Embodied Acceptance

Embodied Acceptance I help women recover from body shame and increase their well-being through mindful movement & body aw Compassionate Movement For Body Love. But we need help.

I help women access their physical, spiritual, and emotional well-being through mindful movement and body-awareness. I work as a guide and collaborator to release stuck patterns and feelings, recover from body shame, and develop a more loving relationship with ourselves. You’ve come to the right place if:
*You love moving but don’t particularly enjoy regimented exercise
*You want a HAES®-aligned movement experience where you feel truly accepted and comfortable
*You would like to reconnect to joy, freedom, playfulness and pleasure inherent in movement
*You want to move your body but worry you’re out of shape, don’t have the “right” body, are too old, or feel too uncoordinated
*You’re tired of struggling with shame and are looking to accept your body
*You want to explore your emotions with intuition, flow, and curiosity, rather than through analysis and logic

What I believe in
I believe in the body as our greatest teacher. I believe the body has information that our mind has walled off, that all of our life experiences accumulate to create our physical and emotional ecosystem, and we must address them all if we want to transform the system. We are built to survive, and I celebrate that. But often, what we need to survive does not serve us to thrive. We need our body to tell us what it feels, desires, and wants to release. The mind cannot do this work because it doesn’t hold that material. The body holds our past, and it is up to the body to release and transform it. When a person is met with radical acceptance through a compassionate, open, non-judgmental presence, they feel safe enough to become vulnerable and meet their authentic self. This is where the healing process can begin. I believe we can heal in an infinite number of ways: through sensual movement, playful invention, and communal connection. I believe in release, compassion, acceptance, honesty, and the body as the brain. I believe in listening, in being at the service of healing others, in the power of community. How I do this
As a therapist and healer my job is not to analyze, give advice or direct the client, but rather to make space for them to connect with the story their own body has to tell. I know that my clients are the best experts on their life. We use the body, and movement, as the map to the treasure chest of our feelings, needs, and memories. Joyful movement allows for freedom from shame, develops feelings of respect for our bodies, and generates momentum towards a deeper happiness and sense of peace. I provide an inclusive space for people to move without worrying about their shape, size, fitness level or experience. I create a love and acceptance-filled environment where respect, compassion, generosity, and delight are central to everything we do. About Odelia
Odelia has trained across multiple Somatics platforms including Bartenieff Fundamentals, Laban Movement Analysis, Body-Mind Centering™ (BMC), Yoga, and more. She has a BA in Psychology from The Open University, and was certified as a Doula by DONA (Doulas of North America) in 2003. She subsequently was certified as a Structural Yoga instructor through the Stone Center in 2004. In 2005, She graduated from the Leven Institute with dual certifications in Shake Your Soul™ and SomaSoul™and was certified as a Somatic Movement Therapist through ISMETA. She later became a teacher in Re-evaluation Counseling (RC), and has been counseling and teaching co-counseling privately and in groups since then. She started her Somatic and Movement Education Company, Movement Bliss, in 2013, offering classes and workshops, both live and virtual to hundreds of women. Recently, Odelia embarked on training in Intuitive Eating, and will soon be an IE practitioner. Her work focuses on self-acceptance, inclusion, compassion, and joy, and is HAES™-aligned.

Core Desires are what we want to feel during secs.What most people don’t know, is that they’re direct path to healing ou...
01/28/2026

Core Desires are what we want to feel during secs.

What most people don’t know, is that they’re direct path to healing our wounds through pleasure.

In this strategy they often include:

❤️ To feel worthy just for being
❤️ To be seen, celebrated, and deeply appreciated
❤️ To feel beautiful, attractive, desirable
❤️ To be used or taken advantage of in a way that feels chosen and safe
❤️ To be needed, fulfilling, and irreplaceable
❤️ To be approved of and chosen again and again

When these needs are met with love and care, the shame begins to melt.
You stop chasing worth and start resting in it.

Your relationships become places of nourishment, not performance.

This is the kind of healing I support through somatic s*x and relationship coaching. If this resonates, I invite you to book a free discovery call through the link in my bio:

✨ You don’t need to prove your worth. You already have it.

*Character strategies as defined by the Somatica®️ Method*

In many couples, this is the pattern:You feel guilty for having a boundary.Your partner feels rejected by it.So you over...
01/26/2026

In many couples, this is the pattern:
You feel guilty for having a boundary.
Your partner feels rejected by it.

So you override yourself to keep the peace.
Or you keep pushing, hoping the boundary will soften.

Both of you are trying to protect the relationship.
And both of you end up feeling less safe.

For example, maybe your partner wants something specific in bed that doesn’t feel right to you.

You care about them. You don’t want to disappoint them.

And still, your body tightens at the thought of saying yes.

