09/05/2025
Last month I stumbled upon a new community of Asian family constellations participants facilitated by after I made the decision to say goodbye to my office. This is what walking in alignment and belonging feels like.
I am grateful for and grieving who I used to be as I realize that she is shedding layers before my eyes.
I considered myself outspoken and direct, and yet I am finding that I still regret not speaking my truth for fear of offending, hurting, or triggering someone else.
So here I am, activating a very atrophied muscle here online.
I have been hidden in the shadows for far too long, so as not to draw any unwanted attention to myself. I learned that that invites criticism, ridicule, and judgement.
is one of the reasons I have found myself biting my tongue. People are so quick to write each other off and turn their backs on or fight people for saying the wrong thing. Our livelihoods may be affected as business owners.
The stakes are so high, that we don't even try to understand people with differing points of view because it threatens our world view. It might threaten how we perceive ourselves, and therefore our entire reality and life. That's terrifying for most people.
I am learning how to have misunderstandings and conflict and to repair. And let me tell you, that doesn't happen when we bite our tongue or tell half truths.
Under a fascist regime, my declaration of my values as a healing facilitator are long overdue.
⚡I AM NOT here to hold space for people who believe that their freedom, survival, safety, and happiness hinge on the erasure of another person's humanity, dignity, life, and rights.
⚡I AM here for collective liberation and healing truth sharing, collaboration, empowerment, unapologetic joy, and love.
Put more bluntly, I am anti-genocide, antiracist, antifascist, pro-choice, a feminist who believes trans women are women, anti-ICE, pro-decolonization, and all about uplifting the voices of people who have been silenced and oppressed.
