12/15/2025
Great s-x doesn’t happen by magic. It happens through communication.
And no, I don’t mean pausing in the middle of the action for a deep heart-to-heart (unless that’s your thing 😉).
I’m talking about intentional communication that happens *before, during, and after* s*x—and how each moment calls for something different.
Because what works before doesn’t always work during. And what you say after can shape what happens next.
Here’s how to approach each phase:
💬 Before: This is the time for open, curious, even playful conversations. Talking about desires, boundaries, and turn-ons ahead of time creates emotional safety—and can build anticipation and enhance the foreplay. It sets the stage for a more connected and satisfying experience.
💬 During: Keep it short, direct, and embodied. In the heat of the moment, too many words (or questions like “What do you want me to do?”) can pull someone out of their body. Instead, use simple cues: yes, more, slower, faster, don’t stop, right there. These kinds of micro-communications can make s-x way hotter and more attuned.
💬 After: This is your moment to connect, reflect, and integrate. A soft check-in like “What did you love?” or “How are you feeling?” can deepen intimacy and help your next experience be even more satisfying.
Most of us never learned *how* to talk about s-x in a way that actually brings us closer. But it’s a skill—and one I help my clients practice all the time.
As a S-x and Relationship coach, I support individuals and couples in finding the words, timing, gestures, and tone that makes communication feel natural, s*xy, and connecting.
Because great s-x isn’t just about technique—it’s about showing up as your full, authentic self… and being met there.
If you’re ready to make communication part of your pleasure practice, I’m here for it. 💗
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