For many of us, it’s scary to let our partner’s desire go unfulfilled.
Somewhere in your body lives the belief that saying no will lead to distance, resentment, or abandonment.
So you cross your own boundaries and call it compromise.

But boundaries aren’t walls.
They’re what make safety and trust possible.
And safety is what allows desire to grow instead of shut down.

Your job is to hold your boundary.
And when your partner gives you one, your job is to respect it, without pushing or testing it.
When boundaries are crossed repeatedly, resentment builds.

And resentment often shows up as sexual numbness, shutdown, or difficulty staying present.

Here’s an important distinction:
Accepting your partner’s desire is not the same as fulfilling it.

You can listen with curiosity and warmth without agreeing to act it out.
Sometimes, being deeply heard already meets the need.

If not, get curious about what your partner wants to feel.
Chosen. Wanted. Powerful. Adored.
Often, those feelings can be offered in other ways that don’t violate your boundary.

And sometimes, disappointment remains.
There is no relationship without it.
The question is whether disappointment leads to pressure and self-betrayal, or honesty and connection.

This is the work I support people with.
Learning how to honor boundaries and create the safety that allows desire to evolve.

✨ If this resonates, schedule a free 20-minute consultation call via the link in my bio .

Mainstream advice often sounds like:  “Just stop dating emotionally unavailable people.”Or:  “Heal your self-worth so yo...
01/21/2026

Mainstream advice often sounds like:
“Just stop dating emotionally unavailable people.”
Or:
“Heal your self-worth so you’re only attracted to healthy love.”

But what if you can’t just turn that attraction off?
What if it’s not something to fix—but something to understand?

In my practice as a Somatic S*x and Relationship Coach, we don’t try to override or shame your desire. We get curious about it.

Because your attraction isn’t random. It’s patterned.
It often points to your Core Desires—which are shaped by your core wounds: those early emotional imprints around love, safety, and worthiness.

You might feel drawn to emotionally unavailable people not because you’re broken—but because you're still hoping to finally receive the love that felt just out of reach back then. That pull is powerful.

Even with awareness, the desire might not fully go away. And that’s not just okay—it can actually be the key to unlocking deeper intimacy and greatly enhancing your s*xual experiences.

So instead of trying to eliminate it, we invite you to explore it—with agency and intention.

Here’s how:

🔁 Repetition with Agency

You consciously recreate the dynamic—perhaps with a partner who *is* emotionally available but can role-play being distant. You get to notice your reactions, feel your feelings fully, and choose new responses. Your nervous system gets the chance to complete an unfinished story.

🔄 Resourced Relationship Structures

If you're open to multiple connections, you might build relationships that meet your need for safety and availability—while also choosing to explore the emotional or erotic charge of less stable connections. You’re not putting all your needs on one person. You’re diversifying, resourcing, and staying empowered.

You’re not the child waiting at the door anymore.
You’re the adult, in choice, playing with your patterns—not ruled by them.

✨ Curious how this might look in your own life?
Let’s explore how your deepest longings can become a path to growth, connection, and aliveness. DM me or book a discovery call by clicking the link in the bio

Many people believe that if a relationship is healthy, rupture won’t happen.That’s a myth. Rupture is inevitable when tw...
01/19/2026

Many people believe that if a relationship is healthy, rupture won’t happen.

That’s a myth. Rupture is inevitable when two nervous systems, histories, and protective strategies meet in intimacy.

The couples who last aren’t the ones who never hurt each other.
They’re the ones who know how to come back after hurt — again and again.

Repair isn’t saying “sorry” quickly or explaining yourself better.
It’s the hardest part: acknowledging impact without defensiveness.

A Repair attempt is the moment someone prioritizes the relationship over being right by acknowledging the impact of their behavior without defensiveness.
Being able to say, “I see how that landed for you” without justifying, correcting, or minimizing is one of the strongest predictors of relational safety.

This is how secure attachment is built.
Not by avoiding rupture, but by rupturing and Repairing enough times that your nervous system learns: we can come back, I’m not alone, this bond is safe.

In my practice, when couples can’t move on from an issue, it’s rarely because they’re stuck on the content.
It’s because a Repair still needs to happen — and it hasn’t landed fully.

Repair is a skill.
It can be learned — in relationships, and within yourself.

💛 Want to learn how to Repair effectively in your relationship?

Book a free consultation call by clicking the link in the bio .

Ever notice yourself pulling away when things get too close? Or feeling like you have to do everything on your own? Or m...
01/14/2026

Ever notice yourself pulling away when things get too close?

Or feeling like you have to do everything on your own?

Or maybe you’re always chasing closeness, trying to prove your worth, or struggling to feel free in relationships?

These patterns aren’t random. They’re likely part of your character strategy.

