Marriage and Communication Coaching

01/11/2026

The Realm of Us has it's own specialized language, vocabulary, and behaviors.

The language spoken in the "Realm of Us" is entirely foreign and incompatible with languages routinely spoken by "I" and "Me."

In the "Realm of Us,'' there is no "I'm sorry, I'm Ashamed, I'm to Blame, It's my Fault, I'm Guilty, I I'll try, I hope, or I wish."

In the "Realm of Us" we speak words of "I apologize, I am responsible, I am accountable, I intend, I plan, and I anticipate."

Where, the language of Us is spoken, we love and are loved, we respect and are respected, we honor and are honored.

In the "Realm of Us" children are born and grow to be extraordinary independent loving resilient adults.

Where attempts by "Me" or "I " impose or force outcomes on "Us," relationships begin to die.

At Marriage and Communication Coaching, over five sessions, you and your partner will learn and adopt the language, skills, insights, and best practices for a resilient loving lifelong marriage.

Live like an US.

Today is the day.
Now is the time.

Reach out to Paul

01/01/2026

When you are in breakdown you call 911.

When your life is in distress, about to blow up, and your marriage teetering on the edge of a breakdown, reach out Marriage and Communication Coaching your 911 for marriages and families in distress.

Today is the day

Now is the time
Now is the time to seek assistance.

Contact Paul at 520 297 3085.

12/24/2025

Responsibility is the cure for Guilt.

Is there a cure for Guilt? ​
​Responsibility is the cure for Guilt.
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We erase Guilt when we exchange Guilt for Responsibility.
Responsibility does not carry the emotional burden that the experience of Responsibility provides.

Responsibility provides us with paths forward where Guilt does not. Choosing Responsibility we have freedom.

There are choices to make, actions we can take, to accomplish our goals and fulfill our vision.
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Responsibility is the cure for Guilt.

Be Responsible.

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12/15/2025

It's not your fault.

In Good Will Hunting Robin Williams confronts Matt Damon declaring that he's not at fault for being burned by ci******es by his father.

Robin Williams approaches Matt Damon, compassion shining from his eyes, repeating, "It's not your fault. It's not your fault." Until Matt Damon breaks through and into tears.

I don't know where or when you were left believing that "It's my fault. There's something wrong with me."

I invite you to imagine me, looking straight into your eyes, repeating what Robin Williams said.

"It's not your fault. It's not your fault.
There's nothing wrong with you."

Because it's not your fault, it was never your fault, and there's nothing wrong with you.

12/12/2025

Infidelity - Five sources

It is useful to consider that cheating is a symptom, not a cause.
Then the question becomes “What is infidelity a symptom of?”
That is where we go to work.

As a Marriage and Communication Coach I have learned that there are five fundamental sources of cheating and infidelity:

Missing communication and relationship skills.
Lack of self and mutual awareness of one another’s Love Languages.
Frustration arising from failing to love one another by speaking one another’s love languages
Absent of self and mutual awareness of personality types and the opportunities and challenges of differing personalities.
Behavioral legacies, coping strategies, established in childhood and from experiences and previous marriages.

Until dysfunctional patterns are distinguished, overwritten, and replaced with a new set of life affirming “codes" the probability of infidelity and cheating will remain, to continue to run beneath the surface of marriages, distorting relationships.

DM me for the support you need for a future that works

12/12/2025

Six sources of Infidelity
It is useful to consider that cheating is a symptom, not a cause.

Then the question becomes “a symptom of what?”

As a Marriage and Communication Coach I have identified six sources of cheating and infidelity:

1. Lack of effective communication and relationship skills.
2. Lack of self and mutual awareness of one another's Love Languages.
3. Frustration arising from attempting to love one another by speaking one another's love languages
4. Lack of self and mutual awareness of personality types and the opportunities and challenges of differing personalities.
5. Behavioral legacies, coping strategies, developed in childhood and experiences and previous marriages.
6. All of the above will continue to run beneath the surface of marriages, distorting relationships,

Until those dysfunctional patterns are distinguished, overwritten, and replaced with a new set of life affirming “codes" the probability of infidelity and cheating will remain.

I invite you to contact me

12/07/2025

'Tis the season to be loving.
Make 2026 be your most loving year of your lives together.

Reach out to Marriage and Communication Coaching.

Paul Zohav will show you how.

Today is the day.
Now is the season.

Enter 2026 with velocity!

Call Paul Zohav at (520) 297-3085

12/06/2025

Infidelity - Five sources

It is useful to consider that cheating is a symptom, not a cause.
Then the question becomes “What is infidelity a symptom of?”
That is where we go to work.

As a Marriage and Communication Coach I have learned that there are five fundamental sources of cheating and infidelity:
1. Missing communication and relationship skills.
2. Lack of self and mutual awareness of one another’s Love Languages.
3. Frustration arising from failing to love one another by speaking one another’s love languages
4. Absent of self and mutual awareness of personality types and the opportunities and challenges of differing personalities.
5. Behavioral legacies, coping strategies, established in childhood and from experiences and previous marriages.
Until dysfunctional patterns are distinguished, overwritten, and replaced with a new set of life affirming “codes" the probability of infidelity and cheating will remain, to continue to run beneath the surface of marriages, distorting relationships.

It is useful to consider that cheating is a symptom, not a cause.
Then the question becomes “What is infidelity a symptom of?”
That is where we go to work.

As a Marriage and Communication Coach I have learned that there are five fundamental sources of cheating and infidelity:
1. Missing communication and relationship skills.
2. Lack of self and mutual awareness of one another’s Love Languages.
3. Frustration arising from failing to love one another by speaking one another’s love languages
4. Absent of self and mutual awareness of personality types and the opportunities and challenges of differing personalities.
5. Behavioral legacies, coping strategies, established in childhood and from experiences and previous marriages.
Until dysfunctional patterns are distinguished, overwritten, and replaced with a new set of life affirming “codes" the probability of infidelity and cheating will remain, to continue to run beneath the surface of marriages, distorting relationships.

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12/02/2025

'I am sorry" is about me.
The equivalent of 'I regret.'

"I am sorry" is appropriate when we're talking about funerals and unfulfilled expectations.

"I'm sorry for your loss."
"I am sorry that your plans did not work out."

"I apologize" is about "us" and opens up a pathway to the nature of and the future of our relationship.

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12/02/2025

"I'm sorry" promises no future, nor a path forward for us.

" I apologize," does.

11/30/2025

A marriage with mutual honor and respect is inevitable when you knew how it's done.

Learn and then adopt the skills, insights, and best practices for an extraordinary marriage that grows to last a lifetime.

Give yourself and the ones you love the gift of communication.
Today is the day.
Now is the time.

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