08/31/2024
We often think of boundaries as rules and rigid in nature; however, when it comes to relationship with yourself and others, the best boundaries are the ones that arise organically as you attune to your own needs.
Being able to feel the moment in which you are about to lose yourself is the key to understanding when it is time to set a boundary. In truth, boundaries are for you and for your own ability to stay present with yourself and thus with others.
I can't know when I need to set a boundary until the moment arises. And I can't know when the moment arises unless I have attuned to myself and understand the feedback in my mind and body.
It is in the moment of knowing that I am about to lose my connection with myself that I need to set a boundary, which may look like taking a pause/breath, making a request, taking space/leaving, saying goodbye, moving my body, sharing a feeling or need, or recognizing that I am done with whatever I am experiencing.
The boundary is designed to help you get back to you. Learning how to sense when it is time to set a boundary and then being able to follow through, so that you can stay connected to yourself (and ultimately others) is truly an extraordinary gift.
đź’• Lisa