Menije Boduryan, Psy.D.

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Menije Boduryan, Psy.D.

I give tips on how high-achieving women can overcome perfectionism
📍Woodland Hills, CA (psy26351)

Perfectionism University - A place where you can unlearn Perfectionism and start your journey of embracing imperfections and owning your enoughness.

27/05/2025

🗑️ Things to DELETE from Your Life:

It’s time to hit backspace on the thoughts and habits that are holding you back 👇

❌ Self-doubt
You are more capable than you give yourself credit for. Start believing it.

❌ Perfectionism
Progress matters more than perfection. Let done be better than perfect.

❌ Worry
Most of the things you’re stressing about won’t even happen. Breathe.

❌ Fear
Feel the fear—and do it anyway. Growth lives just outside your comfort zone.

❌ Negativity
Protect your peace. Not everything deserves your energy.

❌ Skepticism (of yourself)
Trust your instincts. You do know what you’re doing.

🧹 Clear the mental clutter so you can make room for confidence, joy, and freedom.

🔥 If you struggle with overcoming perfectionism, comment below "I am ready," and I’ll send you the link to my free email course on 6 steps to Overcoming Perfectionism. Yes, it walks you through how to overcome it once and for all.⁠
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26/05/2025

🌟 9 Ways to Overcome Perfectionism 🌟
Let this be your permission slip to let go of flawless and embrace real 💛

Make mistakes—on purpose if you have to.
Mistakes aren’t failures. They’re proof you’re learning, growing, and trying.

Show up as your imperfect, authentic self.
Perfection isn’t relatable. Authenticity is. And it’s magnetic.

Practice self-compassion.
Be as kind to yourself as you would to a friend. You don’t need to earn your worth.

Accept yourself as you are—right now.
You are not a “work in progress.” You are already whole.

Make rest a priority.
Rest is not a reward. It’s a requirement. Perfectionism feeds on burnout—don’t give it the fuel.

Celebrate progress, not perfection.
Small wins deserve big recognition. Every step counts.

Set realistic expectations.
You’re human, not a machine. Done is often better than perfect.

Let go of people-pleasing.
You don’t have to be everything to everyone. Just be you.

Reframe “failure” as feedback.
Failure isn’t the opposite of success—it’s a part of it.

✨ Progress over perfection. Always.
💬 Which one of these speaks to you today?

31/03/2025

🌟 New week, new mindset 🌟

As we dive into this fresh week, let’s shift our focus away from the pressure of perfectionism. It's easy to get caught up in the idea that our worth is tied to our achievements, the goals we check off, and how much we can do. But here's the truth: perfectionism often stems from a place of low self-worth, where we believe that unless everything is flawless, we aren't enough.

This week, let's affirm to ourselves: No matter what gets done and what is left undone, I am enough. 💫

It’s not about achieving perfection or meeting every single goal. It’s about showing up, taking chances, and allowing ourselves to grow. We are worthy, not because of what we accomplish, but because of who we are. 🌱

Here’s to embracing the imperfect, trusting the process, and finding peace in just being. ✨

29/03/2025

What do you need to hear today?

In the midst of your busy work and social life, when you pause and check in with yourself, what are you often thinking about?

Perfectionists only think about things that aren't done yet and how things are messy, whether that's work, personal life, physical health, or relationships. Our minds ruminate on all the imperfections and flaws or catastrophizing all the ways things can go wrong.

🛑So stop what you are doing! Take a moment to pause and give yourself a little love 💓 because you deserve to show yourself the same love and compassion you give to others so freely 💫

28/03/2025

🤍How old were you when you learned perfectionism?
💙What was happening in your home, environment, or life that expected you to be perfect?
💛What would happen when you were perfect? What would not happen when you made mistakes?

💭These are all heavy questions to explore, so each of us has to take our time to reflect on them and revisit them as often as we need to. This is not a one-time task, believe me! Because your answers will change and evolve as you get to know yourself better, as you get to be more forgiving of the things that happened, and as you get to embrace more mistakes.

Ultimately, the healing comes from re-connecting with all the parts of ourselves: the little one who wanted to make parents proud, the teen who wanted to fit in at school, the one in her 20s who found self-worth in the wrong relationships, in your 30s when you think you are how well you do things.

