Spears Retreat Counseling Center

08/17/2025

Talk to the people you are concerned about. They may need a listening ear and to know you care!

I know that talking about su***de can make some people uncomfortable but the more we can talk about it we can spread awareness in hopes of su***de prevention and keeping mental health awareness high in the medical field so more research is done to understand mental health. NG🐬

08/11/2025

What if your child woke up in a home where no one yelled?

Where respect and calm conversations were the norm.

Where the tension doesn’t live in the air, and the bedtime kisses come after real connection—not silent discomfort.

It might just be you and your child in that quiet space. That’s okay. What matters most is that home feels safe.

This kind of home shapes a child’s future. They’ll learn how to love and be loved the way they experienced it at home. When we fill our space with peace, kindness, and firm boundaries, we begin shaping their inner world.

Surround yourself with people who treat you with respect, who don’t drag in drama or demand perfection. Choose relationships that let you breathe easier and support the person you’re becoming. When your inner life rests in peace, it becomes easier to hold the calm you want in the chaos kids bring.

Remember: the way we live, who we allow into our lives, the boundaries we set, the self-respect we model—all of it becomes the blueprint our children follow.

If you're ready to build that kind of home—the kind your child feels safe to grow in, come join me on Tuesday, August 12, for a free, live parent coaching session.

You’ll get:

✅ Live coaching (real parents, real struggles, real solutions)
✅ Practical answers to your parenting questions
✅ Step-by-step tools to lead your child with calm confidence

Let’s shift things together. Save your seat now. It’s totally free—but spots are limited.

https://go.thepeacefulparentacademy.com/coaching-session

08/05/2025

Truly a best over the years

Addiction & Recovery Books. Another shout out for 'The Language of Letting Go' by Melody Beattie.
"I was sitting in a meeting, knees bouncing, resisting the urge to check my phone for the fifth time—Did he text? Did he need me?—when an older woman with kind eyes and a no-nonsense ponytail slid a worn blue book across the table.

The Language of Letting Go was embossed in gold, its edges softened by years of use. “Start with today’s date,” she whispered ".

I opened at August 15th and read: “Today, I will focus on solving my own problems—and only my own.”

My chest tightened. I’d spent my life convinced that fixing others was my calling. By the time I finished the book, I realised: letting go isn’t loss—it’s liberation.

1. Codependency Isn’t Love—It’s Control in Disguise
Beattie’s razor-sharp truth: “We call it ‘helping,’ but it’s really about managing—their moods, their choices, their outcomes.” I thought of all the times I’d:
- Edited my ex’s resume (“He’ll never do it right!”)
- Made excuses for my alcoholic friend (“She’s just stressed!”)
- Played therapist to emotionally unavailable partners
The wake-up call? “Love doesn’t require martyrdom. Healthy relationships don’t demand management.”

2. Detachment & Indifference
The August 20th meditation rewired my brain: “Detachment means caring deeply—but from a place of choice, not obligation.” Now, when my sister spirals, I say: “I love you, and I trust you to handle this.” Then I walk away. The miracle? She started handling things—because I stopped.

3. Your Feelings Are Not Emergencies
The September 3rd entry floored me: “We codependents treat every emotion like a five-alarm fire.” I’d spent years:
- Panicking when someone was upset (“I must fix it!”)
- Ruminating on texts (“What did they really mean?”)
- Chasing “closure” like it was oxygen
Beattie’s lifeline? “Not every feeling needs action. Some just need to be.” Now I pause. Breathe. Ask: “Is this mine to carry?”

4. Boundaries Are Love Letters to Yourself
The October 10th meditation became my mantra: “’No’ is a complete sentence.” I practiced:
- “I can’t lend money, but I’ll pray for you.”
- “I won’t discuss my weight.”
- “I’m hanging up if you yell.”
The shock? People adjusted. The ones who didn’t? They weren’t my people.

5. Letting Go is a Muscle (Not a One-Time Event)
Beattie’s December 31st wisdom: “Recovery isn’t a straight line—it’s a daily return to choice.” Some days I backslide (old habits die hard). But now I have tools:
- Journaling: “Whose business am I in today?”
- Meditation: Visualising my hands releasing versus clutching
- Community: Calling a fellow recoverer instead of “fixing” someone

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