Susie Cobb Therapy

Susie Cobb Therapy When faced with life's greatest challenges, you and your family deserve compassionate support from someone who understands.

Susie Cobb is an LMFT, Parent Coach and Perinatal Specialist.

Children should not have to practice lockdown drills.Parents should not have to calculate survival odds with every drop-...
08/29/2025

Children should not have to practice lockdown drills.

Parents should not have to calculate survival odds with every drop-off.

Classrooms should not be crime scenes.

And yet here we are, again and again, because our government refuses to pass the reforms that could and should save lives.

This is not random. This is not inevitable.
This is policy. It is the direct result of leaders who put the gun lobby above children.

Every empty desk, every grieving parent, every child who never comes home is on the hands of those who stall and stall and stall while children die.

It is past time to choose courage over cowardice, lives over profit, children over guns.

If your heart is breaking, you are not alone. Squeeze your babies tight tonight. Tomorrow we fight again.

It was never just milk.It was the ache of swollen hours,the offering of sleep-starved arms,the quiet pulse of presencein...
08/05/2025

It was never just milk.
It was the ache of swollen hours,
the offering of sleep-starved arms,
the quiet pulse of presence
in a world that kept moving.

It was cracked skin and clumsy latches.
It was guilt that came uninvited
and grief that whispered,
“Is this enough?”

It was learning to trust a body
you’d once been taught to silence
a body that fed, and failed,
and tried again.

It was holding still
when you wanted to run.
It was letting go
when you wanted to hold on.

It was love,
in its most undone form
not always gentle,
but always real.

And when it ended
or never began
there was still you.

Still loving.
Still offering.
Still enough.

In a culture that worships productivity, rest is framed as laziness.But rest is not a weakness. It is a boundary. A birt...
08/05/2025

In a culture that worships productivity, rest is framed as laziness.
But rest is not a weakness. It is a boundary. A birthright. A radical act.

This framing comes directly from the work of Tricia Hersey, founder of The Nap Ministry, who draws from Black liberation theology, womanist theory, and the legacy of enslaved African people who were denied rest for generations.

She teaches:

“We will rest. We will resist. We will imagine.”

Rest is not self-indulgence.
It’s not a luxury reserved for people with nannies, trust funds, or light workloads.

Rest is resistance to grind culture, capitalism, and generational burnout.
And for parents—especially mothers, especially Black and Brown parents—rest can be a direct refusal to perpetuate systems that deplete us while demanding more.

So when you rest, even in 10-minute stretches,
You’re not failing.
You’re remembering who you are.
You’re reclaiming your humanity.


Social media offers countless ways to connect with each other, find creative outlets, and witness the many textures of m...
08/05/2025

Social media offers countless ways to connect with each other, find creative outlets, and witness the many textures of modern motherhood.
But it also invites performance.
It shapes how we show up.
It rewards polish, humor, relatability—until the performance starts to feel like the role itself.

There’s the minimalist mom with linen everything and quiet mornings.
The glam mom who makes postpartum look like a magazine shoot.
The hot mess mom who laughs through the chaos.
The gentle mom who always knows what to say.
The healing mom who shares her shadows, bravely.

And then—there’s you.
Trying to be honest.
Trying to belong.
Trying not to disappear in it all.

The truth is:
There’s no right way to be a mom online.
And it’s okay to log off.

You don’t owe the internet your motherhood.
You don’t have to turn your exhaustion into a brand.
You don’t have to make your healing aesthetic.

You are real when you show up.
You are real when you step away.
And some of the most sacred parts of motherhood will never be seen—only felt.

Maybe no one yelled.Maybe they smiled while they ignored your “no.”Maybe you were told to be grateful, to focus on the b...
08/02/2025

Maybe no one yelled.
Maybe they smiled while they ignored your “no.”
Maybe you were told to be grateful, to focus on the baby, to move on.

But your body remembers what they don’t want to name:
the fear, the pressure, the loss of control, the moment you disappeared in the room where you were supposed to matter most.

Birth trauma is real.
Obstetrical violence is real.
And if it felt like trauma—it was.

You don’t owe anyone a perfect birth story.
You deserve space to grieve, to name what happened, and to heal.
We believe you.

Sometimes it hits you in the quiet moments:You’re not just raising your child.You’re raising you, too.That part of you t...
08/02/2025

Sometimes it hits you in the quiet moments:
You’re not just raising your child.
You’re raising you, too.

That part of you that didn’t get to cry without being told to toughen up.
That part of you that wanted to be held longer.
That part of you that needed someone to say, “It’s okay. I’m here. You’re safe.”

When you pause to comfort your child instead of scolding them…
When you say, “You’re allowed to feel this,”
When you stay calm through the meltdown even though you never had that kind of calm growing up—
That’s reparenting.

Healing doesn’t always look like therapy sessions or journal pages.
Sometimes, it looks like bedtime stories and deep breaths.


Before becoming a parent, healing might have felt impossible—or like a luxury we couldn’t afford.But then these little p...
07/30/2025

Before becoming a parent, healing might have felt impossible—or like a luxury we couldn’t afford.
But then these little people come along and suddenly… we need to change.
To protect them.
To show them something better.
And in doing that, we start to believe we’re worthy of that same care, too.

