Elizabeth Hansen, LCSW

30/11/2022

06/09/2022

Try it. Try one full day of speaking kindly, smiling when your children walk in the room, making eye contact, offering hugs and high fives freely, showing appreciation, avoiding any kind of criticism, saying yes when and wherever possible, and simply asking questions instead of issuing commands. Try it. Just try. For one day. Then come back and tell me how it went. I’d love to hear your stories.
-L.R.Knost


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Fighting a rare, incurable cancer, but I'm still here!💞 L.R.

04/02/2022

Spot on from the Pathway 2 Success ❤

02/01/2022

Anyone else need to practice more of this?

31/12/2021

Parenting our tiny humans can be HARD. It's stretching, challenging, terrifying, exhausting, and sometimes even infuriating trying to navigate our way through life while simultaneously trying to help our little ones learn to navigate their own way.
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It can get overwhelming and lead to some epic adult meltdowns.
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Learning to take an adult time-out when necessary, to stop and breathe through our initial reactions, to pause long enough to shift from reactive to proactive, and to weave intentional self-care into each and every day can help us to parent more peacefully and effectively.
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But parents are human, too.
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So when those inevitable parenting mistakes and meltdowns do occur, give yourself some grace, apologize to your tiny humans, and move on knowing you're doing your best.
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And that is more than enough.
- L.R.Knost

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Fighting a rare, incurable cancer, but I'm still here!💞 L.R.

21/11/2021

If you need someone to talk to, please reach out!

05/11/2021

Wishing you a blessed from your friends on Sesame Street!

25/10/2021

”How do you describe the conflicts you experience?

He's so needy.
She won't listen.
She's so sensitive.
He's driving me nuts.
She is such a handful.
He'll defy you out of spite.
She is so disrespectful to me.
He tantrums if he doesn't get his way.

These statements lead us down a dead-end road.

How we define the situation or conflict contributes to how well we can find creative, compassionate solutions and it can also leave us feeling stressed and frustrated, limiting our perspective and ability to problem-solve.

If you have a habit of repeating negative situations, telling the story over and over or framing typical behaviors as problems - do not fret! Shift the way you talk about things.

Behavior problems are developmental challenges.

It takes a long time to mature into a thoughtful, responsible, self-regulated person. And, our relationships, experiences, and temperament influence the coping tools we have available.

Childhood is not the time to "get control" but a time where kids often "lose it" within the safe and compassionate arms of emotionally available caregivers. This is how they find their balance and learn to motivate themselves to be responsible, capable beings.”

~Lori Petro, TEACH through Love

If we see all behavior as communication and practice the power of empathy, we uncover the unmet need or unheard hurt and can problem-solve with clarity and confidence. ♡𝓛𝓮𝓵𝓲𝓪

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Meme:

02/08/2021

We are all works in progress.
Let’s do our best to respond instead of react.

28/07/2021

Sometimes you need to know when to stop, to acknowledge that your body is not cooperating with your brain. For an athlete, that can be the most fierce and courageous thing you could ever do. ❤️

23/07/2021

🙌 Yes! Love this.

Does anyone know who this educator is? Stephanie...? I really hope to credit her. UPDATE: Thank you, Kendra! This is by Stephanie Pinto, who has a group called, Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids: https://www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids/

23/06/2021

Today, we’re sharing brand-new resources that support families in talking about race and offer strategies for coping with racism.

03/03/2021

Important message about being an anchor for your child. Shared from Janet Lansbury.

We’re big. They’re tiny. They’re just learning our rules and expectations for appropriate behavior. They have a developmental need to express their will, and they have very little (if any) impulse control. With these complicated, powerful dynamics in play, why would we take our toddler’s hit...

07/02/2021

Shared from GoZen.

Relaxing and mindfulness don't have to be a getaway at a spa! It's something that can happen right in the very moment!

Which is your favorite?

30/01/2021

Shared from Our Mama Village

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✨My child’s behaviour is not my report card as a parent.⠀ ⠀
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✨It’s ok for me to want no more meltdowns or tantrums in my home. They can be really tough. (Please give yourself this compassion❤️).⠀
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✨My child’s meltdown or tantrum does not make me a bad parent or them a bad child.⠀⠀
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➕Kids aren’t born with the ability to regulate their emotions.⠀⠀⠀
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Just like babies aren’t born with the ability to soothe themselves when they feel upset.⠀⠀⠀
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Somewhere between newborns and toddlers we often forget about this. ⠀⠀⠀
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As our kids become older we start to shift our expectations... and often as we do this we find our kids letting us down over and over.⠀⠀⠀
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When we find ourselves saying “they should know better” or “do better” over and over, we may need to take a step back and gently remind ourselves about what we can expect from our kids from a developmental perspective.⠀⠀⠀
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➕Meltdowns/tantrums/emotional releases are actually a very common part of your child’s development.⠀⠀
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Little kids who meltdown are learning how to cope with big feelings for the first time. They also may be trying to communicate something with you they don’t have the words or ability to communicate yet.⠀⠀
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Teaching them how to respond to their big feelings isn’t a one time thing, a one size fits all approach... instead it is a process that involves calm, curiosity, connection, and collaboration. ⠀⠀⠀

There is no magical tantrum cure... instead what we can do is breathe, get curious, acknowledge how our kids are feeling, set boundaries around behaviour and remember that your job isn’t to fix emotions, it is to simply be there, walking through the wave of emotion with your kiddos.⠀⠀⠀
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➕I know for me, remembering that my child is learning how to respond to her big feelings for the first time helps me have compassion for her in these challenging moments.⠀⠀⠀
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Let’s give ourselves so much compassion in these moments instead of guilt or shame. ❤️⠀⠀⠀

This has been one of the most helpful pieces of knowledge for myself as a parent to have compassion on myself/child - what helps you??

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20/01/2021

"For there is always light if only we're brave enough to see it, if only we're brave enough to be it." - Amanda Gorman

12/01/2021

Shared from Mona Delahooke, Ph.D