19/11/2019
Suicides and Homicides in the homes of the rich and famous always seem to intrigue us. How could a person who has, seemingly, everything be that unhappy?
As human beings, we are constantly trying to figure out if, indeed, you can tell a book by its cover. Are pretty people really better? Can money buy happiness?
When families shop for nursing facilities, this question about appearances takes on great weight. Does the fancy foyer with the six-foot palm plants mean mom or dad will get terrific attention and care? What about the lovely wallpaper? Does that mean patients don’t get sad and blue?
Certainly, pleasant surroundings do influence how human beings feel. Just ask anyone who has spent time in prison. The environment does make a difference. But how much?
I remember talking with the staff of a truly old building, a nursing facility that, in its prime, had been a striking Victorian mansion. Today it was like a run-down old bag lady: in need of money and care.
“When families come to check us out, they always talk about how old our linoleum looks and the dark, narrow hallways,” the staff lamented. “They talk about how the other home in town is so bright and cherry.”
Hearing this frustration I felt like the mother whose daughter says she wants to have a nice bike like the rich girl next door. : It isn’t fair,: she agreed. “I wish I could change things.”
If you are working in a facility that is no showboat, remind each other that looks are only a small part of the story. More important than the set and the props are the actors and their lines. When caregivers are stars, no amount of expensive interior decoration can compare.
Today: Let your light shine.