shift.

This is the work I do.
Helping you stay grounded in the uncertainty,
process the emotional impact,
and figure out what’s actually possible from here.

If this is hitting close to home, you don’t have to navigate it alone.
You can book a free consultation through the link in my bio

04/15/2026

You know the relationship that starts off hot.
The chemistry is easy.
Secs feels effortless.

And then, over time, the secs fades.

The relationship might still be loving and close.
You talk. You support each other.
You feel emotionally connected.

But desire feels harder to access.

Most people are told that when this happens, they need more intimacy.
More communication.
More vulnerability.
More reassurance.

But intimacy and erotic desire don’t grow the same way.

Intimacy creates safety and familiarity.
Desire often needs space, tension, and difference.

As relationships deepen, many couples become very good at caring for each other emotionally. They regulate each other, prioritize harmony, and avoid rocking the boat. The bond grows stronger, but the erotic can quietly lose oxygen.

Not because love is gone.
Because desire needs room to want.

If this feels familiar, you’re not broken. Most of us were never taught how to hold closeness and desire at the same time.

What I see in my work isn’t a lack of desire.
It’s a lack of permission.

Permission to want what you want, even when it doesn’t fit the story of a “healthy” relationship.

I help people explore their Core Desires somatically, in the body, not just through conversation, so desire can come back online without sacrificing connection.

You don’t need more intimacy.
You might need more permission to want.

If you’re curious what your desire actually wants, you can book a free 20-minute consultation. Click the link in the bio

04/13/2026

I was recently in this exact spiral.

I asked my partner for something I find really hot.
He seemed into it. Enthusiastic, even.
And then… days went by. Nothing happened.
And I could feel the collapse start:
Maybe he doesn’t really care.
Maybe he’s not actually into it.
If I have to remind him, it doesn’t count.
Maybe what I want is too much.
Maybe I’ll never get what I want.

Sound familiar?

Here’s the part that hit me:
I was doing the exact thing I coach my clients not to do.
Turning one moment into a whole story about what’s possible for me in love, secs, and desire.

Because the truth is
Just because you asked once… doesn’t mean anything definitive.
Not about their desire.
Not about your worth.
Not about whether it will ever happen.

Asking for something that turns you on is vulnerable.
Of course you want it met with an immediate, enthusiastic yes, and follow-through without needing to say it again.

But that’s not how most humans work.
What turns you on might not live in their mental foreground.
It might not occur to them naturally.
They might need reminders, context, or the right moment.
That doesn’t mean they don’t want to give it to you.
It just means they’re human.

And here’s the deeper layer:
After it doesn’t happen, asking again can feel even more vulnerable.
Now there’s tension.
Maybe even urgency.
Maybe a little shame creeping in.
So we shut down.
We stop asking.
We protect ourselves.
And then quietly grieve not getting what we want.

What I’m practicing instead:
I stay connected to the desire.
I don’t make it mean something about me.
And I bring it back… when the moment actually supports it.
Often during or after intimacy.
When we’re already open, connected, playful.
Not as pressure.
Not as a test.
But as an invitation.

Because getting what you want in relationship isn’t about asking once perfectly.
It’s about staying in relationship with your desire long enough for it to be met.

If this is something you’re navigating in your relationships, wanting more, asking for more, and staying open enough to actually receive it. I work with clients on this exact edge.

You can book a free consultation, click the link in the bio

04/10/2026

There’s a phrase that’s been circulating lately:

“The Dating Recession.”

People are dating less.

Having less s*x.

Forming fewer relationships.

It’s tempting to point to obvious causes.

Dating apps. Social media. The aftermath of COVID.

And sure, those matter.

But from where I sit, working closely with people around intimacy, desire, and connection…

That’s not what’s actually driving it.

What I see, again and again, is this:

It’s not that people don’t want connection.

It’s that their bodies don’t feel safe enough for it.

We’re living in a time of:

• Constant visibility - being seen, judged, compared

• And at the same time, a lack of internal safety

Which creates a real tension:

You can crave connection deeply…

and still avoid it.

