01/16/2024
A little different from how we would use some words to describe, but essentially, all overcoming of abusive cycles of any form may be assisted by letting go of or breaking negative connections or "chords". The release of these negative connections help with the process of creating and maintaining healthy boundaries.
THE NARC WILL PIT YOU AGAINST OTHER PEOPLE BY TRIANGULATION...
This pattern of playing one person against another is the trademark move of the narcissist, and is a narcissistic strategy called “triangulation”. The narcissist acts like the new supply is soooo much better than you are.
But the new person is not better than you are. In fact, they are like you before you saw the truth about the narc...naive about narcissism. Or, the narc may triangulate you with their ex.
The narc will often triangulate you during a hoover. They can twist your head in knots, and triangulate you with the new supply.
However, a narc will triangulate you with anyone they can, pitting the two of you against each other to get you to “fight over them”, or make you hate each other. To the narc, what an ego trip. It makes them feel powerful and inside, they are smirking.
By triangulating you with other people, a narcissist can create a sense of rivalry and insecurity, which can make you more reliant on their approval and attention. They may also use triangulation to undermine your confidence, discredit your opinions, and create confusion or chaos.
Furthermore, narcissists may triangulate to shift blame or avoid taking responsibility for their actions. By involving other people, they can deflect criticism or accusations and make it seem like you are the problem or the source of conflict.
As a part of a smear campaign, the narcissist will often triangulate you with others by claiming you said negative things about them, in order to create enemies for you. So, when that person comes to you and confronts you, you deny it and say that the narc is lying. Then the person goes back to the narc and tells the narc what you said, and the narc responds with more lies and plays the victim.
Meme via Phoenix Rising-Still I Rise private, confidential group.
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