10/19/2025
Midwives notoriously have a very high divorce rate. This job is HARD on our families. We are often running out on dinner, dates, birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, and sometimes even more intimate moments 😬. Our kids sacrifice a lot, our husbands sacrifice a lot, and then they’re left standing there to try and juggle all the plates without any idea of when their partner will return.
Today is my 12th wedding anniversary and my husband did not marry a midwife. I wasn’t even a doula when we got married. I didn’t have an on call schedule at all. He didn’t know what he was getting into when we said “I do”, but I’m thankful every day for how he shows up to support this midwife life.
Because I stepped away from the birth center, it made the end of the year unusually slow for me. I’ve gotten to enjoy a lot of fantastic and intentional time with my family, and I’ve been so grateful for the rest! This morning my husband and I took off to St. Louis just to catch a hockey game because it fell on our anniversary and we could. It is so important to me to protect and invest in my marriage amongst the chaos of this calling. To make sure that he also feels like a priority, even when we haven’t slept in the same bed at the same time for a week. I know that because of him my kids and my life outside of work are handled, and that my focus can be 100% where it needs to be when I’m called away. Happy Anniversary to my best friend, and the man who keeps my life running when I’m running around ETX 🫶🏻