Heart, Body, & Mind

10/31/2025

Happy Halloween everyone! I've had so much fun doing mental health posts and encouragement within the container of Halloween fun!

Here is the last installment and admittedly it is not true in every situation. When we have trauma there are VERY legitimate things that cause us fear. HOWEVER - there are also illegitimate things that cause us fear and in those cases we need to press into the fear to find what is on the other side. What do I mean by this....

- you may be afraid to go see a counselor - press into your fear.

- you may be afraid to be vulnerable and open - when you find a
safe person press into your fear.

- you may be afraid if you speak your mind people will get upset -
this is a great way to test the quality of people around you,
press into your fear.

- you may be afraid to try new things - in doing so and seeing
you are capable? you build confidence. Press into your fear.

- you may be afraid to let go of people in your life simply because
you feel obligated to them. Press into your fear and find your
freedom.

I could go on and on with this list but you get my point. Sometimes the things we need most, that help us heal and grow are on the other side of fear. So notice when you are afraid in this way and do it anyway. I delight in all the growth and blessings that have come from pressing into my fears. You can do it too! Happy Halloween!

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10/30/2025

Whenever someone walks in my door and tells me this is their first experience of coming to counseling, I always congratulate them on being brave because it is TERRIFYING to sit down with a stranger and say "I need help." It is about as vulnerable as one can get. It takes so much courage to face the unknown. Which I believe is why many people DON'T choose the path of healing. Change is scary. Changing habits, beliefs, thought processes. If our childhood was dysfunctional, it is what we know. Which is why, if we don't heal, we repeat the same patterns over and over and over. Our body and our nervous system subconsciously seeks what it knows as "normal." Because if we haven't experienced safety, kindness, compassion in the past - even those feel scary, like they can't be trusted - because they haven't been a part of our experience. It takes time to teach ourselves through repetition that those things are safe and better than what we have known before. Boundaries are good. Having a voice and speaking out is okay. Taking time and space for yourself is healthy. These things feel uncomfortable for most of us but push through the fear and see what is on the other side of the unknown. You got this.

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10/30/2025

Hey everyone. I am canceling the breath work event for November because I was too busy moving offices to get much marketing done. However! We will be back on December 14th so don't miss your chance to breath and heal in December. There are only 20 spots so grab your when you see it go up. You don't want to miss it!

10/29/2025

I love that my husband is out blessing, teaching, healing kiddos. Makes me happy.

10/29/2025

Ever been in a situation where someone was upset and you didn't know why? Or they were trying to communicate with you about something clearly important but you just weren't getting it? Or maybe you have had the experience of needing to share something vulnerable or set a boundary but when the conversation happens you notice you are talking around it rather than stating clearly your thoughts and feelings?

For the record - me too. To all of it. Here is the funny, not so funny part. When our nervous system is activated and in fight or flight the rest of our brain doesn't function as well. So identifying what you are feeling is difficult much less communicating it! Making those harder conversations feel damn near impossible. However knowledge is power. If we recognize that we or our loved one is triggered we can have patience, kindness, compassion towards them and the situation. We learn to navigate those conversations better by asking for clarification and staying in our curiosity. What once felt impossible becomes doable as we build our skill set. Because it is a skill you can learn.

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10/21/2025

Sadly, I feel like this is what happens with trauma. Our brains are haunted by perceived threats, beliefs that were formed long ago, fears, anxieties, hates, and just simple patterns; replaying on loops that impact our lives. But how does one exorcise a brain? I am happy to tell you - it is possible. By bringing light and love into those dark places within us. The ghosties are uncovered and dissipate into the brilliance of our care/compassion. So if you want to heal the haunted corridors of your brain I am here to help. It is what I love doing. Let me walk with you.

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10/18/2025

As I was putting together this post, I wanted to put the image of Wednesday this current season crying black tears; because how beautiful and symbolic that she makes this statement and then it became a regular thing. Against her desires and more dramatic than just crying regular tears. Isn't that what happens to all of us? When we repress our pain, because we had to or we weren't taught how to release it; it becomes something bigger, something more dramatic and difficult to understand. The heavy, soul crushing depression. The explosive and terrifying rage. The racing, unending anxious thoughts. The long sleepless nights. And finally the debilitating physical illnesses. All because "emotions are a gateway trait" and we do not trust or know how to engage them, listen to them, respect and honor them.

So. Take a second. Take a big deep breath and tap into your heart. What are you feeling? Whatever emotion comes up - I want you to know it makes sense. Tell yourself: "It makes sense you are feeling this ....." and fill in the blank. YOU know what is going on in your life that is causing it. And it is a very valid reason. Remind yourself it is valid and be present, just for a moment with the pain. Send it love. Send it compassion. Send it care. Then notice how you feel in your body.

I love you. You are doing great. Good job tapping in - just for a moment.

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10/15/2025

Continuing with our Halloween posts - this idea of the mind making a hell out of heaven, thank you John Milton! How many of us have looked around in our depression, saw all the things we should be grateful for and hated ourselves because we weren't? Because the depression itself was holding a magnifying glass on all the things we hated about our lives even when we were still aware the blessings exist. If you have experienced this (or are experiencing this) I am so sorry. It is SUCH a painful place to be. I want you to know, you are not alone, and that the blessings do not invalidate the pain. The pain is real and there are very real reasons for it. I see you. The good news is, it doesn't have to stay that way. It is through helping the brain and the nervous system heal that we change hell. Maybe not straight to heaven. First we turn down the flames, the depth of the pain so it is less and less until we reach neutrality. Neutrality with glimpses of heaven. And then we teach you to process through emotions faster and faster so you are spending more and more time in your joy, in your peace, in your heaven. It IS doable. It just takes time, kindness, and patience. Let's do it together.

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10/13/2025

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10/13/2025

Here is your second beautiful quote from our girl Wednesday. I have to say, at least she is upfront about it. Although.....how many of us have made the choice to date this person? Even if they were up front about it? Even after they showed us repeatedly we were NOT a priority? We made excuses based on their past or crossed our fingers and hoped they would change all the while putting our own needs and interests on pause. Often, completely losing ourselves in the process.

The thing most people don't realize is that is probably a pattern that started in childhood. Where due to birth order, special needs in the family, addictions, or simply the limitations of our parents we were trained to ignore our needs. In order to survive - we stuffed them. The good news is - you aren't that kid anymore. You can have needs, wants, desires, and whoa! Even boundaries! As you discover this and step into it, you will no longer date the Wednesdays of the world. You will find partners that like your boundaries, honor your needs and enjoy blessing you with your wants. Good partners do exist. We just have to rewire the programing so you are able to ask for what you want.

I'd love to walk you through it.

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10/12/2025

Love this.

10/10/2025

I thought I would celebrate the month of Halloween with a series of tongue in cheek posts about mental health inspired by watching Wednesday on Netflix and laughing out loud at a few statements she made, including this one, because truly? How many of us haven't wanted this at some point? Safely away from all the people and well protected by predators? However, that is also a very lonely situation. And if we have walls up because we learned we HAD to protect ourselves, provide for ourselves, that no one was safe. We end up very, very lonely. Sometimes angry, sometimes numb. But none of it is fun. And most of us would choose to live another way if we knew how. The good news is, it's possible. It's not easy and it is terrifying as hell. But it's October. Embrace the scary thing and give it a try. 😉

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