SoulWays Body-Mind Healing & Integrative Energywork

01/19/2026

Step out of old habituated patterns of blame, rationalization, and being the victim, and into accountability....

01/18/2026

01/17/2026

Helpful info @ Functional Freeze from Frank Anderson: "You may have seen the term functional freeze lately. It’s resonating because a lot of people quietly recognize themselves in it.
Functional freeze isn’t a diagnosis. It describes a nervous system state where you keep functioning, but mostly on autopilot.
You go to work, answer emails, keep routines, show up socially. From the outside, life looks fine. Inside, things often feel flat, stuck, or disconnected.
That’s usually where the guilt shows up. “I’m doing everything I’m supposed to. So why do I feel this way?”
From a trauma perspective, this isn’t laziness or a character flaw. It’s a nervous system that learned how to stay operational under ongoing stress by dampening feeling and conserving energy. And as long as we see this as a flaw, we won’t give it the care it actually needs.
Insight alone rarely shifts this state. You can understand what’s happening and still feel stuck. From a nervous system perspective, this isn’t shutdown. It’s survival mode.
In my work, I don’t try to push people out of functional freeze. I get curious about what the nervous system is still protecting against.
Instead of asking “What’s wrong with me?” I often invite questions like:
– What has my system needed to stay functional?
– What might it be protecting me from?
– What helps me feel even slightly more settled in my body?
That shift, from pressure to understanding, is often where things begin to ease.
If this term resonates, let it be information, not an identity. A starting point for curiosity, not another reason to judge yourself."

01/05/2026

Helpful information from Frank Anderson about "trauma bonding"...
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1bE7iRSdQf/

12/18/2025

I've shared this poem before, but I think it's so beautiful and comforting, that it's always worth sharing again. May it offer a little comfort to anyone who's struggling right now...

12/14/2025

Why Understanding the Layers Helps You Regulate

When you don’t know why you’re angry, your nervous system stays activated. You remain in fight, flight, or freeze with no clear way out. But when you pause and explore the layers beneath the anger, your body begins to settle.

Imagine sitting across from me in session. You say, “I’m just angry all the time.” I’m not going to stop at the surface. I’d ask:

“What kind of anger?”
“Where do you feel it?”
“What happened right before the anger showed up?”
"What situation or person triggered this emotion?"
"What need is going unmet?"

We peel back the layers until something clicks, and we find a moment of recognition that brings relief, clarity, or insight.

That’s the power of awareness.
It shifts you from emotional reactivity into emotional understanding.

When you can name the deeper feeling, you can tend to it.
When you can tend to it, you can regulate your nervous system and you build capacity.
And when you can regulate, you can respond instead of react.

12/14/2025

Taking space / distancing from harmful situations, and/or setting boundaries, can be an important step on the healing journey - and there is still truth in this meme, because we also do want to cultivate capacity to navigate challenging situations in new ways.

12/14/2025

Very important information about smart phone use and the impact on attachment for babies & children (and our relationships in general):

New research shows caregivers don’t get advice on smartphone use, even though we know it can affect a baby’s feeding, language development and attachment.