Pacific NW Relational Therapy PLLC

23/11/2024

Trees have a huge, complex, and intelligent network system; what is felt in another part of the world, is felt in ours.

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To believe catastrophe is apart from us is to deny our inherent interconnectedness.

If you’ve felt particularly heavy lately, you’re likely feeling the collective 🤍

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04/11/2024

As we rush towards an uncertain future, mindfulness becomes more important than ever. Read more-

31/10/2024

This is actually pretty impressive…I just don’t.

17/10/2024

One of the defining features of traumatic events is the loss of choice over what happened to you. They can leave you feeling trapped, helpless, or powerless.

When we do not feel as though we have choices, we can begin to feel trapped, our nervous system perceives a threat.

Therefore, recovery from trauma involves realizing that you do have choices available to you now. (And hopefully that is true).

Take some time to reflect on the small choices available to you today that make a positive difference in how you feel. Choices to engage or disengage from the news or choices to rest and/or move your body, choices about how your feed yourself, choices about how you talk to yourself with self-compassion, choices about how you treat others with kindness, choices to pause rather than react with anger…these decisions add up and help you come out of survival and to feel more empowered so that you can be the creator of your life…one choice at a time.

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16/03/2024

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17/02/2024

Setting boundaries can be tricky for people pleasers. It can feel scary, mean, or inaccessible.

Pleasers tend to focus on the needs of others often forgetting about their own needs entirely in order to reduce tension in a relationship. If the stress or anxiety gets big enough in a marriage, family, friend group, or at work, we will adjust our inner selves to keep the peace or harmony.

Being a people-pleaser may be more than a personality trait…if could also be a response to trauma. The fawn response is a specific coping mechanism in which we develop people-pleasing behaviors in order to avoid conflict, appease an abuser, and to create feelings of safety.

Whatever the root of our people pleasing behaviors, we need to remember this-

I can do this, but should I?

This question can be extremely helpful to post on your wall, paint on your mirror, or say it as an affirmation on a daily basis. Because sometimes we should not being doing whatever the “it” is.

If you’d like to explore the roots of people pleasing behaviors and want to work with me, click on the link in bio to schedule a consult or DM.

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14/02/2024

Comment below on what you plan to do today to show yourself some love. I am doing a Somatic EMDR training today. But first, I showed my body some love by exercising. And later, I plan to go on a hike to connect with nature and ground myself. I also plan on spending time with the people that I love and bring me joy and comfort. I’ll also sprinkle in my own positive affirmation practice.

What we say to ourselves matters. It’s much like learning a new language - practice and immersion help to learn and integrate. So, immerse yourself in self loving affirmations. Say them today, say them tomorrow, say them as often as you can. Change will happen.

31/01/2024

Ever felt like you end up in a relationship with the same person over and over again? It’s likely you don’t notice the similarities until it’s “too late.” Not being able to spot these can lead to further pain, or .

In my work as a I focus on guiding clients to be able to recognize these red flags on their own, increasing and understanding using a -affirming and approach. Interested in me being your ? Find out more with a free consult (link in bio).

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29/01/2024

“Living in your head without anything to numb you.” Living with trauma can feel completely overwhelming. Many times, this leads to an activated . Traumatic events push the nervous system outside its ability to regulate itself. Here are some signs of a nervous system:

If stuck in the “on” position-
Feeling , an inability to calm, restlessness, feeling of , and

If stuck in the “off” position:

, , fatigue, and lethargy.

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