Home Improvement Ministry, Christian Family Services

Home Improvement Ministry, Christian Family Services H.I.M. was founded to assist Bible-believing churches in their attempts to address the great needs of families in our day.

12/10/2025

In this season when Christians refer to the "Wonderful Counselor", they are not talking about me or another Christian counselor. They're referring to the Lord Jesus as Isaiah described Him. At best, we Christian counselors work for Him. If the Lord has been prompting you to reach out for help, please consider contacting us.

We will launch this study very soon. If God has been drawing you to more Bible study, this may be an answer for you. Sin...
12/06/2025

We will launch this study very soon. If God has been drawing you to more Bible study, this may be an answer for you. Since we don't meet in person, you can study in your own time and space, even in your PJ's. Let me hear from you if interested. I've offered this every year since 2007 with some very positive responses from participants. Dane

Many people have responded favorably to the material in my book. I do believe that "Repairing Damaged Relationships is E...
12/03/2025

Many people have responded favorably to the material in my book. I do believe that "Repairing Damaged Relationships is Everyone's Job". Let me help you do this, sometimes challenging work. Order your copy from Amazon. Thanks.

12/03/2025

Some personal and relational problems remind me of the disease syphilis. That disease has three known stages: primary, secondary, and latent. The first stage has an irritating sore that goes away on its own in a short time. Stage two has more irritating symptoms that last longer but also tend to resolve on their own. The third stage is the most dangerous which develops when no treatment was sought in the early stages. For years one can live with NO visible symptoms, but then . . . The brain and other major organs are compromised. Antibiotics can treat the disease but not reverse the damage. When you know that something isn't right in your inner world or your relationships, get help, and the earlier the better. Contact us for help.

12/03/2025

Here is a bit or parenting advice I think worthy of your contemplation: Before you attempt to control your child, make sure you are controlling yourself properly. Dane

11/30/2025

A December recommendation: Read through the Gospel of Luke, a chapter per day. By Christmas, you'll have taken in the story of Jesus. Start tomorrow. Dane Tyner

11/28/2025

Hey, if you missed "giving Tuesday", you're in luck. Today is Giving Friday; tomorrow is Giving Saturday, and the day after that is, you guessed it: Giving Sunday. We welcome gifts to our ministry any day; they enable us to serve dear people. Contact us if you need to know how to do this.

11/27/2025

Some fifty years ago, when I was 16, I worked in a fast-food restaurant. I earned a whopping 65 cents per hour. I worked harder for that pay than I see from most fast-food workers today. The fastest food comes from the fastest workers. We were trained to move quickly and efficiently. Most of my peers in the mid 60's were on board with this. We came to work and we came to work.

I remember one night, after closing, I was in the back of the restaurant cleaning up (washing pots and pans and utensils in the large sinks). It was my least favorite chore at work. Our store was managed by the two brothers who owned it. One of them was helping close this particular night. Jack walked up to me and said, "Tyner, you're the best clean up guy I've got!". My response set him back a bit. I said, with a tone of sarcasm, "Gee, thanks!".

He told me he was just trying to pay me a compliment, that I really did a good job and it was appreciated. They had noticed that no one ever had to redo something the next morning when I had clean up duty. I accepted the compliment and continued to work. I've never forgotten the transaction.

I wanted to be praised for something more honorable than cleaning nasty utensils in the back room, or moping the floor after everyone had gone home. That's the honest truth. I really didn't appreciate the importance of the job I did, even though I did it diligently. A good boss, however, saw the importance of affirming that diligence.

Proverbs 12:24 says, "Diligent hands will rule, but laziness ends in slave labor." For all the deficiencies of the home I grew up in, I am grateful that I was taught to work diligently. It has been my intent through my whole work life.

May I challenge you in this matter today? If you are on the bottom rung of the corporate ladder, work like you are on the next rung. Get rid of a "just enough to get by" attitude. If you are a "minimum wage worker", that does not justify doing minimal work. That is not the attitude of Christ. Jesus said, "If someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles" (MT 5:42). You may FEEL like a slave on your job, but when Paul spoke to men who were literal slaves, he said, "Obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ" (Eph 6:5),

Paul wanted us to realize that this is essentially a heart issue. He went on to say, "Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but like slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart." (Eph 6:6). My good work ethic at 16 was not due to these scriptures; it resulted from parental teaching and modeling. I didn't even know these verses were in the Bible back then.

I was a hard worker but with a poor attitude. My poor attitude did not show in my work, as it does with many people; it showed in that moment of affirmation. If you were not fortunate enough to be taught at home to be a diligent worker, if that was not modeled for you, let the Word of God teach you better. If your attitude stinks, let the Spirit of God sweeten it.

Please hear what I have shared with you today. Your prosperity is likely at stake. Poor performance in the real world is rarely rewarded. Indeed, it shouldn't be rewarded. Good performance with a poor attitude is often discerned by supervisors. It is always seen by the God who wants you to be a great servant. Do the stuff you are sure no one notices. Do it with utter confidence that God notices and rewards. You just may be surprised, as I was in the back of that restaurant 50-plus years ago, to discover that someone other than God noticed your diligence. Dane Tyner

11/26/2025

Credentials? These are supposed to be evidence that you can trust a person's skills. Well, how do you know if you can trust a family counselor? Sure, I have an earned masters degree, but a valuable credential I am grateful to offer is this: This week my wife and I celebrated 46 years of marriage and family. We've faced a lot of challenges ourselves as well as helped a lot of others face theirs. Contact us if you are wanting help in a Christian context.

11/21/2025

Our office will be closed at noon today and through Dec 1st. Thank you. Dane Tyner

11/20/2025

Send mail to:
HIM
PO Box 33085
Tulsa OK 74153

11/19/2025

Recently, I thought "I'll take a lot of people's secrets to the grave with me." The recovery movement offers this weighty thought: "We are as sick as our secrets." Do yourself, and everyone else, a favor: deal with your secrets. If you need help, contact us.

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5744 E 31st Street
Tulsa, OK
74135

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Tuesday 9am - 7:30pm
Wednesday 9am - 5pm
Thursday 9am - 7:30pm
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