The concept of character strategies comes from psychotherapy, where it was observed that we all develop emotional coping styles in response to early relational wounds.

The Somatica®️ method in which I’m trained, builds on this foundation with a body-based, relational, and pleasure-centered approach.

A character strategy forms when a specific emotional task in childhood - like trusting others, depending on someone, or feeling safe being vulnerable - gets disrupted.

The wound around that task becomes the seed of a lifelong pattern designed to keep us emotionally safe and connected. These patterns are brilliant, adaptive responses to situations that once felt overwhelming or unsafe.

Let me introduce you to the six main character strategies we work with - each one named after the wound it carries:

✨ Unsafe
✨ Under-Dependent
✨ Over-Dependent
✨ Unfree
✨ Invulnerable
✨ Unworthy

The names of the strategies are based on the wound, not the person. So if you have the “Unworthy” strategy, it doesn’t mean you are unworthy - it means they carry an early wound around not feeling worthy.

These names are invitations to understanding, not labels to get stuck in.

One of the most helpful things about knowing your strategy is that it gives you a clearer map to your core desires which is your pathway to healing through pleasure.

It also helps make sense of relationship dynamics - why certain things feel so triggering, why you keep ending up in the same stuck places, and how to move forward with more compassion.

Rather than trying to fix these strategies, we support healing - by identifying and fulfilling your core desires: the emotional longings that didn’t get met when your strategy formed.

You might already have a sense just from the names. Which one do you think might be your most dominant one (you might have more than one)?

In my work as a somatic s*x and relationship coach, I see this again and again.S*x doesn’t just reveal our wounds, it of...
01/12/2026

In my work as a somatic s*x and relationship coach, I see this again and again.
S*x doesn’t just reveal our wounds, it often holds the medicine our psyche has been trying to access all along.

This is where Core Desires come in.

Core Desires aren’t universal.
They’re specific. Personal. Shaped by how you were wounded.

They’re your psyche’s subconscious attempt to heal through pleasure, connection, and embodied experience.

Your desires aren’t random.
They reflect what you most longed to feel and didn’t get,
and what your system is now seeking to feel when you go to s*x.

In my work, I see two ways this healing happens through s*x.

One is resolution.

Being slowed down where you were rushed.
Being cherished and adored where you were overlooked.
Being able to soften and show vulnerability where you once had to stay guarded.

When s*x includes presence, attunement, and emotional staying, the nervous system can finally soften.
The urgency fades. The pattern loosens.

The other path is repetition with agency.

Some desires aren’t meant to disappear.
Some wounds shaped our erotic wiring.

Healing doesn’t always mean moving past a desire.
Sometimes it means choosing it consciously, with consent, voice, and power.

Power dynamics.
Surrender.
Being needed.
Being chosen.
Being taken.

When there is choice and agency, repetition isn’t reenactment.
It’s nourishment.

This is where a lot of shame shows up.
Desires like these are often labeled unhealed or trauma-driven.

In my work, I see something else.

When there is consent, choice, and agency, pleasure itself becomes a healing force.

There is no hierarchy here.

For some people, s*x heals through safety and rest.
For others, through aliveness and intensity.
For many, through both.

The real questions aren’t:
“Is this desire healed yet?”

They are:
Do I have choice?
Do I have agency?
Am I honoring my nervous system instead of shaming it?

This is the work I do with clients.

If you’re tired of judging your desires and ready to understand them,
you can book a free consultation call with me by clicking the link in my bio.

01/09/2026

In your intimate relationships, do you:

- Crave constant validation and reassurance?

- Feel anxious about being replaced?

- Sense heightened sensitivity to potential rejection?

- Find it hard to trust your partner’s feelings or commitment?

- Question your own worthiness in the relationship?

If so, you may have an anxious attachment style—no shame in that! I do, too!

Anxious attachment stems from inconsistent caregiving in childhood, leading to a fear of rejection or abandonment. 

It can cause you to seek constant closeness and validation, leaving you preoccupied with questions about being truly loved or valued. 

Small signs of distance might feel like looming rejection, which makes it hard to fully enjoy moments with your partner without worrying about the future.

When I work with anxiously attached clients in my relationship lab, we start by grounding in the present. 

I invite them to notice my presence with them, helping the mind shift from anxious thoughts to the safety of connection in the here and now. 

This helps calm the nervous system, allowing you to feel secure and enjoy the relationship as it unfolds.

If staying present feels like a struggle, I’m here to help! Click the link below to book a free discovery call: 

https://embodiedacceptancecheduling.as.me/schedule/3fa34b41/appointment/32019316/calendar/4509338?appointmentTypeIds[]=32019316

       

It’s not a great feeling. That worry. That stress. That “did I do something wrong”? experience …Anxious attachment is a ...
01/08/2026

It’s not a great feeling. That worry. That stress. That “did I do something wrong”? experience …

Anxious attachment is a style characterized by a deep fear of rejection and abandonment, often rooted in inconsistent or unpredictable caregiving experiences during childhood.

