Mark Webb, The Marriage Specialist

01/09/2026

MARRIAGE MYTH: "We just aren't compatible anymore." ❌

I hear this constantly from struggling couples:

"We've grown apart."
"We want different things."
"We're just not compatible."

Here's what I've learned after years of marriage counseling:

COMPATIBILITY ISN'T DISCOVERED. IT'S CREATED.

You don't find the perfect person and live happily ever after.
You choose an imperfect person and build a life together.

The couples who stay "compatible" are the ones who:

✅ Adapt as each person grows and changes
✅ Communicate about evolving needs and desires
✅ Make compromises and adjustments
✅ Choose each other repeatedly
✅ Work through differences instead of running from them

Incompatibility is often just:
• Poor communication
• Unmet expectations
• Lack of effort
• Growing in different directions because you stopped growing TOGETHER

The good news?

You can rebuild compatibility.
You can reconnect.
You can create a new chapter together.

But only if you're both willing to do the work.

"We're not compatible" is often code for "This is hard and I don't know if I want to try."

And that's okay to admit.

But don't confuse temporary distance with permanent incompatibility.

Have you ever felt "incompatible" with your spouse? What helped you reconnect?

Share your wisdom below! 👇

01/06/2026

Check out our new guide to transforming your relationship with a few daily habits at https://themarriagespecialist.com/daily-habits-to-transform-your-relationship/

Strong relationships aren’t built overnight, but nurtured. With small, consistent actions, you can create trust, intimacy, and joy. You don’t need grand

01/06/2026

Every couple faces challenges. The difference between drifting apart and growing stronger is how you navigate them. 🌱

Learn strategies that actually work: https://themarriagespecialist.com/

01/02/2026

NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTION: MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE A PRIORITY 🎯

Every January, people set goals for:
• Fitness
• Career advancement
• Financial improvement
• Personal growth

But how many set goals for their MARRIAGE?

Your marriage is the foundation for everything else in your life.

When your marriage is strong:
✅ You're happier
✅ You're healthier
✅ You're more productive
✅ You're a better parent
✅ You're more fulfilled

When your marriage is struggling:
❌ Everything else suffers

This year, make your marriage a priority with these practical goals:

1️⃣ **Weekly Date Nights** - Non-negotiable time together
2️⃣ **Daily Check-Ins** - 15 minutes of undistracted conversation
3️⃣ **Monthly Marriage Meetings** - Discuss goals, concerns, dreams
4️⃣ **Quarterly Getaways** - Reconnect away from daily stress
5️⃣ **Read One Marriage Book Together** - Keep learning and growing
6️⃣ **Attend Marriage Counseling** - Invest in professional guidance

You wouldn't expect your body to stay healthy without exercise.
You wouldn't expect your career to grow without effort.

Why would you expect your marriage to thrive without intentional investment?

Make 2026 the year your marriage gets the attention it deserves.

Which marriage goal resonates most with you? Comment the number! 👇

Need help getting started? We're here for you.

12/22/2025

Your spouse should want to be in a relationship with you, NOT the version of you that has nothing outside of the relationship! 💖 Make sure you take the time to grow your individual identity!

Want some help? Check out the support and resources at https://themarriagespecialist.com/

12/20/2025

Have you become less of an individual after marriage? We can help you keep your individuality while still being devoted to your family. Learn more at https://themarriagespecialist.com/

12/17/2025

THE BEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE YOUR SPOUSE THIS YEAR 🎁

It's not jewelry.
It's not a new gadget.
It's not an expensive vacation.

It's the gift of ATTENTION.

In a world of constant distraction, the most precious thing you can give your spouse is your undivided presence.

This holiday season, give:

💝 20 minutes of conversation without phones
💝 A date night with no distractions
💝 Eye contact during conversations
💝 Active listening when they share their day
💝 Presence, not just proximity

Because here's the truth:

Your spouse doesn't need more things.
They need more of YOU.

Not the distracted, half-present, multitasking version of you.
The fully engaged, attentive, "you have my complete focus" version of you.

That's the gift that matters.
That's the gift that strengthens marriages.
That's the gift that says "You're worth my time."

What's one way you can give your spouse the gift of attention this week?

Share below! 👇

12/15/2025

Do you have any hobbies that you do without your spouse to maintain your individuality? Knitting 🧶, golf ⛳, reading📖? Comment to inspire others.

12/13/2025

So many people lose themselves in their relationships, becoming just half of a couple and not an individual person. 🫶 Remember to continue improving your own life and your relationship with yourself, not just your relationship with your partner.

12/12/2025

THE #1 COMMUNICATION PATTERN THAT DESTROYS MARRIAGES 🗣️

It's not yelling.
It's not arguing.
It's not even criticism.

It's CONTEMPT.

Contempt looks like:
• Eye rolling
• Mocking your spouse
• Name calling
• Sarcasm meant to hurt
• Treating your spouse with disgust
• Acting superior
• Belittling their feelings or ideas

Why is contempt so destructive?

Because it communicates: "You are beneath me. You are not worthy of respect."

And once contempt enters a marriage, it's incredibly hard to recover.

The antidote to contempt?

FONDNESS AND ADMIRATION.

Intentionally look for things you appreciate about your spouse.
Express gratitude regularly.
Remember why you fell in love.
Speak respectfully, even when angry.
Build a culture of honor in your home.

Your marriage will only be as strong as the respect you show each other.

Choose respect. Choose honor. Choose love.

Even when it's hard. Especially when it's hard.

Tag your spouse if they deserve appreciation today! 💙

12/09/2025

Money is something everyone is concerned about, and it is a major stressor in so many relationships. While knowing how to handle money is important to relationships, it's also essential to know how to TALK about money

Check out our new guide to talking about finances with your partner without fighting: https://themarriagespecialist.com/talking-about-finances-without-fighting/

12/08/2025

Relationships can take a lot out of you, and make you feel like your real self is being buried. 💪 Check out the resources on https://themarriagespecialist.com/ so you can be yourself AND strengthen your relationship