Niki Payne

Former freelance writer & marketing pro turned clinical hypnotherapist & mental health advocate

If you've ever felt constrained by the status quo, and you're tired of trying to fit into some kind of a box, you're not alone. Many people I work with yearn for something more, something that lives both within and beyond their reach at the same time. My job is the challenge the way you think and transform the beliefs that govern your reality. My soul's purpose is to create paradigms shifts that move and inspire.

10/26/2025

Birthday brunch & fun continues

10/25/2025

What if what you’re calling gaslighting
is actually two nervous systems protecting themselves from pain?

Sometimes what feels like dismissal
is really discomfort avoidance.
And sometimes what we call accountability
is just our anxiety demanding control.

Real accountability repairs relationships, not reputations.
It starts when you can stay curious instead of defensive
and practice self-regulation instead of projection.

✨ If this hit home, share it with someone learning to fight for connection, not about it.

10/22/2025

🍆 & 🍑 envy — it’s a thing for people with enough humility to confront it. DM me if you want the link to read it :)

I wrote this one year ago before anyone cared; one year later and it’s the second most seen article on my website in the last 90 days… 🤔

I write stuff that piques my interest. And people find me online. I can’t say I’m surprised that the third most trending article I wrote a year ago is about accountability in relationships… 🤭

It’s nice to be back on the map 🗺️
Now I just gotta make my website look better and optimize it better 😭

10/21/2025

We call it entertainment, but it’s really exposure therapy for the human condition.

Maybe that’s why we can’t look away 👀

Squid Game. The Boys. Alice in Borderland. The Walking Dead. We watch people fight to survive while pretending we’re not playing our own quieter version of the same game.

New essay’s up: Why We’re Obsessed with Survival TV Shows — and What It Reveals About the Human Psyche.

Read it if you’re curious what your favorite show says about how you love, lead, and compete.

10/20/2025

40 years. 40 lessons. Countless evolutions.
This is the woman I fought to become — and the wisdom I’d pass to the version of me still figuring it all out. ☕️💫
Here’s to the next chapter — lived with more purpose, power, and peace than ever before.

DM “EMAIL” to join my inner circle and personal growth lab. 📧

10/17/2025

A peaceful relationship isn’t one without stress — it’s one that knows how to use it.

Because not all tension is toxic.
Some stress destroys connection (that’s distress).
Other stress deepens it (that’s eustress).

Distress says, “I’m protecting myself from you.”
Eustress says, “I’m learning how to stay connected to you.”

The couples who grow together aren’t avoiding conflict — they’re learning how to use it expand the love maps they have for each other while cultivating deeper intimacy by turning conflict into connection.

Some people run from tension to protect the peace…
not realizing they’re also running from growth.

✨ Curious which type of stress is shaping your love life right now? Let’s talk about it in the DMs.

10/13/2025

It’s that time of year again — when the days get shorter, the nights feel longer, and everything we’ve been avoiding starts to catch up with us. 💭

If you’re feeling fat, broke, lonely (or all of the above), you’re not broken. You’re human. And the truth is, winter blues hit harder when you’re trying to do life alone.

We weren’t meant to carry our struggles in silence or figure everything out by ourselves. Healing happens in connection — in safe spaces where we can be seen, supported, and reminded of our worth. ✨

That’s why I’m creating Healthy, Wealthy, Love — a clinical process group based in San Pedro for women who are done pretending they’re fine and ready to build lives that actually feel good from the inside out.

🪩 If that’s you, DM me “HWL” to join the interest list and I’ll send you the details before doors open this winter! Stay tuned for more info :)

10/09/2025

Monday morning networking
Thanks for hosting

09/18/2025

I wish…

09/12/2025

Let’s be real… relationships, require care, attention, and maintenance—just like pets. Is your relationship more like a dog that requires multiple walks a day or is your relationship more like a cat that requires litter box maintenance? Understanding what kind of relationship you’re actually in can save you a lot of drama.

Read my blog post and tell me I’m wrong… 😂

https://www.nikipayne.com/relationships-are-like-pets/

Or click link in bio and go to Blog for recently published works.

https://www.nikipayne.com/relationships-are-like-pets/

09/10/2025

✨ Working with me isn’t for everyone. And that’s the point.

I don’t do quick fixes.
I won’t coddle you.
I won’t just take your side because we share the same gender.

If you want someone to nod along while you vent, I’m not your person.

But if you’re ready to face your patterns, take accountability, and level up in life and love — then you’ll find that my mix of compassion, strategy, and real talk is exactly what you’ve been needing.

For the first time, I’m opening a group coaching program so more women can access this work.

Same depth. Same accountability. Same transformation.

🔥 I’m beta-launching with just 6 spots.

👉 If you’ve read this far and felt called out (in all the best ways), consider this your sign.

💌 DM “GAME ON” to apply.

09/04/2025

💡The best relationship advice I ever received came from a firefighter/blacksmith I interviewed when I was just 21 years old:

✨ Never stop dating your partner.

Simple, timeless, and it’s stuck with me ever since.

👉 What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever received?

Address

Torrance, CA

Telephone

+13232055581

Website

https://www.hypnodipity.com/, https://soul2soulhealingpsychotherapy.com/, https://www.nikipayne.com/

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