01/10/2026
Something I have known for years.
Holding a sleeping baby provides comforting, predictable, nurturing touch (affective touch) that calms the baby’s nervous system, reducing stress hormones and strengthening the communication between the prefrontal cortex (PFC) (rational thought) and the amygdala (fear/emotion center). This builds a strong PFC-amygdala circuit, teaching the brain that stress is manageable and signals safety, which fosters better emotional regulation and reduces the likelihood of an overactive fear response, thereby lowering risk of future anxiety.
🗂️How Holding Strengthens Connection:
📑Calms the Nervous System: Gentle, consistent touch stimulates the release of oxytocin and activates the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting calmness and reducing cortisol (stress hormone) levels.
📑Build Neural Pathways: This soothing input, especially during sleep when the brain processes emotions, helps form stronger, more efficient neural pathways between the PFC and limbic structures like the amygdala.
📑Provides “Scaffolding”: A caregiver’s presence acts as external regulation, helping the infant’s immature central nervous system manage stress and build its own regulatory capacity.
🗂️How Holding Prevents Future Anxiety:
📑Better Emotional Regulation: A well-connected PFC can effectively “talk down” the amygdala, preventing overreactions to perceived threats.
📑Creates a “Blueprint” for Safety: Consistent positive experiences teach the infant’s brains that the world is safe and supportive, not threatening, creating a resilient foundation against anxiety.
📑Reduced Amygdala Reactivity: This early buffering effect leads to less intense fear responses and fewer “meltdowns”.
PMID: 33584178
