11/15/2022
My kids are raised in a home where they are taught breathing techniques for self regulation
Where we use affirmations, singing Bowls, crystals & energy work as our form of healing practices
They are taught about high vibrational foods & plant medicine.
We acknowledge them as the tiny humans they are. They are allowed to make mistakes, have bad days & are not punished or expected to have emotional regulation skills outside of the scope of their ability or beyond what most adults are capable of.
Their feelings are heard. We try to allow space for them to make their own decisions so they feel acknowledged and empowered.
But most importantly....we practice rigorous self-honesty & radical accountability for our own trauma & continuous process of healing so that we do not project our own pain & suffering onto them, to the best of our ability.
Which has started with the awareness, admission, accountability and self-forgiveness for the ways in which we already have.
For example (and I've heard many other moms make this same claim), I used to be the mom that said "I just don't get on the ground & play with my kids. I'm just not THAT mom. I'll take them places but I just am not going to sit on the ground and play barbies. It's just not my thing." That was my language.
But the truth is- that was the language of a still hurting and broken inner child whose own mother never played with her.
Whose childhood memories were much more dark & traumatic.
I had to look at the reasons why playing with my own children felt not only uncomfortable but completely unnatural. I had to go back and address the pain i felt as a child when i was forced to take on the "mothering" & adult role at an early age and lost my own ability to play.
And then I had to take this information, this pain & I had to do different.
So now I get down on the ground as often as I can (to the best of my ability) & am learning how to play again myself.
Allowing any pain & wounds to surface so it can be addressed. Healing ME to prevent them from having a childhood they have to heal from later.
That is the process of alchemy & transmutation
When we know better, we must do better.