Here is one of my favorite quotes: "I hope when you come home to yourself, there are flowers lining the front porch that were left from all the women you were before." 💐

27/03/2025

🌱 Self-compassion for Perfectionists 🌱

As perfectionists, we can be our own harshest critics. We set impossible standards for ourselves and often feel like we fall short. But self-compassion is not about letting ourselves off the hook—it's about treating ourselves with the kindness and care we deserve, even when we’re struggling. 💛

Here are five ways you can practice self-compassion today:

Forgive Your Past Mistakes: Growth comes from learning, not from being stuck in regret. Let go of past slip-ups and embrace the lessons.

Speak to Yourself Kindly: Would you say the things you say to yourself to a friend? Shift the narrative and speak with love and understanding.

Ask for What You Need: Your needs matter, and asking for help doesn’t make you weak—it makes you human.

Make Time to Rest: You deserve it. Rest isn’t laziness—it’s essential for your well-being and productivity.

Make Value-Based Decisions: Choose what aligns with your values, not perfection. You don’t need to do it all; just do what feels right for you.

Remember, self-compassion is a vital tool for growth, not a sign of weakness. Embrace it. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough. 💛

25/03/2025

🌿 Things to Delete from Your Life 🌿

As perfectionists, we carry so much weight—unrealistic standards, constant striving, and the need to be everything to everyone. But here's the thing: true peace and happiness come when we let go of the things that hold us back. Here’s a reminder of what you can delete from your life to make space for more self-love, freedom, and joy:

1️⃣ Perfectionism
Perfectionism doesn’t make you better, it just makes you exhausted. ❌ Let go of the need to be perfect in everything you do. Embrace progress, not perfection. You are enough just as you are.

2️⃣ People-Pleasing
You don’t have to say "yes" to everyone. ❌ Stop sacrificing your peace for others’ approval. It’s okay to set boundaries and put yourself first. Your worth is not defined by how much you give to others.

3️⃣ Overdoing It
Doing more doesn’t equal being more. ❌ Stop overcommitting and overdelivering to prove your value. Learn to say no and rest—your worth is inherent, not based on your productivity.

4️⃣ Fear of Mistakes
Mistakes are not failures—they’re lessons. ❌ Stop fearing them! Release the pressure to always get it right and embrace the idea that mistakes are part of growth. Every step, even the missteps, is a step forward.

5️⃣ Having Unrealistically High Expectations
Setting high expectations can feel motivating, but they often set us up for disappointment. ❌ Let go of the idea that everything has to be extraordinary. Set realistic goals, and give yourself grace when things don’t go perfectly.

✨ Why is it hard to delete these things?
Perfectionism feeds on insecurity. We think that if we aren’t perfect, we won’t be loved or accepted. But in reality, it’s in our imperfections where true connection and growth lie. When we delete these old habits, we create space for self-acceptance and peace.

It’s time to let go of the things that no longer serve you and create a life that’s free from the pressure to be perfect. 💫

24/03/2025

💫Breaking Free From Perfectionism:

1️⃣ Embrace imperfection: Take action even if things aren’t perfect. Perfectionism is an illusion, and progress happens when you step outside your comfort zone.

2️⃣ Recognize your worth: You’re not an imposter. You’ve earned your place, and you’re constantly evolving.

3️⃣ Accept mistakes as part of the journey: Mistakes aren’t failures—they’re stepping stones toward success.

4️⃣ Let go of self-criticism: Be kind to yourself. You’re learning, growing, and doing your best—and that’s enough.

At the end of the day, the biggest hurdle is often not the challenges in front of us, but the doubts and fears inside of us. When we learn to quiet those inner critics, we give ourselves the space to thrive.

So, next time you feel like you're standing in your own way, remember that you have the power to move past perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and the fear of mistakes. The only thing holding you back... is you.

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22/03/2025

🌸 Self-Love Habits for Perfectionists 🌸

As perfectionists, we often put the highest standards on ourselves, thinking we need to be flawless to be worthy of love. But here's the truth: self-love isn’t about being perfect—it’s about embracing ourselves, flaws and all. 💖 Here are some key habits to practice self-love, even when perfectionism tries to hold you back:

1️⃣ Letting Go of Control
Perfectionists love to control every detail, but true peace comes when we surrender. 🌱 Let go of the need to control everything and trust that life will unfold as it should. You don’t have to have everything figured out!

