25/06/2025
My oldest taught me this lesson.
It's okay to sit and relax, both your mind and your body. Many times we feel like we aren't being "productive" if we aren't up and "doing something" constantly. Sitting with your baby because they want you IS productive. It is producing a child that can trust they are safe with you, that can better regulate themselves as they grow, that can later build healthy connected relationships in the future.
All the things you think you need to do instead... They will still be there, over and over again. The laundry, dishes, cleaning... It will wait... It's not going anywhere, but that baby... It will be grown up in the blink of an eye!
Yes, I also understand the flip side of this. The anxiety, the touched out, the pressure inside your chest that screams silently "can't I just have one minute alone?!" The baby that MUST be with you and no one else, not Dad or Auntie (by blood or by heart), or Grandma, just Mom. It's okay, a good partner, sister and mother will understand! They will help make sure your needs are met, the housework will get done, and the errands will get run.
If you are struggling at this moment, or don't have a good support system, please reach out and we can be your village! My motto is simple, when Mom is taken care of, she will be the best at taking care of Baby!