You may feel a constant need for reassurance, closeness, and validation from your partner.

You can become preoccupied with your relationships, worrying about whether you’re truly loved or valued, and might use any small sign of distance or ambivalence to mean you’re about to be rejected.

You may also ruminate on relationship issues, struggle with independence, or fear that a partner’s personal space means they’re about to leave.

The hardest thing about being anxiously attached is that it can be challenging to fully enjoy the moments we spend with our love partner because we’re too busy thinking about the next time we’re going to see them or if there even will be a “next time”.

You’re rarely in the present moment, because you’re already preparing for the “end”.

When I work with anxiously attached clients in my relationship lab, I start by inviting them to notice that I’m there and see how much they can take my presence in.

As soon as they try that, their mind goes to their anxious thoughts which represent lack and what’s missing.

I gently point them back to noticing what’s here now and stay with that. We take as much time as we need for their nervous system to slow down and register that there’s someone there with them and that it’s actually safe.

If you find it challenging to stay present, I’m here to help.

Book a free consultation with me by clicking the link in the bio

Sexual incompatibility isn’t a failure.Sometimes, it’s a crossroads.In my work as a somatic s*x & relationship coach, I ...
01/05/2026

Sexual incompatibility isn’t a failure.
Sometimes, it’s a crossroads.

In my work as a somatic s*x & relationship coach, I see how much can be shifted sexually when couples have the right tools.

Desire, arousal, mismatch, shutdown, shame—there’s often far more possibility than people realize.

And… sometimes, even after we try everything, the gap doesn’t close.

That’s not the end of the work.
That’s where *choice* begins.

Staying in a relationship while being sexually unsatisfied is a choice.
A valid one.

The problem isn’t staying.
The problem is staying without knowing you’re choosing it.

When you don’t see it as a choice, it can feel like:
– being trapped
– powerless
– resentful
– quietly depleted

But when you consciously say:
“I’m choosing this relationship for companionship, emotional safety, shared life, family, or stability - even if s*x isn’t what I want…”

Something shifts.

You move from victimhood to agency.

We always have options.
They may be painful.
They may all involve loss.
But not choosing is still a choice—and usually the one that hurts the most.

✨ My work is to help you:
– explore what *can* be changed sexually (using tools most professionals don’t even consider)
– tell the truth about what can’t
– and make conscious, empowered choices—whatever you decide

If you’re stuck in sexual incompatibility and don’t know what you’re choosing anymore, I can help.

👉 DM me or book a free consultation by clicking then the link in my bio

Power doesn’t come from perfect options.
It comes from knowing you chose.

01/02/2026

People often ask me, "What’s the difference between couples therapy, s\*x therapy, and s\*x & relationship coaching?"

Here’s how I explain it:

**It’s SOMATIC**: Coaching prioritizes the body’s wisdom. Emotions aren't just thoughts—they’re physical sensations too. By focusing on bodily awareness, we access deeper levels of healing and growth. This approach helps you embody change, not just think about it.

**It’s EXPERIENTIAL**: Real growth happens through *doing*, not just discussing. Coaching uses live, guided exercises tailored to your goals. Instead of "homework" to complete later, you’re actively practicing new skills in the moment.

**It’s RELATIONAL**: Unlike therapy, where the practitioner remains a neutral observer, coaching invites a more engaged relationship. Our interactions become a practice ground for new relational patterns, offering real-time feedback and support for lasting change.

**It’s PLEASURE-BASED**: While therapy often focuses on "working through trauma," coaching leans into *pleasure as a path to healing*. Instead of resisting or "fixing" yourself, we embrace your survival strategies and use joy, play, and consensual exploration to create new, liberating experiences.

As you can see, coaching offers more dynamic and experiential opportunities than traditional therapy. It’s immersive, body-based, and rooted in the present moment. While the work can be intense and push boundaries, clear agreements and ethical safeguards ensure both you and I stay safe, supported, and deeply respected throughout the process.

**What It’s NOT**: 

To be clear, s\*x & relationship coaching is *NOT* s\*x work or surrogacy. Our work centers on emotional embodiment, relational skills, and personal growth—not physical intimacy with the coach.

**Curious about what’s possible for you in this work?** 

Drop your questions in the comments or send me a DM. If you’re ready to experience it firsthand, schedule a discovery call here: https://embodiedacceptancecheduling.as.me/schedule/3fa34b41/appointment/32019316/calendar/4509338?appointmentTypeIds[]=32019316

       

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