Because dating isn’t just about logistics.

It’s not only:

“Do I have time?”

“Are we compatible?”

Dating is visceral.

It asks you to:

Be seen

Be wanted

Risk rejection

Let yourself matter

And if your nervous system doesn’t feel safe with those experiences…

you’ll instinctively pull away.

Sometimes subtly.

It can look like:

• Staying on apps without ever meeting

• Losing interest the moment it gets real

Overanalyzing every message

• Feeling like you need to “work on yourself” before starting

• Or slowly opting out altogether

That’s the work I’m devoted to.

Supporting people in building:

• A grounded sense of safety in their body

• The ability to receive attention, desire, and pleasure

• The capacity to stay steady even when something matters

• And the resilience to move through rejection without shutting down

So that connection stops feeling like something to protect yourself from…

and becomes something you can actually experience.

If this speaks to you, I’d love to work with you.

You can book a free consultation through the link in my bio

Odelia Shargian, RSMT/E, SEP®, Somatica® Practitioner

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04/08/2026

In many couples, this is the pattern:
You feel guilty for having a boundary.
Your partner feels rejected by it.

So you override yourself to keep the peace.
Or you keep pushing, hoping the boundary will soften.

Both of you are trying to protect the relationship.
And both of you end up feeling less safe.

For example, maybe your partner wants something specific in bed that doesn’t feel right to you.

You care about them. You don’t want to disappoint them.

And still, your body tightens at the thought of saying yes.

For many of us, it’s scary to let our partner’s desire go unfulfilled.
Somewhere in your body lives the belief that saying no will lead to distance, resentment, or abandonment.
So you cross your own boundaries and call it compromise.

But boundaries aren’t walls.
They’re what make safety and trust possible.
And safety is what allows desire to grow instead of shut down.

Your job is to hold your boundary.
And when your partner gives you one, your job is to respect it, without pushing or testing it.
When boundaries are crossed repeatedly, resentment builds.

And resentment often shows up as sexual numbness, shutdown, or difficulty staying present.

Here’s an important distinction:
Accepting your partner’s desire is not the same as fulfilling it.

You can listen with curiosity and warmth without agreeing to act it out.
Sometimes, being deeply heard already meets the need.

If not, get curious about what your partner wants to feel.
Chosen. Wanted. Powerful. Adored.
Often, those feelings can be offered in other ways that don’t violate your boundary.

And sometimes, disappointment remains.
There is no relationship without it.
The question is whether disappointment leads to pressure and self-betrayal, or honesty and connection.

This is the work I support people with.
Learning how to honor boundaries and create the safety that allows desire to evolve.

✨ If this resonates, schedule a free 20-minute consultation call via the link in my bio .

04/06/2026

There was a moment in my Zumba class this week that stayed with me.
I caught myself closing my eyes and ignoring the mirror, not because I don’t want to see my body, but because I want to feel it.
When I stop tracking how I look…my body opens.
I move in ways that feel sensual, expressive, alive.
I’m not performing. I’m experiencing.
And even though my body doesn’t fit the thin ideal
in those moments, I truly don’t care.
Because I’m inside my pleasure.

This is exactly what happens in secs.
When you’re thinking about how you look: your stomach, your thighs, how you sound
you leave your body and go into your head.
This is called spectatoring.

And it’s one of the biggest contributors to:
• low desire
• difficulty feeling pleasure
• disconnection during secs

Because pleasure requires presence.
And presence requires feeling safe in your body.

But most of us were taught the opposite.
Through diet culture, fatphobia, and unrealistic beauty standards,
we learned to judge our bodies instead of live in them.
So in secs, we perform…instead of feel.

Here’s the truth:
✨ Pleasure is your birthright, now, not later.

Not when your body changes.
Not when you “fix” something.
Now.

The shift isn’t about loving how you look.
It’s about reconnecting to how you feel.
That’s the work I do with my clients:
moving from self-consciousness → to embodiment
from performance → to pleasure.

If you’re ready to experience secs from the inside out…
✨ Book a free consultation (link in bio )

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