Calming Connection Therapy

09/10/2025

Matrescence can last years this is no surprise when I hear from moms regularly how they struggle with so many body and mind changes.

Women are typically given 6 weeks to recover from pregnancy, but new research has revealed that the brain changes that occur during pregnancy can actually take 2-6 years to recover from, affecting memory, hormones and the woman’s stress response.

Forgetfulness, mental fogginess and difficulty concentrating are common complaints, sometimes referred to as “mom brain”. The massive changes in hormones like estrogen and progesterone during and after pregnancy affect brain chemistry. Progesterone, in particular, can cause drowsiness and contribute to mental fog. Also, the chronic exhaustion that comes with caring for a newborn significantly impacts memory and focus. Additionally, a mother’s priorities shift completely to her new baby, and the mental load of new responsibilities, anxiety, and stress can interfere with concentration and memory.

After childbirth, hormone levels like progesterone and estrogen, which were extremely elevated during pregnancy, drop dramatically and the hormone levels continue to fluctuate for months or even years while the body adjusts. These hormonal shifts, along with other life changes, can contribute to mood swings, anxiety and depression.

Furthermore, the body’s stress response undergoes significant changes during and after pregnancy. Pregnancy alters the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis, which regulates the body’s response to stress. Elevated levels of the stress hormone cortisol have been linked to changes in the amygdala, a brain region involved in social and emotional development. While these changes are part of a normal adaptation to motherhood, excessive stress can increase the risk of anxiety and depression for the mother and may even affect the child’s neurodevelopment.

It is VITAL to give yourself grace and understand that these changes are beyond your control. I will put a few tips for coping with these changes in the comments section. Take good care of yourselves sweet friends and always ask for help when you need it.

PMID: 21928875

09/07/2025

Yes, a new baby is exciting.
But can we not forget the woman who gave up her body, her comfort, her whole self to bring that baby here?

She’s new too.
Not just a mom now... but a version of herself she’s never met before. Every single time.

So when you visit, don’t just say “I came to see the baby.”
That baby is already getting every cuddle in the world.
Mama needs to be seen, too.
She needs to be asked, “How are you really doing?”
She needs to be held.

Because while she’s pouring herself into caring for a new life.. she’s also trying to learn how to care for the new version of herself.

From scratch.

All over again.

07/15/2025

This.... just this....

07/13/2025

Sign up now for new moms support group. together

07/08/2025

Truth....being a mom is hard and the changes include identity shifts

Keira Knightley once said: “I don’t think we give women enough credit for the PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL MARATHON they go through when becoming a mother. I come from a place of amazing privilege. I have an incredible support system; I’ve been unbelievably lucky in my career; I can afford good childcare, and yet I still find it really f*cking difficult. It’s OK to say that. It doesn’t mean I don’t love my kid, it’s just me admitting that the sleep deprivation, the hormonal changes, the shift in relationship with my partner, are all things that make me feel as if I’m failing on a daily basis. I have to remind myself that I haven’t failed, I’m just doing what I can do, BUT IT’S NOT EASY.”

06/24/2025

What people in narcissistic relationships deal with.

05/23/2025

This is truth after baby for many. If you are feeling this way don't hesitate to reach out. Www.calmingconnection.com

05/01/2025

Kindness and humanity prevail. Reach out if you need support. .com larissa@calmingconnection.com

11/25/2024

Abuse can be settle but destructive. If you feel overwhelmed or angered by a loved ones behavior, reach out today. Www.calmingconnection.com

11/07/2024

To everyone who is struggling this week with fears of the unknown, those marginalized groups of lgbtq+, people of color, women who want their reproductive rights protected I see you. Breathe. Take time for you. Www.calmingconnection.com.

07/01/2024

Dad's, do what you can to help with the transition but don't forget to talk about your experience and get support too. Moms, new mom support group on Tuesdays available.