2️⃣ Setting Boundaries
Saying no is a form of self-respect. 🚧 Learn to set boundaries and prioritize your own needs. It’s okay to put yourself first!

3️⃣ Mindful Meditation
Quiet your mind with daily meditation. 🧘‍♀️ This practice helps us step back from our endless striving and connect with the present moment, free from judgment.

4️⃣ Forgiving the Past
The past doesn’t define you. Let go of guilt and regrets, and forgive yourself for mistakes. 🕊️ Release that heavy burden—it’s time to move forward with love and compassion.

5️⃣ Embracing Mistakes
Perfectionists fear mistakes, but they’re part of the growth process. 🌟 Embrace them as learning opportunities, not failures. Growth comes from the messiness of life!

6️⃣ Gratitude Journaling
Gratitude shifts your focus from what’s not perfect to what is. ✨ Take time each day to jot down what you're thankful for—it helps reframe your mindset and cultivate positivity.

7️⃣ Daily Affirmations
Start each day with words of kindness to yourself. 💫 "I am enough," "I am worthy," "I am doing my best." Let these affirmations sink in and remind you that self-love isn’t about perfection—it’s about acceptance.

💭 Why is self-love hard for perfectionists?
It’s because perfectionism creates a constant sense of inadequacy. We’re always striving for an impossible standard, believing we’re only worthy if we’re perfect. But here’s the truth: you are worthy right now, just as you are. 💖

Start practicing these habits today and give yourself permission to be perfectly imperfect. 🌿

21/03/2025

We all have dreams, goals, and ambitions, but sometimes, it feels like something's holding us back. The truth is, the biggest obstacle often isn’t external—it’s internal. It’s the quiet, invisible forces inside of us that trip us up when we least expect it.

1. Perfectionism: The Thief of Progress

Perfectionism can be a subtle saboteur. It convinces us that if things aren’t perfect, they aren’t worth doing at all. But here's the thing: perfection doesn’t exist in the real world. Waiting for the "perfect moment" or the "perfect outcome" only delays us from taking action and making progress. We end up stuck in the cycle of never starting because we’re afraid it won’t be flawless. The truth? Progress, not perfection, is what leads to growth.

2. Imposter Syndrome: The Voice That Doubts Your Worth

Imposter syndrome is that nagging feeling that you don’t belong, that you’re not "qualified enough," or that you're just "faking it." Despite your successes or hard work, you feel like you're one step away from being "found out." It’s an emotional trap. The key is not letting that voice control your actions. Trust in your abilities and embrace that you're learning and growing every day.

3. Fear of Making Mistakes: The Paralyzing Force

We’re taught from a young age to avoid mistakes at all costs, and that fear often follows us into adulthood. The fear of making mistakes holds us back from trying new things, taking risks, and pushing our boundaries.

4. All of the Above: The Perfect Storm of Self-Sabotage

When perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and the fear of making mistakes combine, they create a storm of self-sabotage. We become paralyzed, caught in a cycle of overthinking, hesitation, and self-doubt.

20/03/2025

Perfectionism often tells us that our worth is tied to how well we do things, that we must get it all done, and that mistakes are unacceptable. But what if those thoughts aren’t truths—they're just stories we've learned to believe?

🧠✨ We’ve been conditioned to think that we are only valuable when we perform flawlessly, but in reality, growth happens when we embrace imperfection.

🌱 Take a moment to ask yourself:
Where did these messages come from?
Were they passed down from others, or created by your own inner critic? And how are they truly serving you? 🤔
Are they helping you grow, or are they holding you back from living fully?

It’s time to unlearn the false beliefs and embrace the beauty of progress over perfection. You are enough as you are. 💫

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16/03/2025

🌟 Things don’t have to be perfect for them to have value. 🌟

Sometimes, we get caught up in the idea that everything needs to be flawless to be meaningful or worthy of our time. But in reality, it’s the imperfections, the little quirks, and the unfinished pieces that hold the most beauty. ✨

Whether it's a project you're working on, a relationship you're nurturing, or even your own personal journey — remember, the value lies in the effort, the progress, and the moments of growth. Keep going, embrace the flaws, and trust that you’re exactly where you need to be. 💫

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