Parenting can reopen old wounds—but it can also guide us toward healing.
Do it for them. And yes, do it for you too. 💛

Pregnancy after miscarriage or fetal loss is a deeply emotional journey, marked by a blend of hope, fear, and healing. F...
09/04/2024

Pregnancy after miscarriage or fetal loss is a deeply emotional journey, marked by a blend of hope, fear, and healing. For many, it is a time of profound inner conflict. Immense joy of expecting a new life can be shadowed by the lingering grief and anxiety from the previous loss. The experience is often characterized by heightened sensitivity to every aspect of the pregnancy. Each doctor’s appointment, ultrasound, and milestone is met with a mix of relief and apprehension.

For those who have experienced loss, the journey is not just about physical health but also emotional resilience. It involves navigating a complex web of feelings, and sometimes guilt, as they grapple with the idea of moving forward while still honoring the baby they lost. The psychological impact can be significant, with many experiencing a form of post-traumatic stress, manifesting as hypervigilance and an overwhelming fear of losing another pregnancy.

Support from loved ones, healthcare providers, and mental health services is crucial during this time. Education and open conversations about the reality of pregnancy after loss can help reduce feelings of isolation and provide a sense of community. It’s important to recognize that every person’s experience is unique, and their feelings are valid. By acknowledging the emotional complexity of this journey, we can better support those who are bravely walking the path of pregnancy after loss, offering them the compassion and understanding they deserve.

Any time a child’s routine changes, so do their parents. Unfortunately, this means that our relationships will be affect...
08/20/2024

Any time a child’s routine changes, so do their parents. Unfortunately, this means that our relationships will be affected too. How do we stay connected to our partners when there is less and less time available for intimacy?

Prioritizing our relationships in parenthood is crucial to our well-being and subsequently the well-being of our children. However, periods of unintentional abstinence do not have to mean doom for the relationship. Communication is key and can help in reducing feelings of anxiety or shame about your changing s*x life. Talk to your partner about your needs, your limitations and your desires. Be honest about your exhaustion, feelings of being touched out, or desire for closeness. Wherever you are in your parenting journey, be open to the possibility that your partner may be struggling with their own unique challenges. Offer emotional support and acceptance to your partner. Remember that emotional intimacy is the foundation of s*xual intimacy and that all stages of childhood depart as quickly as they arrive.

While our culture has only recently begun to name and identify the experience of Mom Rage, this is not a new phenomenon....
08/19/2024

While our culture has only recently begun to name and identify the experience of Mom Rage, this is not a new phenomenon. Since the 1950s, women have been prescribed medications to help them achieve a calmer attitude, mainly in the form of sedatives and benzodiazepines. As we gain equality, move away from behaviorism and toward greater understanding of mental health, Mom Rage has become a topic of interest for many researchers and specialists. It is common and nonetheless many moms are filled with shame when they exhibit these outbursts.

Lack of support systems and an increased pace of life can undoubtedly be made to blame for this experience. But, in order to truly help mothers, we must first destigmatize the reality of its presence. If you are struggling with Mom Rage, I see you and there is help. Step one is awareness and understanding of where the emotions come from, with safe people who can empathize with your experience. Don’t allow shame to suffocate you. Talk to people who got it, find a therapist who understands. There are tools that can help and you don’t have to do it alone.

When my son was 18 months old, I found myself dreading coming home from work. He had not yet learned to put together lan...
08/17/2024

When my son was 18 months old, I found myself dreading coming home from work. He had not yet learned to put together language and would become so easily frustrated when he could not execute a task. His screams were like nails clawing at my brain. The school was asking us to have him evaluated for speech delays. I doubted whether or not I was cut out to be a Mom and felt a deep sense of sadness that I couldn’t. “figure out” how to mother him.

As we worked with his language skills, and he improved his ability to ask for what he needed, our relationship changed once again. As it does in each phase. From newborn to infant, from infant to toddler, from toddler to older toddler, it goes on and on. We are faced with different challenges and at each one we are asked to change ourselves, to rise to the occasion and meet our children where they are at. This constant pulling on our minds to grow, to dig deeper, to maintain empathy and patience is skill that no human is inherently equipped to fulfill. Certainly some folks may come to the table with greater assets required to meet these requests. But undoubtedly, all of us struggle.

What I realized in this chapter was a deep understanding that it’s OK to not like every part of motherhood, every phase. That it doesn’t make someone a bad mom, and it doesn’t make them incapable of loving their children or creating healthy attachments. Motherhood is a constant dance between joy and grief. Joy for what is to come, and grief for what has been lost. It is OK for you to come into this process at whatever pace you need. This transformation is not an easy one and so I hope you can have patience and compassion for yourselfMama, the way you do for your children. You’re doing a good job. You are enough.

Sometimes the problem with self betterment is never feeling good enough. We live in a culture of wellness that is consta...
06/04/2024

Sometimes the problem with self betterment is never feeling good enough. We live in a culture of wellness that is constantly reminding us of ways we can improve. We are asked to do more and try harder with little emphasis on being present with our children or feeling that we are enough. What would happen if we told parents they are doing a good job, even when they struggle? What if there were less shame and more understanding of our own humanness?

If you yelled today, you are enough. If you forgot that favorite stuffed animal or snack, you are enough. If you chose screen time over imaginative play, you are enough. Your worth is not measured by one moment of your parenting, but by your consistent presence and innate worthiness. You are doing a good job, even on the hard days.

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